Telling other people

I want my KH to tell every one but she is a very private person, she wont even wear the chastity key around her neck, she does not want to answer their questions. I know she has told some very close friends. It is a small town so every one knows every ones business. I understand but I want to scream it from the tree tops.

 

Great book instrumental in my wife getting fully engaged in our Chastity journey

 

No I don't need to be ridiculed by people who don't understand my lifestyle

 

What I/we do in private is just that private. But sharing with liked minded friends is thrilling. A few know that Tanya is locked in Chastity most every time she's out an about. Of course they also know that I crossdress.

 

Looks like spankings are allowed in this forum.... but only it you take off your panties ;-)

 

Yes,

On the first occasion I told a pair of "dancers" at a club in Norwich who completely ignored what I was saying and tried to get their hands into my trousers.

Second occasion was a pair of students again in the city of Norwich. Met them in a pub and they asked if I minded if they sit with me. They started playing drinking games i.e. truth or dare and dragged me into the game. They didn't believe me nor could understand what I was talking about - probably because they were a bit tipsy, young and inexperienced.

Nothing to report back to Lady C about. We've talked about this before and as long as she is not named, then she's happy she can remain anonymous.

A

 

It strange how things progress. When I was new to this I would be terrified of people finding out.

I don’t think my wife would tell anyone…. She will happily order me around in front of people. If I asked her to do something or help me when we have people over she’ll say things like “that’s not how this relationship works”. Obviously we know what we’re talking about, but no one else really asks.

If anyone asked for whatever reason I’d be honest (if I considered them someone appropriate to tell, I wouldn’t tell my Gran or anything) If they don’t like it that’s their problem. That sounds like a very strange thing for someone to ask, but as I have a chastity related tattoo on my arm it’s not entirely unlikely to come up.
I have conversations about riding crops and red rooms with my friends, so why not cages and FLRs?

 

Tattoo!? What tattoo? Are you going to share that with us?

 

It was in my journal, not a picture but I mentioned it. I actually sat and wrote a post whilst getting a tattoo.
Maybe I’ll share it when it’s complete. It still needs a few more bits adding to it (dopamine and oxytocin symbols) and then shading to finish it off.

 

I missed your mention of it in your journal. I'm not sure how since your posts are always so short!

 

I was thinking that. I should probably add some more detail to my next one…

 

My wife told our close friend who is also a banker and showed her a photo of the cage only. She told my wife she is happy to keep the key in the vault.

 

The other day I had the pleasure of showing my Lori's cage the the lady piercer that poked me 14 years ago giving me my PA. She was delighted to see it. In fact she asked me if it was OK with me if she brought the other piercer "male" to show him. Why not the more the better. He approved too. Buy the way, I was dressed as Tanya and had both my ear lobes pierced that day.

 

Many of my close friends, probably bordering on 25-30 people know I wear a full chastity belt, most have seen it at sex/ play parties.

 

At my Queens suggestion, I did tell a female friend of ours. She and I worked together many years ago and were, and still are, very close to one another. We know we can trust her keep a secret. On the other hand we a friends with a couple we wouldn’t mind sharing the news with, but are afraid he would freak out. Then there are some others we joke about telling just to see their reactions.

 

My Wife/KH has told (in order of occurrence): a close mutual female friend, who was delighted for her; the lady in the jewellry shop who sold us the chain she hangs the key around her neck with, who was amused and gave a great laugh ; her best friend whom she's known since schooldays, who was also happy for her; her closest long term friend in the region we now live in and she also was happy for her.

This last disclosure made me somewhat uncomfortable as she has a husband and we're likely to meet socially. I'm uncomfortable with males knowing, I guess because I feel like I may be perceived as "less manly" by them. After some consideration I told my Wife that it was entirely up to her who she wanted to tell about ourt dynamic.

I've told and discussed in some detail with our mutual female friend and two female ex work colleagues. All of these ladies have been fascinated about our dynamic and happy for both of us. In turn they have shared deep secrets of trauma from their past. I like to think that not only does our D/s relationship empower my Wife, it's helped these friends feel empowered enough to offload some of their burdens.

My Wife is probably even more private than I am so it's unlikely to go much further, but she hasn't ruled out telling strangers the truth about the key that nestles in her cleavage to people we're unlikely to meet again, if she feels that she won't upset them. She has also just retired from her career of over 20 years but will be going back for a few months next year to work on contract. She's told me that if the oppotunities arise she will tell some of her female colleagues before she leaves. I'm really happy that She feels that our D/s dynamic now gives her a form of "boasting rights".

 

No one else knows.

I sometimes fantasise about her telling her best friend. I'm not surfe why.

I sometimes think the two of us going to a dominatrix for advice on what we are doing, to help ensure we are doing it "right" or to get advice on ways for me to cope with being so damn horny might be a good idea.

 

Sometimes I wish she would tell people, but the thing is that we really don't have any friends that are into this lifestyle and telling them would probably upset the whole friend dynamic. I keep wondering what would happen if a stranger started asking about the key when we are at a bar but so far that hasn't happened.

 

Exactly the same here.

 

Only my next door neighbour knows

 

That sounds a little odd! Is your neighbor a good friend that you confided in? Or did you get caught and exposed accidentally? Or did your partner spill the beans?

 

So If we were neighbors you think it would be awkward? But we have so much in common!

 

But I know you! And that would be awesome!

 

She is a good friend and it came up when discussing kink

 

I have told no one. My Wife (KH) has four sisters and they are all very close. My Wife told me she has told two of them, but has never told me which two. So when they visit I don't have a clue who knows and who doesn't. Maybe they all know by now. My Wife also has a very close female friend and she saw the key my Wife wears around her neck and asked what the key was for. The friend looked me straight in the eyes and gave me a wink and licked her lips. I have no idea what that meant and if she knew what the key was for. She has never mentioned anything to me, but my Wife did say the her friend did kind of figure out what the key was for...