What drew you to the chastity lifestyle

One thing leads to another...

Met a kinky (submissive) girl who liked to wear a collar and leash...
Then I stumbled upon a penis leash in a novelty shop.

Have always enjoyed being teased and denied.
Chastity was just the next level of play...

Highly addictive fun, that's for sure!

 

Stumbled upon a video of Asa Akira pegging some guy years ago and it all snowballed from there. Bought cages and toys. After putting the cage on for the first time I just couldn't get over how it felt. Was just amazing.

 

Ours was borne out of the fear (best word I can think of)…maybe temptation, of infidelity. I decided to lock myself up and give that commitment to her to 1. Ensure my urges would stay in check. 2. Not masturbate without her permission, 3. Give her the gift of control over our sex lives.

That was about 10 years ago… while we haven’t maintained chastity full time during that time, it drew us closer, helped us learn more about one another’s needs/desires, and frankly made me a better man - which all of this works to do in our relationship. Additionally our communications improved early on and have never been better than they are today.

The last two years or so we’ve kicked things up more and I’m pretty much locked 24/7 (PA pierced etc), and SHE decides if/when it comes out to play. Our dynamic has deepened and while she still teases the hell out of me and frustrates men(in a good way), I’m grateful for what we have today and it works for us and we feel we’re in this as a lifestyle now rather than just “playing” and I almost feel naked without my cage on these days.

 

A delicious dynamic...

 

For me it was a reverse process
Started with cuckolding which lead to cage myself to enjoy more the show and then the dressing and all

 

My wife has always been controlling when it came to our sex life. Her way or the highway. I fought like hell for year to try and gain at least 50 percent control. Never really happened.

One day it dawned on me. Give up and except your place. A penis cage was the perfect tool to get my mind in the right place. Crazy thing is, now I have to push my wife to except the dominant role that she has been doing for 20 years now.

 

Chanced across it watching porn, turned me on like nothing before. Spent years wanking off to it as a fantasy until I asked my husband to lock my cock up for real. No wanking for me anymore.

 

Started with it to learn self control, first to lose weight then to stop masturbating but also to implement a tease and denial lifestyle so I would love my wife sacrificially. It wor!ked

 

We've always enjoyed pleasure delay, and when we started down the path of Tantra/Karezza/Taoism ejaculations were rare and then outlawed.

I confessed I wanted her to take control over my dick as I lacked self control, I wrote a big document for her, which she devoured and agreed. She then went off and did her own research and is now committed.

Careful what you wish for, chaps.

 

Madam and I have always been in a bdsm/flr relationship, one day Madam saw a male sub in chastity in a femdom video and decided I should be locked!

 

Really interesting how it happened that way.

Been there!

It's quite a path - I hope it never ends.

 

Back before ball trap cages where common saw pics of men locked in full belts. I made my belt as I was way to poor to buy one at that time. I enjoyed giving up the control to my ex. After we divorced chastity was not the radar. It took several tries with my Queen for it to take. Now while I love being belted, I wonder what hardons and piv feel like…. As I have said I did not think my Queen would take it this far!!!

 

I stumbled upon the orgasm denial website, then became fascinated with the concept. Started with a CB3000, then 6000 then jailbird, looker2, wore the full belt in my avatar at times, but it lacks the quality of steelworx, my final resting place is the Steelheart 2.

My ex wife dabbled in keyholding, my current partner and I met based on a chastity lifestyle on collarme (before it was collarspace), we have had some breaks, but I think we are done with breaks now. I calculate that I am locked 95.6 percent of the hours that I breath as I am usually left unlocked over night after sex.

 

Wow! You really got me to thinking. We started chastity together in March. I'm locked 24x7 now. Counting being unlocked for cleaning and 2 planned playtime releases, I've been locked 99.85% of the time in the last 10 weeks. I'm not trying to brag, but calculating that number and seeing that in print makes me realize how far we have come (and not cum)!

 

For me, it was a combination of factors that led me to chastity...

• I would jerk off/cum daily often time multiple times a day… the allure, lust, and meaning of jerking off started to become a chore… So, when I started to get interested in chastity, the inverse energy was unique, weird, fascinating… you’re telling me I can’t indulge in the aspect of jerking off/cumming… something as constant as drinking water for me… it didn’t make sense… but that’s the reason why I was getting curious… and as you all know… curiosity killed the cat… but instead of dying… curiosity caged my clitty cat… Ultimately as I got into chastity more and more – It started to give more meaning to jerking off/cumming i.e. Quality over Quantity.

• I also consider chastity the ultimate form of bondage and submission which symbolizes a deeper feeling of obedience and vulnerability - I have had a very long/deep interest in bondage and femdom since a pre teen...

• Another aspect that I developed a bit later getting into chastity is how I could be of service/benefit if I were to ever get lucky in life to hook up with a girl…. I have very low self-confidence/self-worth… and even more pathetic with anything involved with the girls in general (I mean my first kiss was at age 29…) so it redirected my focus on other aspects of service to focus more on women’s pleasure rather than my own. It made me understand the characteristics in which I might be somewhat adequate such as foreplay and things of that nature… which again… very limited experience…

• Lastly... I love being in a constant state of horiness/arousal… I’m starting to recognize that normally cumming now has become rudimentary/fleeting… but being trapped in lust has become infinite/imaginative… almost as if the anticipation is better than realization (another post topic…)

 

my natural kink

 

For me it was a desire to feel controlled. Miss A had no experience of being dominant in a relationship, but she went along with the idea. She says that from the first time she had me locked, she got a real buzz from the sense of being in control. After that it was Miss A who lead the way.

 

Either your math needs some work or your sentence does. If you are unlocked over night, I assume you are also "breathing" during those 8 hours, so that would account for approximately 1/3 of the 24 day.