Oh no! Not another question from this guy?! Yes, the polling is relentless! Today’s query: Summing up the recent frustrations i have read… What is the biggest frustration you have with Chastity? Disclaimer: stay at home. Protect the NHS. Save lives. staying at home may or may not protect the NHS.
While this month I’d choose missing my erection, I know that won’t be much of an issue in a couple weeks. I can’t see my wife denying herself something she enjoys long term. Orgasms however? The way she’s been going I think I’ll be missing them most as they’ll be the thing I’m going to experience the least.
The longer chastity plays a part in my life, the more I miss having a full erection. When I’m unlocked (which is restricted to around 1-2 hours a week if I’m lucky) the best relief is just allowing myself that full stretch! I find myself yearning just to be let out and free. The denial of an orgasm i find quite a turn on… when she tells me to re-cage when I’m still not flaccid. It’s like “aww” inside. I don’t want to do that to him!
I chose "You miss your erections". I am locked 24/7 in permanent chastity, no erections or orgasms permitted. But of the two, I miss the erections more than the orgasms.
I chose "Other".. It's a mixed blessing I guess, and a frustration. Craving an orgasm, but loving the denial and teasing and build up of energy. Inevitably an orgasm comes, by her decision, and the anticipation journey was great, the feeling of the orgasm amazing, the loss of energy is a bummer. But without the dangle and inevitability of the orgasm, would the anticipation and wondering if 'is now the time' make the journey less exciting? It's such a paradoxical feeling. And over time, wanting that denial to go longer.
Only 1 choice? Unfair!!! I had to choose device irritations because when that happens I can't even try to get erect, which in turn makes me internalize a bleak, sexless world deplete of sexual feedback. When the device is working properly it is for sure lack of erections and/or being able to influence that myself. While I very much miss orgasms, I can understand why those are counterproductive to our relationship which somehow softens the blow.
That when I do get let out, I’m so pent up that PIV sex is essentially impossible. Put it in and BLAM.
I wish I had discovered this sooner. I think my first wife may have really gotten into it, but I don't think it would have been enough to keep her from having the affairs she had. It may have turned to cuckolding which is not a turn-on for me and our marriage probably would have ended anyway. If I had been able to introduce this with my current wife when we were both younger, I think we would have both enjoyed it tremendously. As her libido has waned with age, unfortunately she just doesn't need orgasms nearly as much. So she isn't nearly as likely to use me like a non-orgasming living dildo.
As much as it's helped with our relationship, I do wish my wife would tease me more. She's gotten better about it recently, so it honestly might have been a (prescription) drug she was on.
I do miss erections. And I do want to orgasm all of the time and cant. But the #1 frustration is that I didn't find this decades ago; so much would have changed for the better but, gratefully, my wife and I are still together to enjoy the pleasures of paradise. For us, it's like going to Hawaii for the first time.... once you get there, you never want to go back to where you came from, except there is no good reason to go back.
Yeah, I would have thought orgasms would be the obvious choice but erections are way up there for me. I DO wish I'd discovered chastity before we got married 30 years ago. #1 - Wish we'd done it sooner. #2 - Erections
I've changed my mind. Discovering it earlier, though it would've been good for me comes under the category of regrets. I like to think of myself as someone with no regrets, or more accurately one who doesn't dwell on them. Nobody should vote for the first option. So biggest frustration in chastity? That she's too easy on me and I'm in that dull 2 to 5 day spell when I'm at my least submissive for her. Being overly hard in my cage until I nearly pass out from arousal is delightfully frustratisfying.
I regret taking 5 years or so to find the courage to ask to be locked. Frustration wise it's got to be missing frequent erections, I might only get to enjoy a couple each month now. However it does turn me on that my husband can be hard whenever he wants while all I can do is swell and leak.
Yes, definitely miss erections. More than orgasms. Who knew? On one level I do want to cum again, but I also really like that Mistress won't allow me to. Wishing we'd started earlier? Yes, but that's the past. Can't change it. Still, would have been interesting. I wonder if I'd have been able to take it?