Just thought I would share a predicament I got myself into. Don't be too hard on me, I know I screwed up. After a couple weeks into the current denial period, my wife had stopped all contact for several days. She did not spend ANY time near me that could lead to quality adult time. I decided that it seemed silly to have the cage locked on if she wasn't participating. So, I cut the lock off with bolt cutters and promptly rubbed one off. I went cage free for 2 days and she didn't notice. She finally became interested in me giving her oral. I declined, feigning sleepiness. The next day I went to the hardware and bought another lock. I locked myself back up, but had a problem. The key is different. I need to swap the key, but she wears it around her neck constantly. She takes it off to take a shower, but hides it somewhere. If I can find it and make the swap, I will still have 3 more weeks til my next chance at a release. I'm hoping I can recover my fumble.
Perhaps coming clean and asking forgiveness is the best thing, rather than trying to just maintain an unfulfilling facade
Why not just come clean and fess-up to your behaviour, then take the consequences. You can always say that it was her apparent lack of interest drove you to extreme measures.
Well that is silly haha. I would advise either being honest, and having a grown up conversation. Or, destroy the lock mechanism such that no key goes in and confess that you tried to open the lock but screwed up. You can then offer to cut the lock off and she will not know you released yourself.
Ah, yes, deception squared. Always an option. Nothing like a bit of manipulation to maintain a healthy relationship.
Communication if your Friend. The time to say or do something was when you felt it wasn't working for you. If you want to stay in a marriage, regardless of who's in charge, you have to communicate. You should have gone to her and said why it wasn't working for you or you didn't understand what she was up to. Honesty is the best policy. Dishonesty is a bad policy. You shouldn't go sneaking around like that. She's going to find out something's wrong when the key won't fit. In this case, you're better off telling her what you did.
Thanks for the comments. "Deception squared" was brilliant. I had to laugh. I was able to switch keys while she showered this morning. Still not out of the woods yet. If she checks the security ribbon when she unlocks me next, she will know I was out of the cage. She has enjoyed several more orgasms since my re-lock, and is hinting that the next denial period will be even longer. I truly think the best course is to keep going and learn not to make that mistake again.
Best to confess and come clean. Even if you manage to dodge the bullet.Yes, there might be punishment, hurt feelings or what nots. As earlier ones have said, communication is important. How would she know that the lack of interest feels bad for you and kind of ruins the joint experience? Just ignoring and not communicating it, ensures that you will end up again in the same, neglected phase and state, in the future. Are you going to do the same then again, since you've succeeded to cheat already once? I am positive that She does not want you to suffer and in the long run, talking will provide more pleasant experience, for both of you. And yes, I've also been in situation where there was not "enough" attention or tease and it can feel really bad and make you question yourself that why are you even doing it.
You have broken the trust and it will not help having good communications if you continue the dishonesty. Tell al and accept the consequences!
The longer it goes on the worse it will be. Confess your crime to her as soon as possible and offer everything she wants to make up for it
I think its her form of punishment in ignoring you.. women can be very cold at times and out of the blue.. they could be warm and engaging… you should learn your place as a sub.. and not keep demanding attention.. she would come to you once ready… or if she feels like it.. oo… such aloof and assertive woman… you better give her a nice warm oral orgasm…
We have a strange relationship but I told her in the beginning I would accept her rule but could not promise never to cheat. Her answer? "Fine, but never ever lie about it or else". Each time I cheat I come clean. Each time she is fine, but takes steps to stop a repeat. And we build our chastity relationship closer together. It works really well. You shoud try it.