Hi everyone, I am Ali 41 year old normal guy living in the Canary Islands. I surf, train martial arts and enjoy life. However i am addicted to porn so i am always being selfish i think this is not healthy. I am not sure how to fully explain myself but i have never even thought or heard about chastity but it is time to change so researched and found chastity with structure can help me. Sorry if this offends or is wrong. Thank you all and i have no idea what to do now. Ali
Hi, What to do now? A lot of reading There's lots of great discussion in the forums around peoples personal approaches, which are really varied in terms of motivation, initiator and lifestyle versus BDSM scene. It's really fascinating.
Be aware that chastity can be life changing, and addictive in a healthy way. The physical stuff... But before you get to that, there's the small matter of finding what sort of device suits you, and fits you. Do plenty of reading on this site, and get to understand what sorts of problems can happen from an ill fitting cage, you'll be better prepared to deal with the little issues when they happen. It's a journey, not a race, so be patient with finding a device that works for you. The emotional stuff... You don't say if you have a partner or not. If you do, then it's good to get them on board, you're probably confused, they will be too, but it's a journey best travelled together. If you are single (or with someone), then don't think that going without orgasms is the same as going without sex, it's not! Have a read of the effects of male hormones when denied orgasms, and look forward to experiencing a higher continuous level of "happy hormones", rather than the roller coaster that happens when you have "normal" orgasms. Good luck, you'll find lots of good advice in these forums.
hello @Unaware09 and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well. Lots and lots of men make a lot of mess like you have done but it good that you are gonna try and not keep do it. Some men thats very very very good just stop but other ones has to have a cage lock on them and that stops them as well if they have not got the key to it.
Hi the next stage is to find a cage that fits and a key holder to regulate your behaviour you won’t regret it and the feeling can be totally euphoric I know it is for me
Welcome to the mansion and let me ease your mind that you are in the right group to explore what chastity can do for you. There are many forums to explore and learn what might be right for you. Ask plenty of questions, and never stop learning. We look forward to hearing your story