Hello, I have been thinking about chastity for a long time, but only told my wife about the fantasy a few months ago. She knows that I have submissive fantasies, but I struggle to talk to her about them. She is very open to trying new things and she has a very dominant personality, but she doesn't usually initiate kink on her own. I think she just does it because she loves me and knows it makes me happy. The first few times she locked me up, she ended out unlocking me for intercourse after. It was amazing, but I really craved being told to stay locked up. I also wanted it to be her idea to lock me up instead of me asking for it. The third time we played, she ended out having 7 orgasms. It was amazing for both of us. I think the most sexually fulfilling moment of my life was when she sat up after 7 orgasms and a massage and said "Ok, I'm ready for bed. I love you, goodnight." I was so excited that she wasn't going to unlock me. Her beautiful eyes were all glassy and satisfied, and she looked and felt so amazing as I tucked her in. (our marriage and sex life are great, but I am a snorer, so I always tuck her in her bed at night, then go to my room to sleep) Unfortunately that was a few months ago. Our lives have been crazy with work, travel, young kids, old parents, and everything else since then. I thought after her 7 orgasm night, she would want to have a repeat, but she hasn't really even brought it up. We just got back from a great family spring break trip, and she left on a work trip today. I've been looking for a good time to bring up chastity/kink again, but things always seem a bit too busy. I think I am just making excuses, because I am really bad at awkward conversations and I am a bit self conscious of my kinks. Anyway, that is the start of my journey. It probably sounds silly and noobish to the folks on here, but we all start somewhere. I just need to find a little more courage to talk to my wife again, because I think she had fun with it. I am open to advice from people who have "come out" to their spouses about this or other kinks. Cheers,
It's not silly and nobish. It's how may couples start. It's your fantasy so you are pleased with any chastity action. We all have lives and challenges away from chastity that interrupt the flow . The positive it that she loves you enough to try it and seemingly enjoyed it . It's not her fantasy yet , give her time . My wife has known about my chastity desires for probably 20 years and still can take it or leave it .
Welcome to the Mansion, I’m sure you will find that your situation is very much like many here. You mentioned your wife is away for work, I have an idea for you. If this happens again, write her a short note telling her of a fantasy you enjoy, it can be much easier that saying it to her. Before you put the note in her luggage slip the keys to your cage in the envelope so you can stay locked until she returns and decides if you deserve to be unlocked. Good luck and keep us posted of your progress
Thanks so much for the warm welcome and the encouragement, it means a lot. At first I was worried that I had overshared on my introduction. It was just so nice to have a place to talk about some things. Ozzy-one, she travels quite a bit for work, so I might take your advice and leave a note. I agree that writing can be an easier way to communicate about difficult topics for me. It is funny because I always say "this time" I am going to text her while she is away and we can have a text conversation about kink. But in the moment, like today, I am finding reasons not to send that first text. I will find another place in the forum to start documenting our journey. I hope at one point I can look back and say that "in the beginning" she did it for me, but now she does it for her.
Per-severe, but gently ! Try not to top-from-the-bottom. But remind how great the experience was for you and how you'd love to do it again . . . even see if you could breaker her 'personal best' ?