We are an older couple that didn't start chastity play and orgasm denial until about two years ago. It was my idea but my wife has really taken to it. She now gets off ( literally) on what I call PIV ruined orgasms. She will unlock me, hop on top, take me to within 2-3 seconds of ejaculation and then get off. She then commands me to get out her large glass dildo. She has become a size queen and clearly prefers it to my cock. She usually has two or even three orgasms with the big dildo and some clitoral stim. My little dick never brought her to three oorgasms in one night. Ever! When she is satisfied we kiss and we go to sleep. It is an exquisite form of denial! God I love that woman!
In between "sometimes" and "only" there is still a lot of room. Yes, we have PIV when my Love demands and I am continuously trained to please her. Principally I am not allowed to cum, however sometimes I am instructed to. So, my Love denials me and rarely I may release. Besides her pleasure is No.1 , the times that I am denialed are far more satisfying then the occasions I am instructed to release.... So, I have ticked the third option.
Squarely in the “sometimes” camp. When I get to come it’s usually w/ PIV, but in between we have do it a few times and I’m told I better not come or I’ll be in trouble. I once went over the edge and basically gave myself a ruin and she restarted my lockup back to day 0. So I basically went twice as long with just a self inflicted ruin in the middle.
I have not been inside my Wife, or anyone else for 5/6 years. We only properly started me wearing a cage during the early months of lockdown (April 2020) to stop me masturbating so much,
That is exactly our case too. I did not mark anything becuase I am still allowed to cum but very seldom so both options 2 and 3 sound untrue for us. Interesting what you wrote: "the times that I am denialed are far more satisfying then the occasions I am instructed to release....". Oh, yes, that what I feel more and more often...
it's been so long i had to look up the abbreviation. hahaha! but that's not to say we don't have a romping good time. LOL
When we have PIV, usually I get to come, but not always. However our primary form of lovemaking is me pleasuring her with my fingers, my tongue, or toys. I only am allowed orgasms per some schedule that is a mystery to me, that fits with her estimation of my ability to continue a certain behavior pattern. In other words, she controls me using my dick. She is quite open about it. The other thing she does is make sure every orgasm I have is in an uncomfortable position or just not optimal. Its another form of control she loves to flaunt. For example, when I'm allowed an orgasm in PIV she will often tell me I can only come doggy style or even standing up since that is my least liked position to cum in. Then she will hold up fingers and count down and then I am only allowed to come on '0' or I lost my chance. My orgasms are limited, and often times she just gives me a hand job in the shower. She does it 'hands against the wall' cop style, while I stand motionless and she stands to the side and jacks me off. The worst is sometimes she will continue to jack me with her soapy hand after I've come and the over-stimulation will be so intense its a super mind fuck. I want to drop to my knees and push her hand away so incredibly bad. I usually give in and try to hold her wrist with one hand just to slow her down and she will laugh and have mercy on me.
I only orgasm through PIV, but that's limited, last one was valentines day. However, she likes PIV so I'll often get that with denial. Currently I'm on day 10 , of a hundred day lockdown, so it will be July before any PIV for me, Orgasm? who knows when. She's content with her Vixskin and my tongue.
I normally get to cum during PIV but not always and NEVER before my Mistress is satisfied. If I am too slow after being told to finish permission is revoked and I am pushed out and away. If I cum without permission or before she is satisfied I am ordered to clean up my mess as I satisfy her orally.
I've asked my wife to feel free to cut it off any time she's finished, and I've told her I hope she's comfortable ending when she's done, without worrying about whether I'm done. She said she will...but I know there have been times when she kept going when she didn't want to. There have been times when I quit early because her hip hurt, or because it just wasn't working, and I've faked it a few times to placate her so she didn't feel badly. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who has her full freedom to have what she wants, deny what she wants, and who has no second thought in doing either one...and who has a husband who supports that freedom. Guilt-free women. Love it.
How often do you have no PIV sex? How do you feel with the fact that you will never (?) satisfy a woman as real men it usually do?
That is the point. I never get to have PIV save the possibility of conceiving. I serve her as she desires which is mostly with my tongue. If I'm allowed an orgasm it is either supervised or induced by her (with cage off or on), usually with some added humiliation. I will also never receive blow-jobs but do have to provide them to her by sucking on her strapon before being pegged. While it seems harsh to only be allowed orgasms by masturbation it feels appropriate - exactly what I deserve - and we're both happy this way.
The longer I'm in chastity the worse I get at PIV -- my penis is smaller, too sensitive, can't actively thrust because I cum too quickly. Sometimes I think she makes me do it specifically to show me how bad I've become at it, to make me feel inadequate and submissive. Supervised masturbation or emitting in the cage from her Hitachi is what I deserve too.
My wife and I are very compatible with regard to PIV: she doesn't enjoy it and I don't feel I deserve it
I had to vote the first option. It is about once a month doggy style with ass slapping by her to keep me pounding at a decent rate. This is after nightly very long facials, 2-3 hours. On fuck night more like after 5. She just throws me back, gets in the position whacks it in then gets my speed up. When she's finished she moves away grabs my dick, a few quick jerks , hands off, cum, ruined.
"Supervised masturbation or emitting in the cage from her Hitachi is what I deserve " That is all I deserve as well. I have a bit of ED. I am inadequate in bed and I have come to accept that. She says controlling my jerking improves my erections from being unusable to "barely usable". Being locked does not improve my stamina though. I am basically a half-hard pre mature ejaculator. So these days, she gets on my dick ( if I can get it up enough for penetration) and in about 40 seconds when I'm about to shoot she climbs off and goes for her rather large dildo and a clit vibe. I may to get to jerk off when she is done doing herself (on my knees in front of her) or I may not. It is up to her, as it should be. The humiliation is very erotic whether I am denied or on my knees wanking my soft dick. I am hoping she will add " Would you hurry up please" to that scenario to crank the humiliation up even more. That said, on some rare occasions I still get to come inside her ( if it doesn't pop out). I think I made it to the one minute mark last time. : )
One of the hottest ruined orgasms I ever had was my wife climbing on top of me, thrusting a couple of times, and then just sitting still with all of her weight on my hips until I came inside her, but without any thrusting and very little sensation. She then allowed a little clean up A little more was involved than just that, but that was the main thing.
This would never work for me, because if I'm hard (or even sometimes if I'm not) I am always within 2-3 seconds of ejaculation, or I've cum already. When I was allowed PIV it was not unusual for me to cum in my panties before sex or to cum before I finished my first thrust. It's because of that and the fact that I have a very small penis that I will never have PIV sex again.