Hi We have just joined, because we want to try chastity, and we hope to meet people with the same interest and to find inspiration, guidance and advice. We are very new to this, and have questions we hope that experienced members will help us answer. I guess I have more questions than my wife, because I have no arms, which means that I have to use my feet and toes for everything that you would normally do with hands and fingers. This causes me to have some worries about things like peeing, cleaning, mobility of my legs etc. The reason why we are going into chastity right now, is that for the next year my wife is going to work far from home which means that she will be out of the house for 4-5 days in a row every week. The days we are to be separated we would both like to wear chastity devices. We live in Scandinavia, and we are both 38 years old.
Hello Armlesschastity and welcome!! I would by no means consider myself an experienced member but maybe I can help answer some questions. I would suggest a more open cage for easier cleaning i.e probably not a holy trainer or CB series device for hygiene reasons. I would also say that it would probably be that you must sit to pee so it does not spray everywhere causing an unneeded mess! I would highly suggest having a spare key at home with you (there are ways to make it so it is stowed in a way that she would know if you accessed it- view forums related to that they are abundant for ideas). This is mostly for emergency reasons or in case a ball slips through the ring which can be incredibly painful. Hopefully that helps a little! Best of luck!!! And welcome again I'm sure many will help you navigate the waters as the people here know alot and are generally great at giving sound advice! Cheers! -Ransom
Hi Ransom Thank you for your answer and advice I am sure you are right that an open cage is better for cleaning, but I must admit that a closed cage is the one that turns me on the most. Not being able to touch my penis at all is really what I desire. Because of my missing arms I am somewhat limited at touching my penis, but I am able to touch it and to masturbate with my heels. Unfortunately I am not flexible enough to reach it with my toes, but I imagine that it will be a great feeling when I try to touch my penis with my heel, that it is totally encased. The spare key is a very good idea, though I don´t see how I would be able to unlock the cage because I can´t reach it with my toes. But maybe I will have to figure out some kind od emergency procedure. Do you wear a cage? Cheers
I do in fact! I have a holy trainer but just ordered a cherry keeper for better hygiene reasons. I would recommend maybe looking at the cherrykeeper with total touchstop! It will have the same effect but will allow water and soap to pass through when you shower but totally encased! Maybe a possible solution in the regard and your desire = ) This might sound outlandish but possibly have the key super glued to a magnet. So in case of emergency you can stick the key to a metal object and attempt to maneuver yourself to insert it into the locking cylinder if you use a tumble lock?
Thanks for your advice. Maybe I could just glue the key to a stick? How do you like the holy trainer, and do you wear it permanently?
Absolutely! I like it alot! I do not wear it at work as it would be noticable in my workwear. It is super comfortable I do sleep in it with no issues. The only real problem I see is that it needs to be taken of rather frequently to be cleaned or it will become very stinky and could cause skin issues from not being able to air out properly.
Welcome! First off if you decide to wear a device long term, it would be a good idea to test that with your wife around, so you have someone available to remove it if needed. Arms or no arms, getting a device that fits properly for long term wear is a struggle. Having it locked in without any way to remove it may get plain awful very quickly, if it’s not tested and fit for wear. Secondly, although an open cage design is fairly easy to maintain, it may be somewhat tricky in your situation. Getting soap or water jetted or rubbed on it/in it. Applying lube to the base ring. Needing to pull pants down to sit to pee, you probably already have a system but this would definitely happen more often when you add peeing. So I suggest a trial period to test your device’s long term wear capabilities, and a device that uses a plastic cable or numbered plastic lock that you could possibly cut if you need to remove it. good luck
Thanks for your advice. We will certainly test and try before my wife will be out of the house for several days. I have friends who will help me with different tasks if asked, but helping me to get out of a cage is not something I would like to ask for