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    #1 Blue00, Mar 23, 2020
    How many of you are using honor chastity successfully instead of caging?

    My wife and I had a short discussion about chastity. She loves that she is the only one who can give me an orgasm. However, she is not into a cage. She told me that she is glad I stopped using the cage at her urging. She thought the cage made her sad to see the parts she likes so much locked up. She prefers easy access and likes it when I get hard around her.

    This seems to be a much different form of chastity than those who are caged. It relies on my own will power rather than external enforcement. I would love to hear from others who share honor chastity with their significant other, Mistress, Master, or other “Keyholder”. How does this work into your dynamic? What ways do you enforce the chastity? Do you try to make him mess up or do you expect strict obedience?

    I’d just like to hear a little more from others on this form of chastity dynamic
     
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    #2 elias, Mar 23, 2020
    Honestly, we are still in the process of "finding our ways". Also my Love prefers in general to have unrestricted access to her property. For a period of 2 months now, my cage is therefore on during day-time and off during night-time.

    After having an orgasm, my Love instructs me to put on my cage immediately after, as she discovered my unpleasant "change of attitude" after allowing me to release. As she knows what kind of impact wearing a cage 24/7 has to my behaviour, she now decided for the second time to have the cage on for a longer period.

    When being uncaged, sometimes it is really difficult to behave. In particular when there are stressfull events during daily life, I feel I can easily fall back to parts of my old behaviour. So, I think to be ready one day for "the honor system", I need subsequent some more training and education by my Love. Time will learn.
     
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    #3 CagedBySocks, Mar 23, 2020
    No chance that would work for me.
     
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    #4 Chaste J., Mar 23, 2020
    Unfortunately I'm not very honourable! And besides, Mrs Chaste actually enjoys me being locked away! :)
     
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    #5 MissyB, Mar 23, 2020
    I've used honor system quite a lot. even with a cage, you have to be willing to submit. So if that works for you then try it. I think much of the cage dynamic is psychological for me. It just feels more controlled. And I would love to give my owner the keys if we came to that. But for now, honor works fine. good luck.
     
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    #6 Jessica Alexander, Mar 23, 2020
    I can do it honor style if I lock when she isn’t around when I have the day off. If I don’t lock and give her the key before she leaves for work, I don’t get to take it off when she gets home or to sleep.
     
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    #7 LesterBallard, Mar 23, 2020
    I much prefer the honour system, for both practical and mental reasons. Cages are pretty uncomfortable, and it's a bigger sense of satisfaction when you are doing something through willpower rather than lack of opportunity. Good luck
     
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    #8 Blue00, Mar 23, 2020
    That is another good point about honor chastity. She now expects me to show my strength and dedication by managing myself rather that having her manage me. It is my responsibility to control my own actions as she demands. I wonder if this is what she meant by it made her sad to see me locked up? Could it be that what made her sad was that the cage suggests a lack of self control?
     
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    #9 madams-sissysub, Mar 24, 2020
    same here, for both! My madam also love me being mocked up and having to deal with being in a cage 24/7. She sees it as part of my devotion to her.
     
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    #10 Chaste J., Mar 24, 2020
    Definitely a power thing I think!
     
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    #11 OwnedandOperated, Mar 24, 2020
    As a sex addict, I need the cage. My will power is nonexistent. I'm currently on day 7. I've reached the point where I don't even think about it. Out of sight, out of mind.
     
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    #12 Kat9s toy, Mar 24, 2020
    i suppose we've always been on the honor system, because except for very short periods of time, i have had the key in my possession when I've been locked.

    After several years of being caged off and on, the past 10 years has been entirely on the honor system. I was unlocked, but Mistress determined when and if i could release. Over time, she slowly decreased frequency, finally replacing real orgasms with ruins about 3 years ago.

    For the past 140 days or so, she has me locked again and has said this will continue for the rest of the year (and possibly longer?) I have possession of the key (for emergencies or certain medical exams) since she now lives 900 miles away. We are investigating ways to secure the key so I don't have access without her permission.

    So yes, locked, but in a sense, on the honor system. But, I would never go against Mistress' instructions.
     
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    #13 HisFreakySide, Mar 24, 2020
    I enjoy porn and masturbating too much, so I know the honor system wouldn't work for me beyond three or four days. Not to mention I just love the look of the cage and especially the padlock!

    That said, I don't need to be supervised when I'm let out to clean the cage or on the off chance I'm allowed to sleep without it. Also because of my job, there are periods where I absolutely cannot be caged for up to two days at a time, and I'm easily able to abide by the honor system.
     
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    #14 Blue00, Mar 24, 2020
    I like this combination of locked and yet on your honor. It says a lot about you and your commitment.

    When I first got started in chastity, I did use a cage. The cage served as a constant reminder of my commitment. If I was going to break my commitment, it would be a deliberate act of removing the cage first. I resolved myself to remaining in the cage. I suspect that is how I was able to develop my resolve and self control.

    As for self locking security ideas, I like the numbered plastic security locks. They are a simple way to verify your self control while allowing you emergency access to a method of unlocking. There are several ways the plastic locks. One easy way is to attach the keys to a location that would be inaccessible to unlock without removing the keys. For example, locking them to a location under a sink. You would be unable to fit yourself under the sink and get your cage close enough to unlock. Another option would be using the plastic lock to secure the keys to a high shelf in a small closet. If you are looking for a way to keep the keys with you, CherryKeeper.com has a few cases you can 3D print for your keys. Put your keys in the case and lock the case with a plastic numbered lock. Oh, and don’t forget to send a photo of the unique lock number to your Keyholder once you keys are safely tucked away.

    Again, sounds like you have been doing very well with honor chastity. Keep it up and the rewards will return to you in unexpected ways.
     
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    #15 wrix, Mar 25, 2020
    We tried chastity for long, I pushed towards it. My wife likes a lot the effects of it but she doesn't like to feel dominant, Mistress or KH. So she doesn't want to care about a key, a cage, teasing etc.
    On the other side my feelings in these years grew in a way that now for me the most important thing is her pleasure, her satisfaction, her happyness.
    This is the reason why I decided to go for the honor system. It gives her the normality she wants, combined with the positive consequences on me. Besides it stimulates me even more because I know I do all for my wife and not because of a metal cage forcing me.
     
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    #16 Cincy, Mar 25, 2020
    I am on the honor system and I am allowed to masturbate but only in front of her and I can't cum. If I ever did cum, she would know because of my sub drop.
     
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    #17 tvalex, Mar 25, 2020
    We use a bit of both. It has taken a while for her to truly trust me without a cage. But I have not let her down yet.
     
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    #18 Blue00, Mar 26, 2020
    Keep it up! How does she know if you mess up? Mine knows to watch for the following:
    1) Loss of sensitivity to her lightest touches
    2) Delayed ejaculations
    2) Irritable behavior
     
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    #19 tvalex, Mar 26, 2020
    Probably being constantly horny is a big give away! I could make love for ages before. Lately , there is no chance. That would be quite noticeable.
    She has seen a different side to me. And my behaviour is also different.
     
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    #20 chastity_longterm, Mar 26, 2020
    Maybe im in half honour sistem...
    Im only 13 hour in chastity...so rest of time im doing work im not in chastity...in that time of work im not going masturbate...
     
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    #21 lockedformistress, Mar 26, 2020
    We've been going back and forth, short periods of lockup followed by long periods of no device. I try to remain on the honor system while unlocked, but after a lot of intense play my wife slowly reverts to vanilla until she's ready to control me again, and I end up lapsing.
     
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    #22 the odd tease, Apr 3, 2020
    Normally, the honor system applies here.
    -but-
    since we are at home together these recent days, the key hangs from her neck!
     
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    #23 KBS, Apr 3, 2020
    We’re using the honor system, mostly because my wife doesn’t like the look of the cage. She feels turned off by the looks of it.

    nevertheless she enjoys having the say regarding when we’re going to have sex or just cuddling.

    at the beginning she felt relieved that now we can enjoy a lot of intimacy without her feeling obligated to have sex.

    the prior feeling of obligation towards having sex when cuddling had her turn down a lot of approaches when I only wanted to please her.

    i.e. now we discuss sex, intimacy, what we like and dislike; more openness.

    that I feel turned on when she kisses me intensely and sometimes tells me goodnight is just a big plus
     
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    #24 buildup, Apr 3, 2020
    We've never used a cage and I've never cheated. And I say that as someone who tries to avoid chastity and likes regular sex. But if my Wife somehow gets me to accept a training period then I follow it. She thinks cages are a load of nonsense.

    If you are a sub through chastity then you should be easy to control, no matter how strong the urge to cheat is. The choice is simple, which or who has a greater hold over you: the urge to cum; or the urge to obey your Wife.
     
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    #25 Blue00, Apr 4, 2020
    Well stated! Whether one uses a locked cage or honor chastity. This is at the root of it. Learn to like obeying your wife because she is where your greatest joy and pleasure should be focused.
     
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