20 Lost gentleman traditions that still apply today

Right. But that's why many will play the numbers. It's why a femdom gets flooded with messages from men.

In any case, much that is written in this thread could be defined as "benevolent sexism." If you say you favor men having traditional behaviors like chivalry, it can be devastating to women's rights. Those traditions were not created to empower women. So if a man practices chivalry or traditionalism in a FLR relationship, does it actually undermine the woman? How does a woman that wants to maintain those behaviors in men also maintain the power in the relationship? Not sure she can.

 

I always look to see who is coming behind me to the door. If it's a young male, I don't stand there and wait. If it is someone older Male or female, I will wait. I always wait for women, no matter what the age. I have noticed that most of the time younger women always say "thank-you". I'm 58, so almost everyone is younger.

 

Aware of the historical reason for the male walking on the outside of the sidewalk (Item #2), I have given some thought over the years as to the need for this, given modern roads, versus walking on the inside. One is more likely to be attacked by someone lurking in the shadows from the building side of the sidewalk and I prefer to be the closest person to the potential danger. Just a thought.

 

Thank you, @L-u-c-y, for posting this.

I feel very strongly about gentlemen and their loss in our society today. Not only are practicisizing and habitualizing these Gentleman Acts important to me, but likewise are instilling them in my children so that they are important to them. Right now we're working on standing until all women at the table have been seated, and addressing your superiors with respect.

It's actually kinda funny, because a common corrective conversation with one of my boys in particular usually goes like this:

Him: Sure
Me: What?
Him: Sure.
Me: What?
Him:..... Yes!
Me: Yes what?
Him: Yes I will....?
Me: Yes what?
Him: ummm.... Uhhh. ... yes sir....
Me: There ya go!

In our society these days, gentlemen are needed more than ever.

 

The loss of gentlemanly behavior is bad enough, but when I h at law enforcement professionals refer to perpetrators a “gentleman” it really rots me. Why can’t they say, the man was last seen . . . Just because he is a man does not mean he is a gentleman. A gentleman would simply not act in a way that makes him wanted.

 

It’s not crazy to expect at all. The problem is when guys first realize they are submissive, it tends to be so connected to sex for them that they don’t even realize how poorly they’re acting. It, unfortunately, takes years to realize that being submissive means it not about you and it’s all about her. This list just simply describes what that looks like in everyday life. It’s an outward expression of a core belief. It’s also easy to see when it is faked in order to try to get what one wants. Hopefully, more submissive men will realize this earlier. It takes most of us years to realize submission is so much more than something that makes us feel good. I wish there was a way they could understand how fulfilling and satisfying it is to be submissive in these every day little ways.

Interestingly enough, the college I went to actually taught all this and it was required behavior. Having grown up in the North East U.S., the most chivalrous thing I knew to do was hold open a door. I’ll never forget my first meal in the cafeteria when all these guys at my table kept standing up. I was so confused by what was going on. When they told me you are supposed to stand every time a woman arrives to or departs from a table, I was convinced they were playing a prank on me. Then I looked around and it was happening at every table. It shocks most people to this day, but most women I know really appreciate the gesture.

 

For some reason, I can’t stop thinking about this post today. Even if the more “militant” feminists are upset when a man tries to act chivalrous, it’s not an excuse to not do so. It’s simple enough to apologize, promise that no offense was intended, and ensure them it won’t happen again your paths cross in the future. It’s worth a tongue lashing from those who don’t like it to make those who do like it happier. Secondarily, it also sets an excellent example for other men...perhaps younger submissive men still finding their way. In other words, I really think saying feminists don’t like it is a very poor excuse not to do it for strangers. There’s no excuse not to do so for women you know...especially a significant other. My son knows to do these things and I will now make sure he knows how to respond to women who don’t like it.
I only wish there was a way to better pass it along to others.

 

And I’m completely ok with that. It’s just no excuse for the submissive male not to try to do so. If you aim at nothing, you’re sure to hit it. Right?

 

Dear @L-u-c-y ,
I read your post and I have to admit I learned from it. A few of this manners are my standard, but I have to add up I guess.

Does all this still work in modern Society, or in other Words for younger generations?

I found out that me at 37y old am already quite oldfashioned for a girl of Lets say 29y old...

 

Lucy,
I personally believe in all of those! I don’t believe chivalry is dead. It isn’t dead in my mind. Women should be treasured, honored, listened to, treated like the Queen of your world!! Ladies reign supreme in my life...always have and ALWAYS WILL!
I try to always be a gentleman.

 

It may be rare, but chivalry does still exist. At least in Texas.

 

As a sissy sub in chastity I would be very obedient and polite to my mistress, had I one. Thats what the original question was, the mistress will gain from a locked slave.

 

#12 a typical dinner out for us is me receiving the check and handing it over to Queen wife... i'm not allowed to pay when we are out together.

 

Brobump! I do the same thing- my Miss gets bent when they hand the check to me. I just quietly hand it to her with no comment. . She handles all the finances and if I need something I can ask.

 

I have always followed all of these to the letter, but my madam will asks for the check, look at it and pass it on to me to cover.

 

Ouch!

 

It's fun when these old threads suddenly reappear

 

I never carry money or bank cards (I do have both). I take a few pounds to work and when I run out Mrs Chaste gives me some more! Nothing to with FLR, it's just the way we are. If I want to buy something I do.

 

Numbers 1-20
The way I was raised
The way I live and treat any woman
The way I raise my son

I even treat spoiled brats that way even though (unfortunately) many of these wannabe ladies don‘t even realize what just happened to them.

 

I enjoyed this thread and all the gentlemanly traditions of old. Many of them I experience, some of them I do. It does however make me smile when I experience them, I guess I am old fashioned.
I don't believe a man should always pay for a date. I like it and it is a nice gesture however as stated earlier the one extending the invitation should pay. I don't believe in going dutch ever. I teach my girls when they go out with a boy someone should pay for both as that is the kind giving thing to do that fosters a more sharing friendship.
It is unfortunate that the woman's movement has taken some of this from us. I certainly believe in equality for all but I am a romantic, I want both.
Continue to teach your boys to make these gestures even if they go unappreciated. I guess we all need to teach our girls to accept or decline graciously.