20 Lost gentleman traditions that still apply today

well I hope they are not lost.

 

Many of those items are no longer expected these days (e.g. No. 1) but all were intended to show a man's respect for a woman, which is sadly lacking all too often. I'd be very happy if they were to be incorporated into our rules as part of my submission, as I do quite a lot of them anyway without even thinking. Anyone observing us would just think I was being an old-fashioned gentlemen, without having any idea about what might be going on at home behind closed doors (and curtains).

 

I'm proud to say I do most of those things for my wife. I'm disappointed to say I need to work on doing them without fail. For instance, I usually open the car door for my wife, but sometimes we are busy loading things in the car and she just gets in herself.

 

Perhaps kneeling might be an acceptable alternative for Number 1?

 

No, 20 may not always be compatible with No.4.

 

Saying nothing is not always an option, so a lie comes in handy now and then.

 

That is exactly how I was raised.

 

I won't say they're lost, but they're not that common.

Some of us though were raised to be a gentleman so they're automatic and we don't think about them, we simply do them.

 

In the "old days" those were pretty much the tenets that a man would subscribe to. It was part of one's role in a relationship and in society in general. Some woman's libbers would get all bent out of shape if one would offer up a seat to a woman not known to him. The comment would come down "are you suggesting that I am weak and can not stand up myself?" There are other examples but I'm probably in enough trouble all ready. Much of the loss of "gentlemanly behavior" was due to women being nasty over a genuinely decent act. Shame we have to be reminded of how to be a gentleman.
Foot note: my answer to the libber remark was "well actually your ass is so big I figured your legs must be tired from trying to hold it up"

 

I will agree with all of them except #6. I pull out and hold her chair for her when she is not in her wheel chair but I try to sit facing the bulk of the room and the door. This comes to protecting her. Unless we go somewhere that I am restricted, I am always armed and I want to see a threat early enough to give myself the maximum reaction time.

I was raised to do most of those things but have gotten out of the habit over the years. I am trying to get back into them.

Thundar, I have run into that on opening doors. I just smile and let go of the door.

 

I was surprised at how many of the things on the list are things I do for my wife and never really thought about. Many of them just seem like common sense behavior.

 

Some of the things on the list should carry over to strangers if one is a gentleman

 

I grew up in the day where these things were drummed into us from childhood and I have done most of them very naturally over the years. Since being in the FLR (and being Her private SIssy), I continue to do them out of respect for Her. Recently, when walking together on a city street, I naturally went to Her curb side to walk and She informed me that, since I am now Her sub, I should be to Her right and a step behind and so I have adapted accordingly. I love this Woman!

 

I don't do 1 or 6. The others - mostly, yes.

 

I was raised to do those things anyways, not just for my wife either. With kids, a few of those are difficult, like opening the car door with a child in one arm and groceries in the other, but still do on dates and when we are alone.
As for the bus seat, I will always give it up for a woman, elderly, or even dudes with their arms full.
I also play volleyball weekly and if I am walking out and a female teammate or friend is about to leave, I will wait and walk them out, especially at night!
This list should be called common human decency and should extend beyond chastity too!

 

So true they have been lost, but it can return

 

I don't think they have all been lost. I do at least 13 of them on a regular basis. Hope that's not unlucky !!

 

Awesome, love it. Do you have a link to the original article perhaps?

 

Thank you

 

Like many others here I was brought up to do all these, and some. In restaurants my wife particularly expects me to be closest to a draughty door, and to face a wall so she can look around from the other side of the table. As I always let her go first it has led to some interesting results; once when queueing for a show where we had guest but not guaranteed-entry tickets she got in then the doors were slammed as the place was full and we were separated all evening.

 

Not lost at all. Quality, respectful gentlemen are getting scarce though. I practice every item on the list when appropriate.

But then, I am a romantic.

Also, when dinning out, always give her the best chair at the table.

 

Well let's not confuse the first wave of feminism with the 3rd wave. 1st wave just wanted equal treatment and equal rights. The 3rd wave decided they didn't need men and contributed further to a generation of confused kids. Being a gentlemen means you see through that and be the best you can be as a man and human.

 

So sad that these have to be stated now. It should be automatic for all men, not just submissive ones like on this site. I do all these things. I even give up my seat on a train for a lady, any lady, not just a pregnant one. It was how I was raised. It is common courtesy.
(Incidentally, I would also give up my seat for a man if he was an older one who clearly needed to sit down more than I did. Manners truly maketh the man, in every respect.)

 

You know what pisses me off? When you hold the door open for a stranger and they don't even acknowledge you, much less say thank you.

I had a boss I'd pass in the hallway often and I'd always say 'hello' and he'd just stare and not respond. There was only one employee of his that he always did greet, and it pissed me off no end. Then finally there came the day where I could do a minor version of 'call in rich' . Of course it was important to me that I manage to squeeze 6 years of annoyance into one quit. I successfully translated all that salt for a few thousand extra in parting cash just for shits-and-giggles. Politeness matters.