Something that surprised me that mistress rather enjoys

I always used to be proud of my staying power, but Xena actually preferred me in and out. PIV was almost always a loving gift from her to me, but she didn't want me to out stay my welcome.

This makes me wonder whether, if you are not "well hung and long lasting", perhaps your partner is your partner because she prefers that, and perhaps that makes her more amenable to male chastity.

Maybe there's some truth in all these "my pathetic little dick" posts after all.

 

I have always had trouble maintaining an erection when having intercourse - even when I was young. I would always worry about losing the erection and then it would happen. As I approached my 50's I think physically I was not able to keep a hard erection. I started using Viagra when I met my wife and never told her. She found out several years later and made me flush them down the toilet and promise I never take them again. That prompted a serious conversation about sex and she confided to me that she does not really like intercourse. After that conversation all the sex has been me giving her oral sex. I love that change. I didn't really like intercourse either. It turns out that me and my wife were perfectly suited for each other sexually and never revealed it to each other.

 

My wife told me it makes her feel wanted when I have to cum right away...although she does occasionally miss me being able to last long enough for her to get there.

My fingers are the same length if not a bit longer, plus I can lick while I use fingers, so it’s a no brainer on what she prefers. Occasionally she will want to feel filled and that’s when toys show up, but it’s no marathon session. Hard fast and thar she blows.

 

His PE 'issues' are quite fun for Me, too. I totally understand where she's coming from, @Wonderwomanssub.

He'd been with three women before Me and could never last more than a few strokes. I saw evidence of this pretty quickly, heh. He was rather embarrassed by and disappointed in his lasting power when we met. After chatting for eight months and getting to know one another, I think he was actually a little terrified about having sex with Me at first.

However, I was ecstatic to have a clean slate... a 'new', inexperienced pet to train. Orgasm control/denial through karezza has strengthened his knowledge and endurance, but he's still super quick to cum when I constantly stimulate him. The last accident was a long time ago, though.

It's a joy for Me to edge him this way, particularly since I love that practice as well. It's a sure fire way to build up a powerful orgasm for Me.

When you add in the power trip element that comes with knowing that at any given moment, I could rip an orgasm straight from his body, whether he wanted it or not... the combination is pretty addictive for a Dom/me.

 

It’s funny, when we first had sex, I lasted 45 minutes each time, and did it 3 times that night and once in the morning. Occasionally she will giggle about it and remind me “remember when you could do this all night long?”

 

That's another bonus. The situation is always ripe for verbal teasing.

 

@Wonderwomanssub I have to say after reading about many different relationships, those
that seem to end up in the chastity realm become good communicators. I am probably on
the other side of the fence. Our sex life was pretty much toys to get started, but I was the main
event. This is not bragging, showing you how things work.

She has always been #1 to me. When I got back in shape I wanted Her to know that She
would always be the only one. After 5.5 years She decided to make sure. I think it turns Her
on to know what She has locked up. She loves seeing me like that and has no problem
reminding me of it. She has explored many other ways and has made it very clear She is
having a wonderful time torturing me. LOL

I have learned so many ways to please Her and She enjoys Herself sometimes and makes
sure I see it. It is a wonderful thing to see Her so alive and just loving it. Ya I miss a lot of my
own orgasms, but Her's are great for me also. I had three days of freedom to do what I wanted
with Her. The first of course was the minuteman from Mass, after that She had quite a day.
So She loved it and so did I. It may not be often, but we do try to make up for lost time.

I have to say we learn so much from our other half that so many in this world will never know.
We have been blessed with these wonderful woman that have enriched our lives.They have
shown us new things about themselves and shown us love, understanding, humor, tenderness
and most of all their total acceptance of who WE are. Is there anything more we can ask for?
Didn't think so.

 

Thats a great way to look at our lives.

 

Very interesting. My beautiful wife/KH doesn't consider herself a Domme, but clearly has similar feelings. I've been in chastity more or less 24/7 for over a year now, and enemy role has become to bring her to orgasm with my mouth or hands +/- vibrator. She allows me to unlock for orgasm every 6-8 weeks, but does not allow PIV. She will occasionally give me a hand or blow job, but more often says, "Give me a show," which means to jerk off in her presence. She gets a huge grin watching me cum, which typically happens when I am barely hard after only a few quick strokes. It sure seems like she gets a kick out of it, although she hasn't specifically said so.

 

I've come to realize that my wife actually prefers the magic wand (and has since I first bought her one). It doesn't matter what else we do, it will almost always end with the magic wand and often will start with it as a warm up as well. If we do have piv sex it's largely for my benefit and I'm hard pressed to last more than 30 seconds (especially after both being denied a while and the tease of watching her warm up). She's quite happy with that and sees it as a testament to the effect she has on me.

It took me a while but I've also accepted that the wand can do things that neither my tongue nor my dick can ever really do to her. I'm usually relegated to pleasuring her other bits (or just watching) while it takes care of business.

 

So hot!

 

We don’t really do PIV anymore - literally one time in the last 6 or 7 years, but our sex life is amazing. She says she’ll take an eager tounge, skilled hands, and some good vibrators any day. She’s free to take a lover if she wants, but really has no interest. To be fair, she’s spent a lot of time training me as a selfless chasity lover who is 100% focused on giving customized pleasure tailor made to her body and expectations. Then to top it off, there’s no need to bother with those pesky penises anymore. My orgasms have become quite rare indeed. What else would a woman want? .

PS. I fully realize this may not work for lots of women, but I’m only married to one!

 

Fascinating thread, it’s amazing how many similarity’s there are about relationships of members, And a lot very close to my own,
I also lost my virginity to my madam, and have never had sex with anyone else, my madam wasn’t a dom when we met, but was kinky, and we kind of found the scene together.
It was the aspects of power and control, both physical and mental that my madam found her biggest turn on about it. She made it clear that I wasn’t the best lover she had ever had,
And as we got deeper in to our bdsm roles she was fixated on the idea of breaking a male, of wanting him to submit in every way,
And once she descovered chastity, there was no turning back.

 

After 3 years in chastity, i too have come a premature ejaculator. I hate the fact that it is over for me in a matter of seconds. I have been conditioned to not even want to have an orgasm because it ends so quickly. Even though my wife permits PIV sex about 3-4 times a year I now use viagra, numbing cream and condoms so I can last forever and not orgasm. After she has her orgasms we cuddle until she is able to fit me back in my cage. She waits for about another 4 months then we repeat this.

 

You said the magic word ..... Kareeza ..

 

My wife has never had an orgasm with PIV, it was only with my tongue or her fingers. Now it's only with her Magic Wand.