If your Mistress asked you as a submissive, to conduct an illegal but non-harmful act, show the sub do so without question? Is there a line that cannot be crossed even in Dom-sub? All advice hugely appreciated.
I would suggest that if your Mistress asked you to do something like you mention, then she has little respect for your relationship.
I dont think that's the case. I think its about the sub proving himself. Perhaps I am just being tested? Thanks for replying.
Breaking the law to prove you are submissive is absurd. There are other ways to accomplish that with out breaking the law.
I'd commit a crime for my wife no questions asked. Woulda done it before chastity, d/s too. Don't think she'd ever do it as a "test" thankfully!
Will she visit you in jail ? Depends if it is just a very minor infraction for fun, the type of thing you would get a slap on the wrist for or a warning ? Or, is it something more serious, which of course you need to stay clear of. ? Use common sense to make this decision. Right ?? Not too many things I would break the law on these days.
Might not be a big deal for some. Might be a lot worse for others. At 54 years of age, how will it affect your life if you get caught.? Not sure what country your from, but I know that wouldn't be too good here in the U.S. Could loose your job, forced to do community service, pick up trash along the highway, pay fines, now have a record on file, etc... who knows.......
Showing yourself to be honest and trustworthy by not committing a crime sounds like the actual test to me.
Might not look good on a back ground check for a job... Employers look at shop lifting as a theft. Not to good of an idea
Don't do it. A criminal record (for both of you depending on the jurisdiction and how the DPP want to play it) is not something you want to be stuck with however 'petty' the theft.
Plus....it's not yours. I have done some terrible things in the name of love, some I regret some I do not. Would never have done any of them to PROVE myself to any of them. I would feel upset that she would feel the need to ask you to put yourself in harms way for such a trivial need.
To accept to do this would be bad from all points of view and a loving mistress might be hoping that you refuse.
Permission to speak Mistress? Thank you Mistress - I feel that I could please you more by being able to perform at my utmost in all things. Breaking petty laws, laws that disturb others and cause such upset to some, would be against everything I hold dear, and would cause me severe distress, such that I would be unable to serve you as well as I would wish to. Permit me to say then, that serving you exists in a space that is outside the world of real things, and is my utmost desire. With this in mind the idea of petty theft is also outside of my very great and real desire to please and to serve you, to which I know I can please you fully by being able to commit myself to fully. Or in other words "You must be out of your freaking mind, there is no way I'm stealing shit just on one of your stupid whims - ask me to pick you some flowers or something less illegal" Dont say "No" - say a bunch of stuff about being able to please more by committing more if asked to do legal things. Otherwise where does it end? Doing one stupid thing is the start of a slippery slope that you are then not in control of. If she's asking you to take that step - are you happy with her idea of control?
Definitely not especially in this day and cyber age . Tracking your previous is way to easy so no definitely not. The other point is that really good subs are not wet door mats not by a long shot. Having a sub that is as exciting as a wet paper bag is not very interesting at all. You do need to show a bit of push back a bit of substance. This is especially true of BDSM situations showing you have the will to control and deal with pain . Xx Wendy
if someone ask you to break the law, dump there sorry ass, for they are not worth the words good luck fool.
So there you have it. Sounds like most of the perspectives have been hit upon. Best of luck, and try not to steal anything.. Maybe a simple J walking violation in just your cage and a trench coat. lol.......Don't want to see you in any kind of trouble.
Thank you all for your considered and helpful (and mostly non-judgemental) replies. A useful thread. I broached the subject with Mistress P. And no, she didnt expect me to break any laws at all and she would have stopped me in my tracks if I'd have tried (phew). It was a game, a test; how far would I go to demonstrate servitude? The attitudinal disposition was more important - not the act. So I have been taught a useful lesson. Mistress P also said that this ought to have been obvious to her sub from the get-go and, the fact that it wasn't, is actaully quite disrestful to her. In other words, I should have trusted her all along. This has made me think and also made me confused. No punishments however, which is good. Mistress P's punishments are not 'secretly enjoyable'. They are to be avoided. Thanks everyone.
I'm very glad of that then. I think Ms P is possibly being unjust if she considers it a lack of respect to her, that you did not immediately realise that her request for you to steal was a morality test, and a test of your own spine. Evidently you have one, so....where is the distrust and lack of respect? I might suggest it is in Ms P, as she did actually ask you to steal. I'd be inclined to step out of role at this point and sit down for a conversation. I would be fairly brutal with the truth of the matter, but kind about how it was delivered. If anything - I would now be needing her to prove her trustworthiness to me in her own actions and deeds. Whatever - I hope it all settles in a profitable way for you both.
Kinda like god asking Abraham to kill his son, then stopping him cause he proved his faith... but a kinky version with less death lol. Glad it ended well