What to you is the worst thing about chastity?

Not being able to masturbate when I want, LOL

 

IMO his not being able to masturbate when he wants is the best thing about keeping a male in a chastity device!
Rita

 

For me it is cleaning up after urinating. I am an old guy and go frequently.

 

I feel your pain Vinny. Especially at night!

 

Why Not? After all we do to make this fantasy real, its just a pinch of a gift for a long long time

 

At the risk of looking like a complainer, I'm gonna add: I hate it when I wake up in the middle of the night with the boner AND my foreskin is trapped and pinched by the head pushing against the end of the cage!!!

For me, THAT stings!!!!

With the absolute kindest regards.

J.

 

I have a couple: Having to sit down to pee at work and still having some leak into my boxers afterwards. The other is waking up to erections in the middle of the night and the underside of my scrotum being sore after running.

 

This sore scrotum thing is something I have battled for years and the main reason we kept stopping due to abrasions. I have finally cracked it by using a larger ring 45mm instead of 38mm, so you might say thats easier to pull out of, well its possible to pullout of the 38mm and thats causing the pain and damage so the solution is to find a way to stop oneself extracting or inserting back into a slightly larger one and thats what we have achieved. Check out my post on the new anti pullout we have developed using thermo plastic it works a treat, now I am kept as long as needed without pain or skin damage and more secure than the smaller ring. No ring is secure without a PA or a antipullout that works and this does

 

There are many worsts for me.

Being extremely horny 24/7/365
Never knowing when I am going to orgasm again
All the edging, teasing and denial
Pleasuring her like it's my job
Being humiliated every once in a while
Being forced to wear panties on occasion
The long lockups at times
My wife's renewed attitude and sexual aggression
But most of all........ the re-kindled love we have for each other.

Yeah, this whole chastity thing is the worst thing we have ever done.

 

Being ignored by my key-holder

 

Waking up in the night with my cage fighting with a hard on and using public toilets. Also I do experience pinching on my foreskin from time to time that makes me squirm and squeal sometimes, try explaining that one to your work mates lol.

 

I'm surprised nobody mentioned the obvious.

Not having a significant other to which I can introduce the advantages of being my keyholder.

Pretty close seconf and jointly so are;

Not knowing someone that could make me a custom cage if I could afford it.
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For TTTWD to become so mainstream that others just accept that you are into it.

 

For me it has to be being denied her orgasm.

I can just about cope without my own but when im denied hers that really stings.

 

Hair trigger orgasm? What is that?

 

Just guessing it implies that the guy is so sexually excited at certain times that a mere touch can result in an orgasm and co go off at any time.

( a guy with a senitive trigger?).

 

1. Not being able to swim in public places
2. Not being able to enter shopping malls & other places having security gates (metal cage)
3. Not being able to convince my wife to let me free (unlocked) for few days
4. Not being able to use public toilets
EVEN THEN I ENJOY BEING LOCKED !!

 

Ahh..Thank you.

 

That is exactly what I meant. Thank you.
A tendency for him to orgasm very quickly during penetrative sex thereby leaving his partner un satisfied.

 

Another worst thing (something it might help you boys to be aware of) is the feeling that your man is unable to give you the love, respect, attention and appreciation that you feel you deserve, unless he has a piece of material clamped to his genitals.
I know I'm speaking on behalf of a good deal of "key holders" both experienced and prospective. It can be quite off putting.

 

This is a very good point actually and something that has come up in conversation in my relationship.

To turn this statement on its head in 13 years of marriage I could count the number of times she has initiated sex on 1 hand. When we started introducing chastity to our lives things changed dramatically and she became the instigator of activites. This is great and I am extremely happy with the effect this has had on her however I have also thought to myself and commented to her when was appropriate that I wish it didnt take a peice of metal for her to feel like she wants to initiate our love making.

Its can be a depressing thought process so I now think about it like this.

Both parters in reality has the right to put a stop to things but neither of us has no matter how frustrating it becomes. I choose to allow her to domminate me and she chooses to do so. The peice of metal may help but it is just a tool that we both choose to use to make each other happy.

 

I've always been the helper type in regards to domestic work (clearing the table and loading the dish washer...vacuuming...not leaving piles of clothes for her to pick up and on and on.)
But when our first cage arrived and she sent me to work locked up for the first time, I had overwhelming urges to do other things for her too...Wash her car, clean the entire house top to bottom...naked...repaint rooms...suck her toes....whatever. I've always BEEN the considerate type but never in a BURNING way like this. I believe theres something about having your sexual parts essentially "inactivated" by a device that in one way or another the sexual motives of a man are removed from his brains' 'agenda', thereby allowing more 'bandwidth' (brain capacity) to be focused on her.
On the surface, it makes me constantly horny for her and she loves that too.

 

I agree @coffee2sugars , chastity is just a tool that helps keep us males honest so to speak. Just like the lock on your front door, anyone can break in but it keeps the honest people out. The chastity device keeps us honest guys from playing with ourselves and saving our desires for our women. In an ideal world it would be nice to not have to have the device but its not, we are all imperfect.

 

I think the worst thing is trying to find the right device that actually fits, isnt too tight, but doesn't allow for escape.

 

The wife and I play with chastity off and on. I find it brings us closer when im locked up. Funny how once we give over the control of our cock. We become so sensual to there needs. I work in construction and very active. When im locked up I wear the birdcage so far very comfy with working a very physical job. The worst is going to washroom. On jobsites well not easy. The discomfort here and there is just part of the game of pleasing our goddess.

 

for me, its having to accept my sub is an unlocked chaste. I much preferred him to be locked, but he sufferrend so much damage that he is no longer locked. He IS still chaste tho, and has only cum once this year. other than that, there is NO downside