Hi A long time lurker I've just taken the plunge to sign up. Married to a very vanilla wife with next to no sex drive whilst mine is still very high. I tried introducing chastity a while back and was way too impatient so it didn't work. Recently started to introduce vanilla FLR concepts to her as she is quite dominant in some ways but still a traditionalist. Hoping to be put back into chastity and to serve her at some point. Looking for help/advice on how to get there and to contribute where I can.
Hello and welcome. Mine is somewhat similar situation. Nothing for it only go slowly, don't introduce too much too quickly. Impatience will only put her off. With advice I've been given here, I have started to buy her small gifts, anklets, tow rings things like that. Rekindle her inner sexual goddess. Reintroduce going out if you haven't done that in a while. Good luck on your journey.
Would it not be alright if you self caged??? I find I handle my busy stress filled work days better when I’m caged. If intimacy is low than she really might not notice or care then over time she might warm up to it. Also plan a night where you dote over her. Help her get dressed and go out and do everything for her, doors, chairs, order, get home and take off her shoes while kneeling in front of her. Only speak if she asks a question. Might help to begin things?
Thanks for the advice. I do tend to rush into things so tips like this are appreciated. I do need to rekindle her sexual desire first. Luckily she can be quite dominant which helps my submissiveness and desire to please rather than focus on my needs.
I do quite a bit of that already especially taking off her shoes whilst kneeling in front of her and then giving her a foot rub. Actually I'm self-caged now and she rarely sees me naked so doesn't know. She didn't like having to unlock me for cleaning last time we tried together. I started self-locking after having a few months break. When she found out she wasn't pleased and told me it turned her off. So now I have to do it in secret but I do notice it has an effect on her. It's very odd but when I'm locked she becomes more loving. Anyway I have to unlock myself tomorrow as we do self-defence martial arts together and with others and I'm literally kneed in the groin on occasion! I'll be locking up immediately after though. Anyway thanks for the pointers. I'll try them out and see if anything changes.