Newbie Q: why no erections?

My GF says it gives her a thrill and makes her wet to know that I can't get hard without her. She loves the power and control.

I don't miss orgasms very much but the lack of erection after a month or more drives me crazy.

 

both things are really fun and arousing for my queen and me.

second that. she is in total control. my private parts are her property. we can't see half of the time, so i am locked for her and she knows that i would never touch myself. even if i get an erection while not in my cage. i promised not to touch it. she is the only person, who is allowed to do that.

so chastity, no masturbation and having no erection is more a mental thing for us to solidify her control over my sexuality.

 

100% agree to that!

Except I do reach for it ever chance I get haha.

 

well some men i seen wud have to have a very very big cage to put there hard willy in and if it a metal cage then it wud be ever so heavy as well. so thats why they prob dont have them.

 

same here! My very first cage was the curve and it was far to long, my madam was annoyed I could get an erection whist wearing it, needless to say I soon had to order a smaller one!

 

I think removing all freedom to have an erection, never mind orgasm, is a lot of the benefits KHs get from caging their men. I don't believe I deserve any accommodation for having a penis between my legs. For this reason I wont wear panties with space for cages. Women's panties only!

 

Taking away the ability to have an erection gives the partner more control over their "toy" and takes it away from the man. I would not be unhappy to have this privilege taken away from me.

 

I think the answer to the OP's question is really down to practicality.

There's two ways of preventing an orgasm with a chastity device.
Stopping an erection happening or making it painful to have an erection which usually kills the libido, or allowing an erection but not allowing any stimulation to get an orgasm.

The problem with allowing an erection with a cage is that the cage would have to be quite large, (relative to a cage for a flaccid penis) and that would be rather inconvenient for getting on with your life outside of the bedroom. The full chastity belt would do it, but then they are quite expensive, and even more difficult to get a good fit than a penis cage, so not really an option for most.

If you're not caged, then whether erections are supposedly allowed or not, some [most?] guys just can't resist playing with their junk. After all, our arms were made just the right length to do it!

 

For a lot of folks, chastity play goes beyond simply not being allowed to orgasm...that is the physical aspect of chastity play. There is a very much stronger mental element to it. As many have mentioned, surrendering control to their key holder is a large part. Some like the humiliation aspect of it as well. That humiliation can even move into the territory of emasculation. The restriction of an erection kinda falls into those mental control categories.

Best regards,
Phen

 

A chastity device is a form of bondage. The fact it is immobile is part of it. There is a certain feeling when hard. You can flex it, you can almost feel the skin feeling so tight it almost hurts.

Being unable to even get hard reduces it to non functional, it’s more of a spigot for peeing than anything sexual. You can’t feel it, you can’t flex it, it’s maddeningly frustrating. Until it’s unlocked, sex doesn’t have anything to do with that pee spout. Like a vestigial limb.

 

Maybe I should!

 

Denial of my erection has psychological effects as well as being physically frustrating for me.

 

I curious to hear from any women whether erection control is something that turns them on or whether they are indifferent?

For me, I actually would prefer if I could have erections, just that no orgasms are possible until allowed.

 

My wife likes the thought of me being able to get hard, but not able to do anything about it, if i get a nocturnal erection i have to go kneel in the bath tub and turn on the cold tap, let the water roll over my caged cock, soon lose my erection.

 

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To me, erection control is just as or more central to chastity as orgasm denial. Erections are fundamental to maleness and to vaginal sex, and to take away erections is to emasculate the male and make him incapable of penetration and render him less than males (“real men”) who are capable of fucking. Satisfaction of erections drives the male ego at a fundamental level and is the source of toxic masculinity and many social evils. Even a usually-chaste male who is released and allowed to get hard but is denied orgasm has the core semblance of his masculinity remaining, but not me. Getting erect is the enemy of submission, and to acceptance of the beta male status many of us see within ourselves. As long as I can get hard there’s always a chance; locked and denied erection I know an accept that I am not an alpha male and that pussy is not for me anymore.

 

i wud not if i was you cos it is horrible.