Hi, I'm Soren and I'm a complete newbie to the scene. Had a device custom made and am picking it up today... will be handing the key over this afternoon and then going back into work, locked for the first time. I'm not entirely sure what this journey is going to bring, but I've always been more mentally stimulated than visually stimulated - so I'm hoping for new adventures, experiences and maybe a new friend or two in here. I'll try not to let my enthusiasm (or otherwise) become a tsunami of posts here, but god I'm turned on this morning
Welcome to the site. Hopefully you and your keyholder enjoy the journey. The first few days can be rough on you, so hopefully you don't get discouraged. Chastity is like a muscle that you need to build up over time. You start out for a short duration and eventually work your way up to longer and longer. What kind of device did you get?
Good luck on day one, if you stay locked long enough the emotional juggernaut and rollercoaster will be like nothing you've experienced.
thanks for that... so far so good - though the weight is interesting... makes me think about my dick ALL of the time
A custom device is your first How would you know all the things you’d need to know when ordering a custom device? Good luck with it!!
my wife is holding the key. we're both very new to this - and finding our way. who knows where we'll end up on the spectrum. but she's whip smart, can switch from the mood in the bedroom on a dime, knows all of my buttons - when to push, when to tease and increasingly when to demand. she's interested in what this does to the dynamic we already have - sexually and beyond that. to see how that much power affects how she treats me and how I respond. as I said, it's going to be interesting
I'm sure it won't be our last, but I did as much research as I could, measured, remeasured and measured again - and then had it delivered with various ring sizes. So far, so good - we shall see
Welcome. Work up your wearing time, you don't want sore bits for either of you. Your spectrum will be wherever it takes the both of you. It is exciting journey and where it leads no one knows. Happy travels.
Welcome to the mansion. I hope you bring her into the fold here! Enjoy your stay and the journey ahead.
For me, the turning point is the morning I wake up and realize I slept through the night. Your body figures out there's no point in trying to burst the device off you, like a horse trying to buck its saddle off. You're broken in and it feels good. Takes me until night 3 or 4 usually, after a long break form the device.
Good luck! Remember to channel your male energy to either improving yourself (weight, skills, job, reading up on social good [e.g. becoming a feminist] and for helping your wife. She is the most important thing in your life so you should do everything you can to make her life happy, healthy and self empowering!
second rough night - was able to walk everything off until about 4:30am - when the mother of all erections (who knew?) felt like it was threatening to explode my cock, the cage and most of the house. Get through it, but man am i bruised this morning. hot as the daytime seems to be, the nights are brutal right now
Having different ring sizes on hand makes for a great start! As your body changes to adjust to the cage, you will go down in ring size. Do keep the ring large enough to be able to easily insert one finger in to the first joint while soft. Your cage looks long. Long contributes to night time erection pain. Short causes Edema. It is tough to find out what is exactly right for you. If you shorten the cage, you might have to increase the ring size to prevent edema. It is a balancing act! It can take months to fully adjust to a cage. Enjoy the wild ride!