What would you do if your long term partner introduced you to D/s and chastity and said it was the way they wanted to go? If they wanted you to become their Mistress? If you did everything in your power for 2 years to try and fulfil their every fantasy? If you ignored, as best as possible, every problem they had, which prevented them from fulfilling their part of the deal? If they lost interest in you, in sex with you, in servicing you and you worked as hard as possible to regain their interest, to fuel their fantasies, to become what they wanted? And then you found stacks and stacks of BDSM porn, with beautiful people being everything you wanted to try and be but failed miserably stored on their hard-drive. And you realised that actually, they probably hadnt lost interest in sexual pleasure, especially masturbating, but that they were perfectly happy pleasing themselves to the faces and bodies of hundreds of others, and kept it secret (apparently so as not to upset you). I personally would feel very angry, and betrayed. I would also be confused as to why someone in that position, with a woman doing everything they ever wanted, who had shared every sordid little fantasy they have, and wouldn't care about porn... but cared deeply about the keeping of secrets. I havent decided yet what I would do, but in the meantime, Im going to live my life the way *I* want it.