Hi all - I am new to this, and only started wearing a chastity device as my wife was fearful about my fidelity (without basis!). I lock up whenever I leave the house and unlock when I go to bed at night. It has never really been about denial - but I would like it to be. My wife likes me insider her, even though she mainly comes from oral. And I don't think she is "selfish" enough to have lots of orgasms without me cumming too. Any suggestions on how to change the dynamic of this a bit, so that it becomes all about her pleasure rather than mine as well? I have a CB3000, CB6000, Birdlocked Maxi and Bon4 Plus.
Tricky one this.... Probably one of the best answers is to talk about the whole situation openly... What you'll get out of it.... What she'll get out of it.... And the truth that you DO want to have sex with her, but maybe in ways that don't necessarily involve the penis every time! I've always quoted the 'win-win' approach. And that usually comes from a bit of give-and-take on both sides.... If it's fun for BOTH of you, then how can you lose?!!! Good luck! With the absolute kindest regards. J.
Thanks J - good advice. Easier said than done, but I guess if I pick my moment it might help....like when my ears are being warmed by her inner thighs.