Hi, I just got so exited that I had to post this. After a month when we tried chastity for 5 days while I was abroad, my wife didn't find it interesting and been too busy with our lives, kids and all, to continue this trial. She is also pure vanilla. That time I was told to put in on and not to remove it untill my arrival. I had the key that time. Nothing happened since. It's been taken off and hidden. Didn't talk about it much. I was just going on how I keep masturbating daily while I'm away from her etc... But the unthinkable happend today. Just about half an hour before I left for the airport she said.. "go and wash as we have to lock you up before you leave" and lock me up for 5 day journey. She is keeping the key this time. This could be a beginning of a great adventure. Thank you CM for all the support and knowledge Base. Can't wait what's going to happen.
Congrats Looks like your vanilla wife is now French Vanilla It may not be the huge shift to full blown kinky but it's a great step in the right direction. Keep doing what you're doing, don't pressure her, let her go at your own pace and before you know it she'll be kinkiest than you ;-)
Good for you. How did you get past security at the airport? What if you get a severe skin infection when you are away and need to unlock? You need to think about stuff like that because it does happen as it happened to me. Have fun and pray for the best.
What exactly is 'vanilla'? Where does a sexual relationship cross from Vanilla to whatever word we use to describe one that isn't Vanilla? I would say as soon as a woman is happy denying her male partner orgasms, as soon as she is happy holding the key to the device encasing his penis, she has made that transition. And if she makes him watch, or even 'worse' listen, while she uses a wand massager to give herself an orgasm while he is explicitly denied either an orgasm of his own or any direct role in hers, she is many glorious steps away from being Vanilla.
I had not even heard that word reference until I became interested in chastity...usually describing any wife that needed convincing to get into bondage(that's what a device is really). I think women are more adventurous sexually than we give them credit for, but they need to feel safe, and comfortable with many things(looks, feelings, mood), and not feel obligated to perform a script like a dancing monkey. So how I see it isn't that a vanilla person has grown adventurous, more like someone has a close enough relationship that allows someone to experiment and Have an open mind.
Thank you all. @Vinny I have actually bought a large padlock with combination and small storage space. I bought it few months back as I was hoping for locked up time. She set the lock so I have emergency key with me all the time.
Hi Jasmic, Thank you for your comments. You have been an inspiration here and to me a great source of information. I have found your journal and currently, i am somewhere at the end of March 2016 enjoying every bit of it.
Hi @Qveik - I have noticed you reading and liking my journal. I am glad you are enjoying my ramblings. Good luck trawling your way through it all lol! There are some juicy bits hidden amongst the angst and worries!
I relate it to Ice Cream all the way ... think of the 1000's of ways that ice cream is served ... more then half seem to start off with vanilla ice cream as the base ... then add chocolate / whip cream / cherries / bananas / nuts / fruit / candy / etc ... or blend it with flavor and create a "new" ice cream (chocolate shake etc) ... So in my mind "vanilla" really only means that when compared to the person making the statement, the "vanilla" person has added less / very little to the original base that is "sex". To define the counter part of "vanilla" ... "kink" ... it is those things that have been added to the original base. BTW ... I like vanilla especially after kink has been applied ... ROFL