Teasing frequency

I tease my sub at least once a day, usually more. I like him to be hot and bothered because it makes him more submissive, and I enjoy giving him pleasure too.

 

may i ask how you tease him what sort of things do you do ? could do with some ideas if i ever get my wife on board

 

I basically don’t get any teasing... occasionally I get a hand on my thigh in bed but that really is about it.

 

In an ideal world, I would want teasing daily but we don't live in that world. We live in a world where jobs get in the way or sap all energy and children hamper efforts at adult fun. Then there's the menstrual cycle and for part of that, my wife can barely look at me in a naughty way. So I take what I can get, when I get it from her and enjoy it. A snatched kiss and a grab of my device through my pants, a little verbal tease hear and there. Perhaps about how she finds somebody attractive.

When interactions are really slow, I like to amp myself up and visit BDSMLR or PornHub. I may not be able to touch myself but I can still get excited.

 

I get teased almost daily, but there are skip days. Some days, I get teased more than once.

 

My Mrs is squeezing my balls almost every morning before I am allowed to leave bed.
Sometimes a firm knee, just to give me a good start of the day and she will be sure that I'm thinking of her all day.

 

At least once a week, really don't think about the frequency of it much.

 

My wife just got home from a day out in the hills and needed a shower. I offered to help and she accepted. A bit of touching and stroking and 2 minutes later I was at the edge! It's moments like that that that make it worth while. I was instructed to lock it back up immediately upon exiting the shower. My fingers are crossed for more of the same later and to reciprocate.

 

I play with his penis, spank or squeeze his balls, sometimes just put my leg on his erection (he loves my legs) and we cuddle a lot.

When he's caged I squeeze his balls and stroke him through it.

 

Normally daily. Cage off teasing a few times a week or more. Just finished a 5 week stint w Grandkids visiting and almost zero teasing. VERY difficult but toally understandable.

 

Few times a week depending on how the week went.

Firm Knee between my legs. Some cage stroking. Playing with my nipples. Usually right before we go to bed.

Some verbal teasing during the day time depending on how the mood strikes.

 

Three or four times a week before we go to bed. She forces me for cleaning up the area first. After that she teases my cage and balls, plays with my nipples for half an hour. Half of the time teasing happens with her feet.

She only lets me come once a week. Rest of the days she smiles, turns around and goes to sleep.

 

nice he s a very lucky man

 

i usually get a few gropes per day but never this whole elusive spread eagle gloved/lubed cage free handjob teasing i keep hearing about . we use either estim loops or an estim plug and she has a remote for the device. she'll give me zaps with that much more frequently.

 

My hubby is locked 24/7 in an open-wire metal mini-cage. I love teasing him to see him try to become hard and press against the bars of his little cage, even better when he leaks a little precum. I usually tease him several times a day by playing with his balls or shaking/pulling on his cage. But I have also found that verbal teasing can be just as effective as physical, perhaps even more so.

 

It all depends on how good I am as a sub to my madam, if I am good and attend to her needs and wants them the teasing is ongoing, if I displease her or misbehave in some way then it stops. Ad depending how I have displeased madam it can take a few days or weeks till it begins again.

 

I get that too, but usually at night at bed time. She will squeeze my balls pretty hard, sometimes digging her finger nails in. She uses her knee too, her leg will be between mine, my legs will be spread a little and she will give me a "reminder" right in the balls. Not so hard I double over in pain, but hard enough to be uncomfortable.

 

Regarding my own situation, teasing is minimal!
My wife is currently very happy with back rubs or foot rubs. Very now and again she is in the mood for oral to to orgasm (for her). We have a 4 year old and an autistic 18 yr old daughter and both take her energy. Thus bedtime at the moment is usually just for sleeping.
Regarding the use of the cock cage, my wife is very pleased with my less selfish attitude now and really is starting to appreciate the cage and how it keeps me more attentive. Sometimes when I give her my tongue, she will stroke my leg or butt and VERY occasionally fondles my balls but at the moment, that is about it. She knows now that is all about HER pleasure, not mine - I gave myself too much pleasure over the last year!!
She considers teasing to be giving me too much pleasure so it really is given minimally.
Teasing is minimal also because of how much energy the kids take - but that is life. I simply can no longer nip off to the bathroom to crack one off.
Day 31 one now and yes, am feeling extremely horny but that is something I have to cope with. Acid reflux blocks her sex mood totally and as her support, I never push her for anything in the way of sex. We have talked about it and I told her that if she is up for it, she needs to instigate it or wake me up in the middle of the night - I am more than happy to help!
So yes, she is happy that I am comfortable in the cage. She is happy I am not wanking behind her back. She is happy I am not wanking at all.
Hopefully in time, the acid reflux can be resolved and she will feel more human again to be more intimate. As our youngest child gets older she will be less demanding and my wife will have a bit more energy to maybe give me a tease once or twice a week (even 5 minutes of butt/ball stroking just to help ease the blue balls would be nice!).... but this is still early days, so I expect blue balls for a long time to come - so to speak.

 

Hi, my hubby wants me to be verbally teasing; I am so vanilla and this is all new so what type of things do you say?

 

It's a miracle you've agreed to it at all

 

you could tell him what youd like him to do to you licking kissing various parts of your body but tell him he s got to be a good boy if he whants to have the privalige of pleasing you .i know you said you are vanilla but you could also try showing him your boobs pussy or yourself naked but dont let him touch again thats a privalige he must ern .when you talk to him try and be as graphic as posible as rude as you feel comfatuble with im shure that will get him horny lol
best of luck x

 

you could tell him what youd like him to do to you licking kissing various parts of your body but tell him he s got to be a good boy if he whants to have the privalige of pleasing you .i know you said you are vanilla but you could also try showing him your boobs pussy or yourself naked but dont let him touch again thats a privalige he must ern .when you talk to him try and be as graphic as posible as rude as you feel comfatuble with im shure that will get him horny lol
best of luck x

 

Thank you for sharing this. In so many ways this is a truly wonderful and beautiful post. Reality, that's painted with the brush of a loving husband, is something we can and should all admire.

Good on you!