Hello! Hope everyone is extremely well today! I want to discuss how to better take direction and how to be vulnerable to your Domme, Misstress, Ma'am, or what have you, without back talk, or retaliation. I struggle with this personally and want to understand, and discuss how other dynamics work over these complications without having a blow out.
My wife/KH/Mistress doesn't countenance back talk. That is pretty firm and fast rule that will get me slapped hard and quickly. If in a location where that can't happen she can do other things. About a month ago in an airport I talked back to her and she pinched me hard in the inner arm just below the armpit, ouch! I can communicate my dissent or unhappiness provided I do so in a respectful and appropriate way. If you're looking for a way to self regulate your communication that is a matter of self control. If you can give control of your orgasms to her, one would think you'd have the self control to master your desire to talk back? If you're looking for her help, training is all about positive and negative reinforcement.
One girl who comes to serve me does it as a break from heavy responsibilities that require frequent tactful verbal interventions to manage her life and that of those with whom she lives. She carries a flat, rounded pebble, nearly 2 inch, 50 mm, wide in her purse. If she feels tempted to speak whilst out in public with me, without permission, (strictly forbidden), she pops it into her mouth as a reminder. I know it's there too. If there's something coming up, which may prompt her to speak, I will mime putting a pill in her mouth. She knows what it means and complies. She gets a weekly chance to give positive, constructive criticism without fear of retaliation, so long as it is done politely, with respect. Otherwise she is pretty much silenced; because we both want it that way. But any such measure has to be something you both want and agree to. Guy
Maybe you should be gagged at home for a set period? There by removing your ability to talk back, after a few days or weeks, it should have the desired effect.
Yes, I would concur, a gag can have a salutary effect. After being obliged to wear one all day &/or all night, they do learn to be silent, unless given permission to speak. They may ask, non-verbally, but will often be refused permission. Guy
Thanks everyone for these awesome responses! I will continue to work hard on myself for a better and more satisfying dynamic
I have also found that a spell in nappies (diapers) with a dummy (comforter) in the mouth can help a lot too. You can get all kinds of fancy lockable devices; but I just padlock a length of light chain around their waist and between their legs, over the bulky reusable adult nappy and plastic pants. I give them tthe flat of my hand across the back of their legs if the dummy(on a ribbon) drops out. Or a good belting there with an evil Scots tawse, if I hear any kind of intelligible sound. The knowledge that I mean it, that they'll miss out on their next change if they're not a good girl and do their chores, has a very salutary effect, once they've been aboliged to endure a wet or soiled nappy rather too long. A bit gross, I know, but they want to be put in the position of vulnerability, and it works. If they need to go out, e.g. to work, then I let them use a thinner disposable nappy, to be discreet. They clean up and change their nappy themselves; they'd enjoy being changed far too much! I just unlock them, and have them relock themselves afterwards and demonstrate to me they are relocked.