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    I use to masturbate to deal with my stress and anxiety.
    My anxiety can be off the charts at times, it actually put me in the hospital once about a year ago.
    They thought I was having a heart attack I had all the symptoms dizziness double vision and my blood pressure was 203 over 199 I spent 2 days in the cardiac ward and on monitors.
    I literally felt like I lost my soul, anger & aggression was off the charts.
    I had no sympathy or remorse for what I said or did.
    Today was a tough day for me and I don't have the ability to relieve myself and I really don't want to go back on the medication, it made me imputent.
    Sorry I just had to share this to try to deal with myself.
    Thanks for listening.
     
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    I can relate to that but only to a degree.

    Certainly used to use masturbation to manage stress, especially during times when for example my partner who does suffer from bouts of anxiety wont talk to me.

    Getting better at dealing with the frustration as I get older. My partner is getting better at talking to me when she is anxious.

    The world is not a perfect place, however I think not being able to masturbate is better than flogging yourself off to the point of depression :)
     
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    I stopped giving a shit about things years ago. Been through some pretty rough shit. But I used to have anxiety real bad. Actually went spiritual and started microdosing. Best thing I’ve ever done.
     
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    I don't have depression or anxiety to any degree. I had a year or so where it was bad after a very serious illness and 3 weeks in a coma. I found meditating on the things that were most important to me and the things I most enjoyed, along with music, helped me.

    Now I still enjoy masterbation for stress relief when allowed, but whether allowed or not I find picking up my guitar and playing for awhile really helps. I imagine painting, drawing, or anything creative could be a helpful release
     
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    Yeah my son has that talent it skipped me lol, my son is a pretty good lead guitarist
     
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    Oh, I don't have much talent, I'm terrible. I generally play alone to myself, but it still helps.
     
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    Well that's still awesome, and I bet you are more talented than you give yourself credit for
     
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    Maybe so but God I sure could use a little tonight, Mt wife has been working extra hours at work to fix some previous accounting issues where she works
     
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    Think this pretty sums up the situation. ‘Used to’. No longer is that an option I would agree with @Arm II that finding a different outlet during times of stress is essential.
    Although @CagedJohn77 makes a valid point. Not giving a shit really takes the edge of the anxiety, just have to try accepting that they’re a things in life you cannot change. Worry/stress/anxiety will not make that any different.

    I think this is probably part of the problem here. A nice embrace, tease, or sex act certainly puts everything in a more positive light. Improving your hormonal balance and making everything just… better.
     
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    You might have missed Arm II’s point. It’s not just about the guitar but finding another outlet.
     
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    [QUOTE="Caged for life, post: 585602, member: 101387"
    Sorry I just had to share this to try to deal with myself.
    Thanks for listening.[/QUOTE]

    thank you for sharing. I’m sorry you feel that way

    That’s a moment where I would take a second and ask myself: is chastity more important than mental health?

    Maybe , you should get unlocked , jerk off, and see if it is truly beneficial? Having hobbies and outlets are important, but I’m not sure painting and such could have the same effect as the hormone release from orgasm :confused:

    Maybe you can arrange with your key holder to have orgasm every other week, and see if it helps you regulate your emotions?

    That’s just my 2 cents.
    Talking to a mental health professional and being open with your life choices could be very helpful?
     
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    I know this situation very well.
    I also had this mishabit. Jerking because of stress and anxiety.
    Sure it worked to get off and also to dilate my little pussy to a bigger one.
    But at all it didnt help against my anxieties and depressions I had.

    What helped has been mostly to be honest to myself. To release all these things, which set me under pressure all the time. Stopped to play a role.
    Telling my wife about my sexual desires.

    This really helped so much. The anxiety is gone by about 98 % now. I stopped sweating, no more heart aching, no feeling of being devided in two halfs.

    I dont need a valve anymore, have an extremly risen stress resilience compared to before.

    To keep it short:
    Giving release in an constant overpressurised system isnt the answer. Optimize the system and the pressure will go.


    Good chance!
     
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