step by step getting started

Marissa Rudder writes some good books IMO. Georgia Ivey Green has some stuff that helped us too. Sarah Fowler, Steps to building an FLR are ok too. You really need to read a few, find what you both want from all the options and slowly work into it. For us, we started with Chastity and my wife learned she liked the control and power. I found a submissive side in me and realized I was much more happy to serve her and worship her in our relationship vs what we had done forever. She wrote down from all we read that she wanted control of. We read it and realized she wanted it all. I made a post recently about items for a contract which was her idea. We realized that a contract wasn’t needed. We just needed to sit and talk through what she wanted and how it would be achieved in my service to her. Her plate is empty now, she is the boss in our relationship and I spend every minute working to please and treat her as my Goddess. We are in a 2 month trial and it’s pretty obvious it will be indefinitely. She is happy and over the moon and I am more in love with her than I ever have been despite not orgasming in 14 days and not having had piv in over a month. Weird to say that.

 

No book is perfect... Every single one has what you like and don't like. The most important thing is to put her needs first and then figure out how to achieve them. The rest will fall into place. YES! Communication is an absolute must in the beginning and throughout the whole process. My wife doesn't like to hear what I want. Not that she doesn't find it important, but she is uncharge and leads. I write a nightly journal and do include things I would like to be incorporate. I don't know when she does, but from time to time, she reads my entries and surprises me. Seems I mention things she has never thought about, but she see's them as things she has to implement. Thats our way to communicate during. You will find your own way... But definitely work and get it all out. Don't be shy. Be as open as you can.

 

And don’t be pushy with her!

 

Ms Elle X Is good, Obedient Love is also sound. There is so much variability it what people enjoy, or not, books and podcasts will be a hit and miss.

The key concept is for you to be committed to serving her. A FLR focuses on her and the things you can do to make her life easier and more satisfying.

It is not what she can do to satisfy your fantasy cravings.

If you aren’t onboard with this, you are not being honest with her or yourself.

If you are committed to her, then do those things. Do them consistently. She is watching and wondering how serious you are. If she sees you sticking with it, she will start getting more interested and start to lead.

The next thing to consider is meeting every week over coffee or wine (make her a snack), and talk about how the week went. What worked, what needs work. Be honest with each other. Some people like contracts and such, but I think talking will get you to where you want to be.

In time, you will find that your new roles will start to fall into place. As you go, then start looking for books. You will know what appeals to you.

 

The best books I found (and WE have read many) are the FLR series by JM Scott available on Amazon total of 3 The is also a corresponding page on Tumbir I have several of Marisa Rudders books (in my opinion they are crap) PM me if you want more input I have also found good ideas from FETLIFE if you go there you can find my profile and I can direct you further.

 

She’s interesting. I like her podcast.

 

Even if cuckolding is not what you are planning there are some useful ideas in this article.

https://www.literotica.com/s/how-to-cuckold-your-husband

 

I was going to recommend the website "flrjoy.com" but it looks like they recently vanished. Anyone know anything about that?

 

Totally agree with this