Overnight

I put nude as I don’t wear underwear to bed, I just wears pyjamas.

 

Sometimes nude but mostly briefs for support, Every bit helps, small cage and tight briefs help the woody detection and tells my body to stop it before it hurts.

Night time arousal rarely wakes me now, and when it does its more pleasant than anything.

Lucky for me without exception my partner will let me sleep without the cage after sex, and it has no problem on that morning waking with a raging rock hard hard on, those times ill be nude, literally. I roo the day she decides the cage goes straight back on after orgasm denial, but the thought of that is also exciting.

 

If she wanted me to put it back on she would tell me too I don't think she would like me to do that unless she asked me too, which if she did I would do so straight away.

Usually in the morning, if I orgasmed the night before I am allowed to stroke to orgasm in the morning before locking back up which is pretty much expected once I have showered.

If denied sometimes she allows me PIV without orgasm before locking back up, I never ask for PIV though, but I really love it when she offers that because it feels fucking awesum and leaves me feeling satisfied and yet horny at the same time. It doesn't end up being like the night before, but she would not offer it if she didn't want to, if that doesn't happen then I am permitted to edge a few times my my own hand.

Its the only time I get to have an erection is with her there.

 

Is your pain mainly coming from ring burn when you get caged erections? If so, the first thing I would recommend is using some Shea Butter, it helps lube things a bit and it helps sooth the pain, I use it all the time and think it's great. Something else I used to do is wear some very tight fitting underwear to help stop the cage moving so far from my body. I've been doing overnights for long enough now that I don't need the tight underwear anymore, so I voted for boxers, but I still use the butter. I tried going without it for a few nights and it got uncomfortable.

 

Yes when I get the tight ball bag I use bepanthen baby cream, it lasts for hours.

When I first start wearing after a long break the ring burn is hardest part. Not wearing for me now is a distant memory. My partner said it all the other day when she said "its our normal".

 

i answered nude because i wear nightgowns without my panties.

 

I just think it's a bad idea. I've seen reports of pretty severe penis injuries from overnight wear and erections. Also that's how you get penile atrophy (shrinkage). The penis needs to get engorged and flex overnight. If that's your kink fine but don't think you have to shrivel your penis away as part of playing male chastity games...

 

I didn’t vote. Jock strap wasn’t an option.

 

My wife says that too !!!

 

You do know you're on a chastity site, right?

 

Sure, but most sources say the cages aren't even necessary at all. If that's the case, they certainly aren't necessary overnight. What? I'm gonna jerk off next to my keyholder in bed the minute she takes my cage off? Do we roleplay that I'm an animal with 0 self control whatsoever? I don't really see the point. Cage goes on, cage goes off, cage goes on, cage goes off. Presence of a male chastity device does not change the rules of engagement with the keyholder whatsoever.

 

To each their own, but I don't think you'll find much agreement with that here.

 

Every couples dynamics will be different than everyone else's, and chastity can mean something different for everyone especially since everyone has different reasons for why they started doing it. Anyways what ever the key hold wants the key holder gets. If they want you to sleep no cage, then no cage it is. If they want you to have piv sex after using numbing cream and giving you a Viagra and then not letting you cum and force you to re lock up fighting against the erection caused by the meds then guess what key hold gets what key holder wants. That's what we all agree too right. Now that last example is obviously an extreme exaggerating of an example but still you get my point.

That being said most key holders are our wives or significant others and even professional key holders not our spouses aren't they're or are out to permanently damage us, and health is still a priority. And as the sub giving the dom all the power you have the final say in any s&m dynamic. Will the relationship slowly evolve and get crazier yea probably that's the role of the dom is to.push the limits bc the subs fantasy is giving up control and to get the same euphoric high the sub will have to keep getting pushed to new higher limits.

For me I've always slept nude ever before chastity. So sleeping with anything on just feels weird to me. But not sure if I'd sleep better in something more supportive.

If you're experiencing any bad chaffing or being rubbed raw etc make sure you allow your skin to heal. Use Neosporin or something to help it as well.

 

Exactly right , there is no chance of injury if your cage fits properly

 

Speaking of huge loads. How often do you all notice when you have a wet dream and it causes for a unplanned release. Not like you can control that. But. Obviously I'm sure it resets the clock lol

 

Surely a wet dream counts as a ruined and doesn't reset the clock.

 

Nighttime has historically been one of my highest risk times. My wife falls asleep quickly…like a few mins after her head hits the pillow and she is out. I can take longer to fall asleep. Without a cage on I would regularly sneak into the bathroom while my wife slept and rub one off with my wife never waking up. I suspect many other men on here do the same and is a big reason why wearing a cage overnight is important to live this lifestyle without cheating.

 

Ah, well that's all psychology. You can get out if you want out. Get a copy of the key, pick the lock, whatever. Innumerable ways out. But if the physical cage puts you psychologically in a place where you think you're trapped and don't try to escape, then I get it. For me the psychology of it doesn't change with the presence of a physical device. I know it's all a game and voluntary either way. Honor system or caged, it's no difference to me. If I "cheat" I'd tell my keyholder and accept the punishment.

 

Yes! For me it is been when the nocturnal erections occur and my member starts twitching against the sheets. That's when I would rather be in my cage. A couple of times when that happened, I got up and put my cage on. The last time I wasn't that disciplined. And when the second erection hit me, I started teasing myself against the sheets. If she hadn't woke up, I probably would have gone too far. It took days and multiple conversations for me to fully reveal what had happened, partly because of my guilt and partly because she wasn't ready to talk about it. She now realizes that we can't do that anymore. She has decided that I need to remain caged throughout our upcoming vacation even though she had expressed hopes that we could go without it.

 

For me, it's not the punishment. My wife wouldn't do that. It's the negative consequences of reduced intimacy and trust between us. I really don't want that to happen. Our life is just too good right now.