OK…. But don’t the women miss PIV?

My wife is bi and after moving in her girlfriend I was cut off from all forms of penetration, anal and oral lingus too. I have not fucked anyone in about 25 years. Do not even remember how it felt. I used to always cum after the girl did and then go down on her to give her a second orgasm. Plus I did analingus at a time decades ago when even cunninglingus was not popular with men who thought it was gay. Even my wife's girlfriend who gave me a mercy fuck once gave up after I fell out of her and she not only asked me if it was in, it was not, but also if I came, which I did all over my leg.

My wife also had a few surgeries on her vagina so it was not comfortable for her and she actually preferred anal sex at one point due to problems with her vagina. Plus she prefers sex with women. She does not find a penis aesthetically pleasing. Even had me circumcised at 25 in hopes of making it look more pleasing but it did not and all I had was a lot of pain for no reason. Her girlfriend did prefer men over women but she had a kid and a big vagina and I had a small limp dick so it never worked out for us and she had sex with men she met at bars until she got pregnant by one unknown guy. She had an abortion and after that she only had sex with my wife and her new cuckold husband she found online. Technically I had sex with them because as they used vibrators or went down on each other, I kissed and caressed them or licked the feet of the girlfriend who enjoyed that. Mostly they made me moan in pain as it got them wet and made them cum fast. My wife can cum in seconds if she is torturing my balls or nipples.

My wife does not like PIV since discovering she is bi with a strong preference for women. Some of that is due to her being bruised during a wife swap with a guy she knew for years and we saw every week when we played cards with him and his wife. He was my wife's partner for 3 years. She was bruised and never got aroused. She swore off men on the drive home and that was it.

Our sex is being whipped, then some heavy duty CBT and Nipple torture until I am screaming in pain after which my wife uses her vibrator and cums almost immediately. Then it is over. Sometimes she lets me jerk off but most times she does not or ruins my orgasm. She has no concern at all for my orgasms and only gives them out sparingly because she learned if I have none, I ignore her as I have nothing to lose or be submissive for. There has to be occasional orgasms to keep me interested and submissive sexually.

 

Do women miss PIV?
I don’t know in general.
I can only respond from my experience.

like every relationship the first period both partners seem to be on fire.
Like my first and my second wife.
But after a few months or years things change. Life gets in the way, stress, kids, etc.

so are we.
My second wife is a bit bossy, and keeps me locked from time to time.
As long as she doesn’t have to think about sex, or be a part in it all is well for her.
PIV and real sex is a struggle for her, due to medical, vitamins, hormonal, circumstances.

the only way she can orgasm is PIV. We tried oral stimulation. Trust me we tried several things.
But even without her getting her orgasms, she has no indication of wanting or desperation, or liking, or moving toward anything sex or PIV related. Almost like a non-sexual being.
She likes power control, she likes to lead and be the boss.
I am not really happy with her being non-sexual at the moment. but being locked by her and getting some kind of attention I can manage. Besides I really love her beyond anything.
Times might change, who knows

 

If she's got an incline for power games could you not buy a surprise strapon for her to use on you? Even if the reaction is bad once it's there you never know, she might think about using it?

 

No not at all. It’s all relative. No PIV but endless massage, tickling, licking and toys

 

Thanks for your idea, great thinking. We already have two strapons, but not used them for a long time. I can bring it up again, she might enjoy it