No orgasm in a month

Funny guy A laugh is good too.

 

Shepherdsflock, I Didn't actually have an affair with anyone . But the rest, you are correct. I don't know about a marriage counsellor, seriously, the level of life experience here and advice, she or he would want to be good to match it. The answer seems to be get the problem out in the open. Thanks x

 

Don't you just struggle when someone offers you advice and you know they are right? To include my wife in consensual non piv sex or intimacy with me in my cage and her holding the key. That is it. I'd love that. Now all I have to do is pick a moment to introduce the subject. On the bright side, I seriously doubt she'd leave me even if she refused. The great thing is, otherwise, life s good for us. It is just that my sex drive is high hers seems to have vanished. If only I got the two to mesh somehow. Thank you for this considered advice I really appreciate it.

 

Ah well, I cleaned up messes before. Although not like this one. I'm drifting off course...

 

Yes. That's what i need to do. Doing it is the tricky bit Seriously, yes, that is the answer. I appreciate all the advice I have gotten here.

 

Okay. I admit, I have gone off track. I do see your point and argument. Not sure where I go from here. I have spoken to her again, only today. She just looks at me as if she doesn't understand. i said 'do you really want to go the rest of your life without sex?' No answer. We are busy and happy in other ways. I guess keep trying. Thanks. Seriously, no marriage guidance could equal the folk around here.

 

Andy88, than thank you. I am preserving the status quo, to a large degree. I'm a responsible man in so many ways. Fought through financial worries, physical attacks, working all the hours god sent. But the one thing I could always rely on was intimacy and sex at home. When that went, I was gutted. There are grandkids a great family. I don't want to jeopardize any of that. yes, desperation is making me makes mistakes. I don't want to hurt my wife but I do want a sex life. I'm fit, I jog. I please her by being respectful, clean, I'm easy to live with more than I was. I don't drink anymore. I know, I'll keep working at it. I appreciate the advice. Thank you

 

Actually, took your advice. gave her a foot rub only last night. It was greatly appreciated. The ice might be cracking. And I've said that to her. We can have intimacy without intercourse. I am listening. Some pretty serious people on here. Thank you.

 

All that sounds wonderful, slavemarie. You are so lucky. Your goddess sounds totally on board with you. What a lovely time you are both having. Long may it last.

 

Yes, okay thanks. I actually had to read my own post again. I'd forgotten some of the things I'd said. Blinded by frustration and then this online 'relationship'. That has stopped. back to basics, trying to work with my marriage. The advice here has really pulled me up short. The thing is I've spent all my life being reasonable and strong. But I had her to support me, when that went (in terms of intimacy) I lost my way.

 

happy words, thank you true42. I'm trying.

 

Just read your article through before commenting King Hippo. Massive bravery and well planned to approach your wife in that way. Reading that piece is the nearest I have come to believing this might work. I got my cage, I haven't even taken it from the box yet. I'm 33 days now without release. I want her to be in on this. Of course I do. Otherwise i could just try and find an affair. The whole idea is to stay loyal. So yes, great piece. I have to decide when.

 

Yes, I would have tried. If you don't try, you know know. I will do it. Just need to wait until the mood is closer to accepting.