Newly locked

Hi everyone

My wife and I had let things slip in the bedroom after a few years of marriage. I have always been very submissive but have never told her, I think i mentioned it once when we started dating but took from her response that she felt a bit awkward talking about it, like "we're excited to be together and everything is new and great and this weird thing he just mentioned is going to spoil it a bit so lets pretend it was never said" was the kind of vibe i got
She's pretty vanilla sexually and has joked about anything BDSM being weird, but not in a malicious way
So on Tuesday night I decided to test the waters again as I had a feeling that something like chastity play could be a contender for adding some courtship and naughty excitement to our sex lives, empower her, make me more focused on work and being romantic again, and also secretly hoping she really enjoys our play so much that she implements some longterm lockup and a little bit of a dominant side starts to come to the surface
I pulled up and article written by a Wife who wrote how male chastity had transformed their marriage for the better and I said " We could try something like this?" as if I had only just learned of this new idea " She had a little bit of a sparkle in her eye, but dismissed it and said, "No, at least let me keep my dignity" and laughed
The next night in bed she said "You've been dreaming all day about having your little guy locked up, I know it" and laughed again. She had brought it up again! So I pounced on it and explained how I thought it was exciting and gave her a few convincing pro arguments.
"Ok. Go ahead and buy one. What have we got to lose" then she giggled about the absurdity of the idea.
So I did.
I ordered a CB6000s and we locked it on yesterday. She is still feeling a bit unsure and weird and giggly about the whole thing. Though my guess is that she is worried about what people might think of us for doing this 'weird sex thing'? Could that be it? She felt it and was curious to look at it and I haven't removed it since I put it on yesterday. I suggested I gave her oral sex last night but she was genuinely too tired (I hope, right?) I Slept with it on and to be honest haven't experienced much discomfort. I deliberately went with the CB6000s for a tigher fit and am wearing it the tightest I can currently stand with a view to changing to a smaller ring sometime next week.
She took the keys to work this morning and said "Are you wearing it now?" And smiled, half laughed. Then "So you can't jerk off to porn now in secret all day?"
I suggested she reads up on chastity from a keyholder's perspective (I said wife's perspective to her) while she is at work today and she said OK
So hopefully this will take off and she'll get some enjoyment out of it. I'm totally in the frame of mind that I'm doing this for her and not me and wont be trying to top from the bottom or get whiny etc
Thanks for reading. Any suggestions, advice and feedback is welcome

 

Thankyou! I'm going with no pressure. if she says she doesnt want to do it then we don't do it. At the very least, it's pretty cool that she didn't completely freak out or shut me down and dismiss it. And the least I can expect is a small period where I'm locked and she just kind of forgets about it. She does enjoy the idea that I can't jerk to porn or think about cheating on her. That's for sure

 

I do hope so. When she got back from work last night she asked if I had been masturbating all day with a smile. I replied "well, obviously not" Then she was asking about how it felt locked up; if it hurt, if i could feel it all day. Then she stroked it a little and asked if i could feel her doing that, and she could see that it was incredibly arousing for me, so she kept stroking and moving the device. Then she stopped and asked "what's going to happen when you get an erection?" I said " um, that is an erection. It can't go any further than that" She laughed and said "Whaaaaat?! It's just going to explode" and we both laughed about it all then she went to make something to eat.

Just before bed she put her hands down my shorts and started moving and stroking the device and we kissed like we don't usually kiss. It was lingering and sensual like it hasn't been for a while. I said "Why is it so erotic for me for you to have this power?" and she replied "Because you're a pervert" and laughed "You're going to be crazy after too long in this"
"In a few weeks I'll do anything you say. Crap. What happens if you get mad at me?"
"Yes! You better not pick a fight with me"
Then she took her hand away and we stopped kissing and said "That's enough now. Time for bed"
She mentioned '3 weeks' with a giggle but I think that she was playfully pretending to be a kinky dominant rather than she really has considered locking me up for any length. I hope that makes sense

She told me she hasn't read anything about chastity lifestyle yet from the links I sent her. Hopefully she does soon.

 

Also, I'm approaching 40 hours locked. Made it through 2 nights. The nocturnal erections were not as painful as I had read the were but are definitely uncomfortable and relentless until I get up to pee and go back to bed, then I can feel the burning in my scrotum which lasts a while. Everything looks ok down there and there's little to no discomfort duting the day and often I forget I'm wearing it. It isn't a loose fit or anything, I made sure to try all the rings and spacers and chose the ring one larger than the one that was instantly uncomfortable.
So, I'm just surprised after a lot of the reading I had done gave me the impression I would have to ease in to lock up a few hours increasing at a time. Can I just run with it now?

 

Thanks! We will! I'm coming up to 48 hours and already starting to feel it. Hopefully she doesn't let me off to easy and unlock early. After a week I'm sure she'll be seeing the benefits to her of a doting sub hubby

 

I know. I just had the moment when I realised that I was locked, I couldn't get out, if she doesn't instigate sex or dismisses my attempts to instigate it, I'm screwed. I can hardly go ask her now for the key so I can jerk off. 48 hours now. I can feel it. Already I had a few minutes of unbearable arousal. So I cleaned the kitchen, started the laundry, went up to her office room and knelt in front of her and casually started massaging her legs and feet and asked her what she wants for dinner tonight. I usually do my share of housework so maybe it will all go unnoticed