First let me say I'd never thought I'd post on a forum involving sex, kinks etc. The last few years have been a whirlwind that started with the deadest of bedrooms (3x sex of any type in 2.5 years). I finally took matters into my own hands and started treating my wife like a goddess (compliments, kissing, daily foot massages, back rubs while she paid bills etc), in the beginning too much. She went from someone who wouldn't initiate a touch on a shoulder to initiating kissing and touching (first time in ages). As time moved on and we started back up our sex life, I used a few knockoff CD's to dial back my raging hormones and desire to masturbate. Of course I flubbed the initial few conversations with her about it. She isn't quite vanilla but doesn't like to talk about sex at all and takes a while to warm up to an idea. She was weirded out with the concept and doesn't get it but accepts that I wear it (currently MCN Amicus) without her involvement. I did managed to get her agreement to leave the key in her wallet for when I needed it. I couldn't believe it happened, as we lay in bed one night after having some fun I asked her if I could and she just said "yes". I nearly came right there. There's a lot more to the story but I don't want to overwhelm my first post. As we stand now she still doesn't get it but I think with time things will hopefully progress. I'm optimistic...
Hello and welcome, nice intro many can relate to. This is a very friendly group that can offer all kinds of advice, just take it slow and enjoy the journey
Good afternoon I'm new to Chastity today I s my first full day in my holy trainer v3 My question is are my balls supposed to have a blueish tinge to them is my ring to tight or am I fine thanks.
Welcome, it's great to have another locked husband here. Your story is not unusual, in fact it's pretty common for husbands to be looking for a way back into romance and erotic love with their wives finding that a chastity cage to stop masturbating and bring the focus back to her is a wonderful aid. And being locked facilitates your proactive approach with the massages without placing expectations of PIV on her. Good luck.
Thanks. The cage certainly reminds me to hold off, even though I have the key. And I hope I'm slowly showing her everything we do doesn't have to end with me having an O. I'm sorry to say she didn't understand that at first and is probably still not convinced. I just have to de-rev my engine and speed of expectation. In life I go, get and do- but that doesn't work here, it's like losing weight- a salad for dinner will not move the scales, it takes time and commitment.