Where to begin? Isn't that always the hardest part... I guess for me I should begin with how Bec and I met, or more correctly started dating. We met in Highschool, She had a reputation for having had a lot boyfriends but there was something about that reputation that didn't sit right with me. We ended up being in the same group on our senior year expedition in the Gold Coast hinterland, a four day mountain hike that saw us have to make our own way from O'reilly's to Canungra. During this hike we encountered some very bad weather and I ended up taking charge of the group and see to it that everyone was dry and had some hot food. Bec became my focus and I really went out of my way to ensure she was as comfortable as possible. That was 23 years ago. Not long after that we finished school and got jobs, we got engaged and were married in November 95. Thing went well despite having to change jobs a few times, we had three boys and thought things were great. It was probably some time around the youngest hitting 3 or 4 that we started fighting, nothing much at first, just a little niggle here and there, a rude comment or insult... then Bec didn't want sex for a while. She had never had a strong sex drive and I was used to sometimes not getting anything for a month, but this dragged on for about 7 or 8 months straight. I started feeling very negative toward her over this, and I guess it would be about this period that the porn addiction started. If she wasn't going to satisfy me then I'd just satisfy myself. this carried on for many years, and I even joked with her about it, we had started having sex again, but I was still looking at porn all the time and masturbating at least 4 times a day. Needless to say this caused more fighting... a lot. It's funny now that I think about it, but, I knew that something had to be done. And I knew it had to be me that made the change. While watching some porn I came across a video of a guy being locked up and the girl saying " You belong to me now, no more masturbating, no more seeing girls on the side... I own you forever " and something in my mind clicked. Was this the answer? I looked in some shops and found what I thought was a nice looking cage and presented it with the key to Bec, I wrote my feelings and what I was giving to her in a card ( which is still on her dressing table ) and we locked me up. It turns out that cage was shit, and the next one was crap too. But, it was the answer. We talked about what this meant for our relationship and what we expected to get out of it. We have not fought since. She did offer m a chance to back out of the chastity idea when she had me unlocked for her Birthday at the start of April (my first release) I told her that while I appreciated the offer, I would rather stay locked for her. I put the cage back on and she did up the lock, she held me close and whispered in my ear "thank you" I immediately knew I had made the right decision. Since the start we have been changing how things work around the house, slowly. I am still allowed to do pretty much what ever I want, but, what Bec wants must be done first, without delay or argument... that has been challenging for me and there have been a few times where Bec has let me know that I am crossing the line. It's amazing how quickly I apologize now and get to what she wants done. before I would have told her to fuck off and do it herself. I would not dare to even think that now. As to where this is leading... who knows? We are not a typical D/s couple. We both submit to each other, on many things not just chastity. I do however want to serve Bec in whatever she asks of me. She has even agreed that a semi permanent chain/necklace with her name on it would be a good idea for me. I have started dabbling with the idea of making cages and the first one is nearly ready. Bec has asked if I think I can sell them if I make any more... I don't know, It's a thought I guess. All I do know out of all of this is that we are happier than we have ever been before. We don't have a contract, we don't have any set release dates or points charts etc... we don't have an emergency key, we couldn't think of any reason that I would need one and we did discuss this at some length. We have decided that this how we live now. All in or nothing.
My new cage that I made seems to be good. I gave it a trial yesterday and found it extremely comfortable. So it received a final polish and was put back on after our shower last night. I am very happy with being able to have my PA ring back in without it pinching anything. I also had the best nights sleep since I locked up. Bec was happy that I slept so well too. "No need to take it off anytime soon then" she commented this morning while she was getting ready for work. "No" I said... "I guess not."
View attachment 7171 View attachment 7170 Also I think my computer is trying to out me... View attachment 7172 lol
Ignore that last post... I was trying to edit it with my phone when Bec rang and by the time the call ended the editing time had ran out.
Ok... so what didn't work before... My new cage after polishing And fitted And what I see when I turn on my laptop
Now to serious things. Bec asked if I enjoyed being locked last night. "Of course I am" was my reply. "So if this becomes permanent you won't be upset?" she asked. Wow. Talk about being careful what you wish for
If it makes you happy then I'm happy. Was basically my response. In reality we just take things one day at a time. If I stay locked then so be it. who knows what the future really holds.
right. that makes sense. I know alot of chastity can be mental. Will she or wont she keep me locked up forever. Thats all part of the fun.
Almost everyone here refers to Chastity as A Journey. I must agree. It is indeed a journey and with it there are twist and bends that you may not see coming. I've also seen it referred to as A Slippery Slope. Again I must agree. When Bec and I started this we had no intention of Her becoming my Mistress or of me becoming her submissive. We told ourselves that we were still just a normal couple with the exception being that I was caged. And yet as I write this I am now collared, caged and registered as Bec's property. My collar will be engraved with my SLRN number and the screws that join it will be loctited in place. My place in the home is now firmly in place behind Bec, and I couldn't be happier. It isn't always plain sailing. I still have a strong will and sometimes I miss the que from Bec that I need to stop and listen. Punishments at this point in time are not anything major, but I'm sure that will change.