I have been cajoling my wife for several months now to try to get her to extend our chastity play beyond me just being locked in my CB while she has her period and she always resists saying that chastity is just another male dick obsession ! On Tuesday her period arrived & I put on the CB and gave her the key as usual but on Wednesday night she was really upset & crying saying that she wasnt happy with her sex life and that I was only bothered about what I wanted. I tried to talk to her but she was in no state to discuss it and we agreed that she would take yesterday off sick so that we could talk about things. She told me that she thought she had done wrong by having me wear the belt during her periods as it was reminding me of what I used to have with my ex and it had meant that I had become more distant. Then she asked me about what my ex used to do for me. I found this really difficult because I wanted to be honest but I didnt like to crow on about sex with my ex. I chose not to mention the femming as I knew this would be too much for her my wife does see my ex sometimes and I have always hoped that this aspect was never mentioned by my ex. She seemed to listen very carefully and take it all in without getting uptight. Then she asked me what was the longest time I had gone without orgasm and about how I washed/cleaned the belt when I had been wearing it for more than a few days. This gave me the idea that she was contemplating agreeing to extend our chastity play but then she said that my problem was that my ex had done everything that I wanted and that it hadnt really been true chastity at all but merely sex games all focused on me & what I wanted and that I was still focused on me & what I wanted it. She said that her own ideal would be for me to take the belt off there & then and for us to scrap it and have a normal sex life but that she wasnt convinced that this would provide the best long term solution as the ghost of my ex would still be there in the background with me recalling & fantasising about those chastity experiences. She is therefore prepared to act as my keyholder for 6 months but it is on the understanding that it will be proper chastity (I needed to understand that she wouldnt be dressing up, teasing or providing weekly releases) and that I would spend that 6 months focused totally on pleasing her. She actually said that to take my dick out of the equation might help me focus on her needs ! I asked about orgasms and what happened after the 6 months. There will be no orgasms for the whole 6 months and she said quite openly said that she doesnt expect that I will want to continue after 6 months. However if I did then although she didnt want to become the dominant partner & it wasnt quite the sex life she had imagined, as long as I was providing her with the sexual satisfaction she needed, she would agree to continue it but on a broadly similar basis she wasnt really into dressing up or teasing & for some reason it was important to her that I saw it as a lifestyle choice rather than a sex game - but she would allow orgasms from time to time. I thought about what she had said and suggested that although I could see what she would be getting out of it and I really did want her to enjoy her sex life I couldnt really see that there was much encouragement for me. She said that all I was thinking about was the chastity option but there was of course her preferred option of just binning the belt and getting on with a normal sex life. Everything she has said is right it undoubtedly would be better for her if I didnt have the obsession with chastity. I know what she is trying to do and that makes me all the more determined to get through her chastity challenge and give her a good time too. Shes expecting a decision by the time her period ends or the belt comes off for good but Im sure she knows what Im going to do. Its not really what I would have ideally wanted but she is right in that I have been focused on my needs and I will get through by telling myself that it will get better after the 6 months. Ive been trying to research this morning about the health aspects of 6 months without an orgasm but it seems that it is perfectly OK despite what you sometimes read to the contrary. Anyone any experience of going this long with a non-participative keyholder ? Im sure Ill be straining in the belt when Im looking after her needs and maybe, if youve got to go 6 months, its better is it without a load of teasing ? I cant remember the last time I went more than about 10 days and if I try to think about it rationally I can't understand why the prospect of 6 months like this excites me - but maybe that is the obsession of it.