Hello all! Have been playing with chastity with gf for over 2 years, 3 year relationship. She now keeps the keys on a necklace near her nightstand and I am NOT allowed to touch the keys. However she will not lock me up unless I ask her to or put it on myself. She says that she likes it but once its on for a few hour she just wants to take it off and fuck. Wondering about maybe some key holder challenges or ideas to push her to be a little more selfish? She really enjoys receiving oral and I can often bring her to climax however when locked she stops me before she gets there and pulls me up to have sex. I self lock maybe 1/2 times a month and the longest I've been locked is 24 hours. I feel like things will not progress unless I make a change but not sure what may help.
Im not the expert on this, but I would say go with the flow, thank her when she does enforce it, and tell her what works (how you feel, not what you want). The rest might, eventually, fix itself.
If you're getting unlocked because she wants to play, she's the boss, otherwise you could try to stay locked until she wants it
Headtrip- I agree thanking her and letting her know I really want this is key. Chasity doesn't TRULY begin for me until I want out and she tells me no....maybe it will happen eventually. Trying to be veryyy patient. If I don't bring it up or mention it, it stays in the drawer and sex life goes blahhh. So trying to find a balance. Caged for life- Absolutely, I would never tell her no you can't unlock me. Ive fought this hard to get her to take the keys so if she wants to use the keys and unlock then it is what it is. When I go down on her locked...I get her close and she starts to get close to climax but then she feels guilty and wants to unlock me so I get some....then while having sex she orgasms and doesnt stop me from orgasming. She's a one and done orgasm type, says she's too numb to have multiple usually.