How do you navigate keeping both partners happy? we recently did a 12 day lock up where the last orgasm was one from femdom play. She has had multiple orgasms from the last 12 days but feels extremely unfulfilled from not having PIV, where I love the feeling having been caged and denied. how do you balance this?
Unlock and give her what she needs on occasion. You just have to find the balance that works for the two of you.
I will never understand this as a problem. My wife likes having sex with me. She likes pleasuring me. I’m out for sex or play a couple of time a week at her whim. I’m in bondage when I’m out to assure my compliance and her control. Femdom is a power exchange she as keyholder should do chastity her way. Why would you ruin that by looking to reduce her power by doing it your way?
If I did that my wife would consider that an attempt to exert my will over hers. Absolutely not acceptable.
I second the strap on technique. It works great. The Vixskin brand hits the spot. Just be sure to warm it with a heating pad or hot water beforehand so it feels good sliding in.
We do a numbing cream condom deal sometimes. She gets off and likes it some. She likes the skin on skin… she did it a few weeks in a row then lost interest. I don’t last that long without it or some help from other meds
We have piv without me cumming, I’m expected to hold off, so we pause quite often, or we’ve used 5% lidocaine on my glans for a few minutes before playing if its been a long time in between sessions. We’ve also used a ruined orgasm before having piv if she’s going to want a more vigorous and long piv session. I’m rarely allowed an orgasm from piv over the last few years, I’m usually given ruins or full by handjob. This has also helped when having piv, my mind is completely focused on giving her pleasure. We have tried many dildos and the harness to give her piv, but my Wife really doesn’t enjoy dildos. She’ll occasionally take it that way but more to remind me of my place more than anything, and she knows it drives me insane. So more my benefit than hers.