I was let out for a treat on new years day after a month in chasity. I have been locked 24/7 for around 5 years now. Im let out about once a month. This morning i had still not put the cage back on as my wife had not pressured me too. This morning my wife asked me to put it back on and i jokingly said no. She immediately whipped me and got visibly upset at my response and stated she will leave me immediately. I obviously put it back on and apologized to her. Is it really that addictive for a woman as she was serious. What do women really enjoy out of it as she knows i wont cheat on her. I was shocked. Womens thoughts please
Just my opinion, but I guess the idea of the control of your penis is arousing and makes her the dominant one, so you saying no (jokingly) flicked her domme switch and wanted to show you who is in charge by whipping you. The threatening to leave, I’m not sure.
If you want an actual answer, you need to provide a lot more detail than a single sentence. What you wrote could be describing her not being happy with your flippant challenge to her authority. It could also describe an unhinged, over the top response. We as readers have very little to actually go on.
@buildup - 'they' who? Two people making up the couple? One of the partners? And by talking we, of course, mean an equitable exchange, where both sides voice their opinion and listen to each other.
a chase 1's Wife might not want to talk. As a domme she might tell just him to do as she tells him: end of story. My Wife can be like that. I've been told to shut up, stop asking why and so on. On the hand a chase 1's Wife may deign to explain her actions to him. I don't know: just saying it can be like that.
Well chastity is not really 'normal', so there are few rules to go by. Also, hearing one side of the story is always difficult to interpret meaning, desire and intent. Given that, I agree that better communications, from both partners would be the start. Finding out why he said said what he did, and why she responded like she did, may help avoid those extremes in the future. It's clear he wants to be controlled and she seems to like to be in charge, so a workable solution should be achievable.
The OP stated: I say there's absolutely no reason to rush and unfairly suggest her response to him could describe her--exuding a hint of misogynistic tang--as 'unhinged'. This may just be their type of dynamic. As per their declared D/s and chastity record, it's not only obvious that she did not appreciate his challenge at all, but that she's exerting her dominance in the relationship in a way that gives her the right to determine its very existence. And, by the way, I would not be particularly amused by his so-called joke either if I was her.
I agree that we really don't have enough information to go on. If you were already getting on her last nerve, then her snapping like a dry twig would make sense. It might've been your challenge to her authority (let's face it: jokes only work if they're funny), it might've been outside stressors, it might've been you having been generally irritating to her lately, who knows? Only she can answer that question. However, I've never heard that this was a common reaction to a flippant-acting man in a chastity relationship.
My madam and I had almost the same, after we went permanent chastity, I had spent several months locked and after madam had unlocked me for an edging, about an hour after the edging and just before bed madam told me to go lock up, without thinking I just said, il do it in the morning. next thing I knew madam was on her feet, and yelling at me! You will do as your told! When your told! It’s not your decision! It’s mine! Needles to say, I went and locked up straight away. When I returned, madam told me never to disobey her orders again! It’s best to keep in mind who is in control!