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    I give a little back story first. I have been dabbling with chastity since 2003 or 04. I’m not sure of the exact year but it’s been a while. Back in 2010 I started dating who is now my wife but she was never into chastity she really enjoyed sex. She may have Indulged me for a few hours or the day time but that was always it. 4 years ago she had cancer. She had a full Hysterectomy to remove all the cancer. Between treatments and coming to grips with her new reality that she no longer has a sexual drive. She does still have sex for my benefit occasionally but I can see she doesn’t enjoy it and sometimes it’s uncomfortable for her.
    a few months ago I threw out the idea of. Self locking and she could be as active or inactive as she wanted. Since then I have worn in off and on. I may wear it for 5-10 days then be unlocked for a week and repeat. On Sunday I was 4 days into my current lock. We were laying in bed and she asked how long it had been and what did I have planned I told he I was not sure how long I would be. I asked her if she had any thoughts on that and she really didn’t answer. I followed up by saying I would love to have her involved but she didn’t have to. Then I assured her there was no wrong Answer whether she said the day a week or a month. With that the conversation ended and we got up and went about the day. Since it’s been self locking I have been keeping the key on the dresser when I’m locked up. Last night when I went to bed I took my watch off and put it next to the key however when I got up she had already left for work and the key was gone. I’m nervously excited that possibly things are changing
     
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    Good luck on your journey! It looks like it’s heading in the right direction!
     
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    Sounds good! Keep us posted on your progress, and welcome to the club! The longer you're locked, the better it will get.
     
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    Good luck to you both
     
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    Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    Did you ask the cat where it hid the little shiny toy?
    ;)
     
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    sounds like she may be taking control, keep us posted
     
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    Excited and happy for you! Very glad you and she are finding a new path to explore :)
     
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    Haha no
     
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    we will see
     
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    Just a update she unlocked me today. She had kept the key 3 days from me and unlocked me after 7 days total. I think I will hangout unlocked for a bit. I’ll see if she asks me to lock up or not.
     
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    Tempted to suggest that you just lock back up and ask her if this was ok...might lead to minimal management chastity which is how my wife likes it
     
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    I believe she is interested and wanting to play or she would never have taken the key! Keep locking up like you have in the past. Keep talking! Stay consistent! That’s what’s she used to! She is in process of learning/adjusting to a new behavior!

    In time, she may learn the key is her friend! Sex will be when she’s ready! Good Luck!!!
     
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    I would be inclined to thank her for unlocking you, ask if she has finished using the penis and lock back up again. When you do lock back up, put the key on top of her bedside table/draw, not yours.

    I say "the penis" and it may be too early on to say "her penis" and it you say "my penis" then it still indicates you want ownership / control.

    She will most likely be looking to take your lead. If you don't relock, she will see it as a passing fad or a game of some sort and her interest will not likely increase.
     
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    So I remained unlocked all last week and she never mentioned chastity so this week on Monday morning I locked up again and left the key in the usual spot. Fast forward to this morning (Friday) we were up getting ready for work she was in the bedroom I was in the bathroom and I heard the key chain the chastity key is on. It was a giveaway keychain and it makes a fairly distinct noise. She came in the bathroom and said I’m leaving love you. When I came out her and the key were gone!
     
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    sounds familiar, my wife doesn’t like to order me back into chastity at this point as much as I would love her to. That may come in time, but right now just giving her the keys she knows how to play the game.
     
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    Yes! Just in time for the weekend! Happy for you! I still get butterflies in my stomach when I first realized my wife has taken the key!


    Considering what’s she been through, I’m thinking you didn’t have sex last week due to her sex drive! But.... Maybe this could be her way of saying she is ready to tease and have fun with you! Kinda of a way for her to prepare for sex and be able to deal with an uncomfortable situation?

    Good luck! Hope you have an exciting weekend! Anything is possible with patience and love!
     
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    Beware the butterflies. They're dangerous as cold, hard steel.
     
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    Well she is definitely getting more comfortable with the idea of chastity. She kept me locked for 3 days on top of 4 days before she took the key. She even debated if she should let me out or make me wait. I have been free for 3 days and I’m thinking Friday would be a good day to go again
     
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    Just ask her, openly and honestly, if there is anything that you could do, anything at all, to get her to try it again ... see what she says. I have always found that my infinite appreciation for being locked for her has a positive effect ...
     
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    We have discussed it a few times open and honestly that’s now we got to this arrangement. I don’t want to continue to push or nag her. When she has taken the keys I shared my excitement and that I was thankful for her giving it a try.
     
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    It sounds like you have a good feel for what is appropriate at this stage of your journey. I agree that pushing or asking too much, can sound like nagging. A definite turn off. If this really takes hold, you will have plenty of time to enjoy the give and take of chastity play, so don't rush. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    I believe you are progressing the correct way! Moving at her pace is the best choice! Considering what she’s been thru... I’d be just as thankful as you for her giving it a try!
     
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    Absolutely! Leave the pace entirely to her. Sometimes you'll think she's not interested and has forgotten about it. Maybe sometimes she does. But when she brings it to mind again, she'll know exactly how patient you've been and how good you are for her. (You are, aren't you?)

    It only gets better.
     
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    Just wanted to drop a quick update. I have been locked for 7 days now and 5 days ago my wife took control of the keys. Today we were laying in bed and I got her off with a vibrator but she didn’t attempt to unlock me. When we got dressed and going I mentioned something about being horny and all she said was good. We spent the day doing a home improvement project and after it was over we took a shower and after we laid on the bed for a few minutes. We were naked she sat on top of me and put her boobs right in my face rubbing my cage on her body. She probably spent 5 to 10 minutes teasing me before she got up and got dressed leaving me naked and locked. I guess she’s getting more comfortable with taking control. Based on our schedule I don’t think I’ll have another opportunity to be unlocked till Sunday. So we will see what happens
     
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