Hi. I am married to a very special, sweet, wonderful man that is interested in being caged. I am completely on board and excited about embarking on this journey with him and becoming his Mistress Key Holder. He found this site and told me about it so I joined it also. I am hoping to learn how to be a really good Mistress for him so I can make the experience really special for him. I have no idea whatsoever how to start or what to do. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated. What forums on here would be best for me to explore in order to learn what I want to learn?
Hello and a very warm welcome , Hope you find out lots of useful things on here and both you and your hubby have a fun journey together
Can't wait to hear about both of your adventures. We are a year into this and at this point it's here to stay. Questions will all be answered by many experienced people, not the right answer, but theirs. You will find your own take on it as you go forward. Good luck to you both
Welcome to the fetish that is about nothing; no orgasms that is. First off I might suggest that you do not have to be a Mistress to be a key holder. My wife has held my keys for over 4 years and yet she is not my Mistress. Despite all the websites and porn out there, chastity is a separate fetish that can stand on its own without and D/s stuff other than control over sex and orgasms. Chastity is used in many larger fetishes so if dominating your husband is something you want to do, then chastity can fit right in nicely. Just wanted to let you know that chastity is not about D/s but can be part of D/s play. Chastity did not work for us when we tried to do the D/s or FLR thing with it. I am sexually submissive but that ends at the bedroom door for me so it did not work as we first tried it. Only when we just added chastity to our normal marriage dynamic, did it work for us. Many men want to be dominated by their wives but usually only in the way they want to and end up topping from the bottom as I did. She take it slow. Do not jump into the deep end of the pool to learn how to swim and you should be OK. Trying to change you life overnight will never last. After 47 years as a sexual submissive, I know that taking it slow, communicating effectively and often with designing your sex life to be fun for both, produces the best results. In the end, you need to do it like you two want and not how you read about somewhere. Men tend to get aroused by porn and then want to duplicate it. However, when the initial excitement wears off many wake up one morning and do not feel like taking orders anymore. Just be aware of the difference between reality and fantasy. Do it your way and not anyone else's way. Have fun like we have.
this place has some good info. http://malechastitylifestyle.net/. Just be sure and use your own judgement on whats real and fantasy with chastity. You can play chastity with your husband any way you choose, there are no hard and fast rules. Good luck
Thank you everyone. We are excited about doing this and we appreciate all your kinds words and advice.
If being a Mistress is what you are truly after, there are several wonderful Mistresses I have spoken with here from time to time who will give you ideas, opinions, support and advice as you go along your journey. Take what you want and leave the rest, right ? Like Vinny said, you should go slowly, and maybe you would be happy as a KH in a FLR, not necessarily a Mistress. If you are willing to pay a bit from time to time, there are professional type Mistresses in many major cities where you and hubby can go, and the paid Miss will teach you some of the techniques and ways you can train your subby hubby. Wish you all the best.