I'm super new to chastity. My husband brought up the idea 9 days ago. He was terrified. I was totally willing to help him out. We talked about it and I told him to shop around for 3 chastity devices and I would decide. I picked a cherry keeper and it is on it's way! Background. Happily married for almost 5 years. My second marriage, his first. We've had 3 kids in the last 4 years and I have one more kid from my first marriage. Kids are hard work. It seems like we have shared our bedroom with a baby forever! Oh wait, we have. Sex life was stale for both of us. He is accustomed to daily porn and jerk sessions. So, I'm glad he asked me for help. He wants to be locked up and have me in control since he cannot control himself. He has been a very good boy since the night we first talked. Can't wait for his key to be around my neck. Already his attitude change has been amazing. But he is struggling. Anyway, probably oversharing, but excited to learn from others and be the key holder my husband needs.
Welcome @Lady G and luck in this new stage of your life. I hope you enjoy the frustration of your husband.
Welcome to CM. Currently locked in a Cherry Keeper myself! Mrs Chaste had me buy one for our holiday as we were flying and didn't want to set off the detectors. Very comfortable and Mrs Chaste likes the look of it. So when we got home she kept me in it instead of going back to the steel cage!
Welcome and good luck establishing a new relationship with your husband. Having kids is so rewarding, but emotionally and physically draining at times. Sounds like your spouse was smart to seek some way to introduce a new variable in your life that would benefit both of you. And smart of you to take the reins. Enjoy your journey.
Welcome, Lady G! Your story, except for the length of your marriage, sounds similar to ours. We have been married almost 46 years and as of this coming Sunday I will be caged for 1 year. The best thing we have done and we are happier than we have been in years. I hope your journey is a rewarding as ours has been.
Welcome--and congratulations! Read as much as you can here, and take full control with authority and determination. You'll love it. And there's no such thing as 'oversharing' here--post often and feel free to share and ask as needed. All the best.
Here's some feedback for you from a wife's view: http://tpe.serve101.org/altarboy/nt160107.htm Take your time and enjoy.
Good luck and welcome to the club/Mansion! I think if you keep reading the posts here you'll find that your husband's "frustration" morphs/gets refocused into some form of obedience, submission, whatever you want to call it, and that's the time when he will really learn to like it. Many of us here (me included) have reached a point at which not do they not really "struggle", and in fact don't even want to be unlocked! (other than at KH request) IMHO, that's the time when this type of relationship is most rewarding for both partners.
Glad to welcome you to the site. I am happy that your husband reconizes he has a problem keeping his hand off his penis and loves to masturbate. I too was in that position. Once he is locked up for awhile he will get use to wearing it, and only coming off when YOU WANT it too. Enjoy!
As stated above, read, read, read some more. And definitely share, we all do, and you will find there are many active posting & commenting our own adventures & advice.
Sadly this seems to be written by a male. Even although there are numerous references to being in a couple, the fact that everything is geared towards satisfying the male and very little towards enhancing the female's enjoyment makes me very wary.