hi all. i’m rob, and i live in the uk with my wife. i have always had fetishes, the usual femdom, fetish wear, and lately chastity. my wife has zero interest in any of them and to keep the peace let’s me indulge alone, her sex drive is pretty much zilch. i purchased a S/Steel spiral device from bondara having previously tried a cheapo plastic one from ebay to no joy my goal was to reduce my sex drive from highly to a little more than zilch. i would use porn and fetish wear a few times a week to satisfy myself. i’ve had the bondara for two weeks or so, daytime has been great, night time as i’m sure you all know has been horrendous at times and i’ve had to unlock. i was doing 24 hours in and 24 hours out after settling in. perseverance has paid off and last night i had a relatively good night. my wife knows i have my device and i’ve asked her to hold the keys, in a bid to curb my masturbation but she has no interest, she doesn’t want to see or feel it. i respect her decision but chastity is something i am keen on and so will manage the key holding myself. my sex drive has reduced over the last year and so i feel i’m not going to cheat. we had a long multi year period of no sex which ended a month ago, i don’t know why and it’s not been discussed, long story short, i really didn’t enjoy it, and to be honest i realised that i was happy within myself with that. even after self pleasuring all those times i felt disgusted with myself and time and time again i told myself that that would be the last time! i have regular urology appointments and so will unlock a few days before, as well as a thorough deep clean once a week. thinking back to the first time i tried this latest device on was comical. lots of huffing and puffing. i use vaseline over my sack and penis and a smear around the base ring, leave for five mins and then almost wrap my penis with a baby wipe/wet wipe and thread the end through the cage and out of the tip, i then pull this as i’m pushing the cage part over my penis. it stops my skin from bunching up near the base (i am not so much lengthy, but more girthy) finally i pull the wipe completely out and attach the padlock. another smear of vaseline around wear the base ring will sit and i’m all set to go. i’ve not had much, if any leakage. i have noticed the tip of my foreskin has been a bit puffy. i was feeling particularly horny a few nights ago whilst dressed up and did manage to cum whilst wearing it through very minimal touching, and more nipple stimulation. it felt good but i immediately felt bad afterwards. keep up the great thread guys and gurls, ive enjoyed reading them. rxbuk - rob