Hi everyone! I've received a fascinating message from a self-locked sub male asking me for a little advice and my thoughts regarding his situation, but before I can answer his message, I would like to have everyone else's thoughts. The reason I am asking is that it's genuinely piqued my interest and has me curious. I don't want to give him any advice myself until I've found out whether other Mistresses and subs think the same way as I do. So basically, the scenario is we have a sub who is in a loving, committed non-sexual relationship and this sub is desperate to serve his Goddess, however, (like me several years ago) she isn't really interested in partaking in this kind of lifestyle. So, this sub has self-locked and committed himself, even though his Mistress isn't really into the whole idea. Well, this is my understanding from what he's written to me and this is an extremely abbreviated version of events. So basically, I've got two lines of thinking. The first is that if she's not interested, then he shouldn't be *imposing* this lifestyle on her as it's not really consensual and he might need to consider that she may feel uncomfortable with it. I think this because many moons ago I was really uncomfortable with it. My second line of thinking is that, seeing as he has already taken matters into his own hands, why not step it up a notch and really make her feel like the Goddess she is. He clearly believes she is the most special person on this planet. Perhaps he could, I don't know, maybe make his own timetable whereby he manages his time at home with her by ensuring he does all the housework, constantly rubs her feet, does all the cooking, buys her lots of gifts or ensures there are always fresh cut flowers in the reception rooms etc? Then she can enjoy the fruits of his labour without perhaps having to feel obligated to do something she's not ready for or uncomfortable with? Let me know your thoughts as I think this is really interesting. Thank you so much in advance, I can't wait to see what you all think!