Been here a couple months give or take just a few observations I feel pertinent. Not everyone in chasity is or desires to be a sissy or feminized. If that's your thing wonderful but let's not assume that's an universally shared goal. Boundaries and consent matter, yes I see I'm a super sub trend abuse me. That's not all healthy in most power dynamics. Everyone's journey is different being locked forever is not one size fits all. Finally as in life not everyone that disagrees with you is against you.
I agree, I am not into feminization or sissyfication at all. I really hate when people talk (write) to me as I am. Like when people comment on my “clitty” on my photos. I have nothing at all agains people who are into it, as long as you are happy. But please do not assume others have the same kink.
It bothers me as well. No hate towards anyone but I have a penis not a little clitty. It just happens to be in a cage.
yes, this one crops up from time to time. We're a broad church. There is now a whole area for "Chastity without feminisation" in reponse to this.
I'm not into feminization or sissification, but I have nothing against it either... I respect everyone's lifestyle as long as no harm is intended. I agree it's not healthy to just assume people who lock up their cocks are into those particular fetishes. It's generally not good to assume anything, because when you assume, you make an ASS out of U and ME & not the good type!
What seems to be the problem? Do you feel that chastity always goes with feminization? Sure it is not. From my experience (I always start with chastity only) it somehow tends to drift in this direction. My locked subs either know it from the beginning or they entertain the idea as we progress. Some don't and it is absolutely fine.
They're just pointing out that people like to presume things way too much and people generally outside our community here tend to believe that chastity = feminization, which we know isn't true. Personally, I blame the major porn sites for popularizing this myth, as they tend to glorify sissification and feminization. However, lets not forget that alot of people (more than just a few here and there) are not able to distinguish fantasy from reality and those highly impressionable folks tend to spread this false info like wildfire. Point is people assume way too much that just because you're in chastity means you're a cross-dressing sissy. Not true, but people believe what they want unfortunately. And that's what bothers us.
Not a problem just clarifying chasity and being a sissy or feminized aren't mutually exclusive. It's really common on many posts a good sissy where's their cage etc. It's rather unnecessary and quite frankly annoying at times. People don't want their gender assumed and I respect that. However don't assume every man in a cage is a sissy or wants to be one.