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    Hi all,

    We are looking to "raise our game" slightly and move to a slightly more what I can only describe as a "domination led" relationship (sorry, I can be a bit crap with words sometimes!).

    My Wife is looking to explore her dominant side (and I'm happy for her to do that!) and as we researched chastity (Lucy Fairbourne's "Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders" was invaluable), we are looking to reseach this aspect now.

    The two books I have found are:

    1. The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners.
    2. The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance.

    And I was wondering:

    1. What people thought of these books?
    2. Whether anyone might have any alternative books suggestions
    3. Whether anyone has any real life suggestions?

    Ta. :)
     
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    The Mstress Manual by Mistress Lorelei is an excellent book. I recommend it highly. I read this one cover to cover several times, there is lots of good information in it.

    I have also read "The Sexually Dminant woman" and I found it to be very much a beginner book, and was disapointed. My copy looks brand new and is collecting dust.
     
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    Mistress and i have a mini library. I would highly recommend anything by Claudia Varrin.
     
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    We have picked up The New Topping and New Bottoming book found below. They were pretty good but more for beginners but have a few things in there for more advanced people.

    The New Topping Book
     
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    yes, they are beginners books...but excellent! Mistress and i read them when i first started.
     
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    Thanks everyone.

    I wouldn't consider us to be beginners from a sexuial perspective, but certainly as we potentially enter this new phase of our life, we always like to start from the basics.

    Thanks again.
     
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    A quick bump from me to say that I've just ordered the 2 books in my original post!

    Better late than never I suppose! :innocent0002:
     
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    Both are good reads that you mention

    But i think that Diva Claudia Varrin has produced the best reads going on FemDom.

    http://www.claudiavarrin.com/
     
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    Now you tell me!! :anim_63:
     
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    try SM101 by jay wiseman very informative book by someone very well respected in the community.:scared0016:
     
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    Well the books arrived on Tuesday and I have given the first one to her (The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners).

    She started reading it Tuesday night in bed and continued again last night!

    I'll keep you posted. :character0180:
     
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    Hi lockednloaded,

    Some advice: if you have resisted the urge so far, DON'T read any of the books you give your Lady, especially the Mistress Manual. (Which you should have given Her first as it is one of the best, if not the best, introductions to FemDom relationships as they apply to committed couples as opposed to "play partners".) If there is anything She wishes to discuss with you regarding it or the others, She will in Her own time.

    This is for your benefit as much as Hers. If you read them, you will compromise what She learns and make it more difficult for Her to establish Her dominance and build the relationship you desire.

    Assuming that you are truly desirous of having a real FemDom relationship, you need to give Her the reigns and trust Her. Keep in mind, once you have asked Her to accept your submission, the relationship now becomes about HER, Her desires and Her pleasure, not yours. Too many men wish for this not truly understanding what that means and become disappointed when they find out that their Mistresses fantasies don't necessarily match theirs or that being in service to another is WORK!

    For your reading pleasure, I recommend Miss Abernathy's books which will give you instruction in how to serve your Lady in ways OTHER than sexual or kinky, which She will appreciate and perhaps help you gain Her favor. This is, again, assuming you truly do wish to serve Her pleasure and make Her and fulfilling Her needs the essence of your being.

    The one exception to my not reading advice might be Jay Wiseman's SM101 as it is a basic "how to" guide for BDSM play that has a lot of good safety related info. Safety info is a good thing for everyone to know. However, a Femdom relationship does NOT necessarily need to include BDSM, it is a power exchange where in you give you Wife or Mistress control. She will decide if She wishes to include BDSM or not.

    Good luck to you both and enjoy the ride,
    Mistress Lisa's Anthony
     
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    Reading may have spoiled me already!

    Good advice Anthony, and welcome :)

    Respectfully,

    Oh, and I'm known as 'Cindy' when I'm really horny, such as now ;-) :cat:
     
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    SM101 by jay wiseman very informative, a good basic understanding:character0114:
     
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    Have you read "At Her Beck and Call - The Whole Story"

    http://www.amazon.com/At-Her-Beck-C...swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=8-6&qid=1410830466

    Since you say that you are not beginners, you should find that this book will "Up your Game", so to speak. It covers pretty much all of the bases involved in a Female Led Relationship.
     
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