My wife just proved that just teasing alone can bring on a gut wrenching orgasm like we both enjoy. After 3 so-so orgasms yesterday, she was wondering if we should go back to chastity again to bring back the mind shattering orgasms I used to have, and quite frankly so was I. I opined that I think the problem is the lack of intensive teasing she used to do. That was something that we did do before chastity. It was usually a race to my orgasm and the sooner the better. Turns out that I was correct in my assessment as I had a spectacular orgasm, as good better than the ones I used to have after being denied for weeks. I think that the problem was that after a period of time being teased and denied, I went into a mode where I did not allow myself to get so easily aroused. Maybe it is an old man thing but I had to struggle to cum after a chastity period. Now it was easy. I could have cum after a minute but my wife kept edging me for an hour making me believe that since I came yesterday, I could wait a few more days. Once she started oral , I knew I would cum and I did in spectacular fashion, both proving my hunch and that I still can cum a lot in two days. We are thinking to do it again before bed time, if we are not too tired. So now we see no point at all in long term chastity. Still fun to be denied for a few days or a week just to keep the element of surprise active. I do better without performance pressure. Since we never went to the teasing levels that we did in chastity play, we had no idea that I could have great orgasms just from the teasing alone. Anyone try this or had a similar experience of just teasing for an hour and then having an orgasm? Try it and maybe you too will be surprised.
Should read that teasing was not something we did. I think the whole point of the above post is that it was not chastity that improved our sex life but rather all the things that we started doing while I was being denied. All the teasing and massaging, etc.. One of the reasons I felt that today's orgasm may be better than any I had in chastity is that when I am denied a few weeks, my urethra hurts when I cum. It burns due to the force of ejaculation. Today I had all of the same pleasure but without the pain. As I said, this can just be an old man problem.
After several weeks of denial my orgasm is just quite different. As you say a slight burning sensation and more like a ruined orgasm as it flows out rather than shoots. But very intense, deep-down feeling. A couple of more can follow quickly and then everything feels normal again. The motivation for chastity for me is not the eventual orgasm, or doing things for my wife to earn an orgasm. The long-term effect of being denied simply has a positive effect (on me and our relationship) and I don't drift off into distant space anymore. Hard to explain!
But we are talking about orgasms and hallelujah !! @Max51 is so on the money! I have thought this for ages! Long term chastity is not for me and my boy but god ! It can make a huge difference to your orgasms- that and the deep bond that a great relationship brings Nice to hear some realistic comments for once lol.
Yeah, I am like that and a lot of posers on sex forums do not like to hear the truth. They want to believe that all black guys have large cocks and their wives will enjoy being pounded by them for hours. Once someone posted that their wife made them server all of their family and friends, dressed like a maid wearing a chastity device. After the meal was over, his wife sent him into the bathtub and asked everyone to pee on him and they did, even his parents. I was expecting the replies to say it was B.S. but instead there were sincere congratulations and envy. I think that those who actually do the things they post about can spot a fake. As I always say, if the women does not pee at all during a multi hour sex fest, it is made up. I have never been with a women that does not pee before and after a few orgasms. They at least go into the bathroom to fart. @harddenial for me it was very different. I got consumed with thinking about sex all day and looking at porn instead of working or anything else. I was bugging my wife and no amount of domestic discipline or extensions of my chastity, had any effect. We were trying to do what was not right for me. I came great yesterday and am not thinking about sex at all. I was very productive today and in a good mood. Different strokes for different folks, as they say. My wife said that she did not want to be a bitch and a cock tease. She felt smothered by the added attention I gave her out of horniness. Funny but when I have orgasms regularly, I do not get less attentive because there is always another orgasm around the corner. It was completely different when I had one orgasm a month. I would get grouchy after my orgasm and stay that way for days. Probably because I knew that I would have to wait weeks for another one.
My experience is similar to @Max51. Denial for a week or two (the longest I have gone) tends to result in a pleasurable but anti-climactic (pun intended) orgasm at the end. Teasing, on the other hand, with an orgasm after a day or two, is amazing.
The truth comes out. I really think that there is something else going on with men who want long term denial than just sex. Same as why I was drawn to BDSM due to untreated depression. My desire to be beaten decreased tremendously once I was treated. Now it is just a sometimes game and much tamer than what I was used to. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with long term denial, just more going on then playing a sex game, which is how most of us view fetishes.
@Max51 you seem to be having more orgasms than a rutting stag. Are you purposely trying to upset the caged males on here with your tales of copious fountains of erupting semen issuing from your, self confessed, miniscule penis.
Yesterday I was milked for over 40 mins. A little tender today, But OMG! It was better than orgasm. Drip, Drip, Drip. It adds up. No fountain for me.
For me, it is all about the tease (which denial is a part of). Essentially the head game. That and the fact that, like Pillowbiter, the milking has become so intense that it has supplanted in my mind the orgasm as the "apex" pleasure. I still physically desire an orgasm, and strive for it, but it is the need and striving along with the dripping pressure that I want now. If I have an orgasm, I obviously experience an intense pleasure (read deep, grunting mind blowing pleasure, especially if teased/denied for a long time caged or not), but there is an immediate down (chemically I'm sure as well) and I feel depressed as well as genuinely upset. The high that I've been on, having my cock teased and so sensitive it feels like a live wire in my pants, is gone and has to be replenished over time. In that time, I miss the wild/heady feeling I have had for the previous denied period, my wife misses the sexual attention I've given her to suit her needs, and in general it is a fairly miserable replenishment period. My wife has joked that the highest degree of punishment she can give either of us these days is an orgasm, which is somehow ironic.
direct answer to the original question - not read the rest of the thread .... what orgasm>???? My sub doesnt get any
i think sex and human beings are way too complicated to be put under labels, as long as each of us is happy, whether we get to climax or not is down to each person/couple. My sub hasnt cum since last December, but each time I edge him or we do play, i always ask if he is ok and happy. That is the most important thing to me.