Yesterday was spent pampering my wife and we had sex at night with an orgasm for her and me locked up the whole time. OK, I just had an orgasm 4 days ago so I was not expecting anything. This morning I made my wife breakfast and then gave her a morning massage. A little while later she tells me to join her in bed and lick her butt, one of my favorite things in the world. She then told me to remove my CB6000s, which means she wants to orgasm while holding my penis. Standard procedure with her so it did not phase me at all. So off it came and she started playing with my penis in a teasing way. She told me to play with her and then after a few minutes, told me to remove my hand because she wanted to use her vibrator. She now uses it exclusively since I told her that I did not mind and preferred that she get off the best way she can. She had a powerful orgasm, started jerking my penis a lot as I gently caressed her. Then she told me to lock up and leave the room. Later on, when I was massaging her feet, she told me that I missed my opportunity to cum this morning. I told her that I did not know she wanted me to cum and I was focusing on her orgasm, not mine, so I was not really concentrating on what she was doing to me. Our chastity lifestyle has no set chastity period but I know it will be less than a month because I get very irritable at that time and no threats of prolonged chastity have any effect on me. It only is worse for her as she has to put up with me even longer. So she can bring me to orgasm two days after my last one or 3 weeks later. Most times she does not tell me and it comes as a surprise, pun intended. The problem in not knowing, aside from wasting $25 a pill Viagra trying to guess, is that I suppress my sexual urges so it becomes harder for her to get me hard, pun intended again. Made me wonder what most of you do. Are you informed ahead of time that you can orgasm or does it come as a complete surprise?
Similar to us. I never know when I am going to have one. When we first started I suggested five to my one but that has never happened. It is strange how at the very beginning my wife would feel uncomfortable with me going without but only this weekend she woke me up by tickling my balls which was lovely but very frustrating! Once awake she said good boy now make me a cup of tea!
I don't know either. My wife is happy to keep me waiting weeks or months. She enjoys my tongue. She doesn't touch my cock and penetration is only allowed by dildos and my fingers and her fondling of my balls and ass can take place on many occasions over weeks before an orgasm just happens one time when she overdoes the stimulation.
noone knows when my sub is going to cum, well god might but i dont and he doesnt. It will happen in the moment
Good to know that our journey is progressing like others. Today was telling. I was in the shower and my wife had just stepped out and was drying herself. I told her that she was making me horny and she replied that she just came yesterday so leave her alone. No mention of my orgasm so I think she now has her head in the game, so to speak. I am conflicted because sometimes I need to use Viagra at my age due to medications and other reasons. They are very expensive, so guessing when I should take one, often results in spending up to $100 a month just to make my teasing better for my wife. When I do not know if I can orgasm, it is easier for her to get me hard but as soon as I think she wants me to cum, I lose my erection. Frankly, after two weeks in my CB6000s, my penis goes into hiding and even I cannot get it hard, which is something I never had problems with before. I want to know and I don't.
@Max51 Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that your wife was not interested in sex with you at all. That she much preferred sex with females, or have I mixed you up with someone else.
Unless my wife opts for one more and then permanent denial, I do know when each of my future opportunities for orgasms will be. She has chosen the Blue Moons as listed in the Farmer's Almanac. All are at least 2 years apart with some being 3.
We have an estimated time for release (pun intended)...She sets an objective, and we track to it...but when the day/time cums, she may change the day/time (move it out) based on any number of factors. She only does this after teasing me to the brink repeatedly. Right when I'm on the edge for the 100th time, dying to cum, begging her to cum...she tells me (if she is going to move it out) by whispering in my ear. Never ceases to make me groan/want to almost cry, no matter how much of an inkling I might have had prior...its like my brain just can't believe I won't be cumming after so much teasing. She loves to see me squirm and beg after being so stoic.
i never know when & have learned to never expect it or i may be disappointed. The only thing i am made aware of is when i am going to be teased, but it hardly ever leads to permission to cum. my Wife knows when i am close & has gotten so good at knowing She stops right before i do all the time. It's been a long time since i have been permitted to have an orgasm & i don't really think about it much unless i am being teased & edged.
I have actually had this conversation with my sub, and he basically doesnt want to cum. He realises that it is a pleasant sensation, but he also realises that, what he gains by not coming is better than cuming. In fact now, if he thinks he has cum, he gets cross with himself. He has had one or two unwitting ruined climaxes, and he gets really angry with himself. I dont think he wants to cum anymore. We do often giggle, that we used to sometimes struggle to make him cum, and now he really struggles not to cum, but how much more fun this is. MB
I have to admit (and do with my wife), this is exactly how I feel. The feeling of being "on the edge of cumming" constantly is much better than the actual orgasm. After a hot teasing session, she will sometimes ask "do you want to cum now?", and I always respond no now...I don't want to cum, I want the teasing/denial to continue forever. My wife has never understood completely why this works for me, but she has accepted it and now uses it heavily for her enjoyment (as she should!). If I do make a mistake while having uncaged intercourse (something she demands/needs), and trigger an orgasm, I will even ruin it myself (I have a strong pelvic floor). There are two warring voices in my head, one that is physical and urgently beating at the cage to cum, the other is "above" that voice, that calmly answers (despite the urgent, humping, dripping cock), "no, I don't want to cum".
i can definitely relate to the last several replies, the constant desire of "wanting to cum" is so much better than cumming. The emotions after i am permitted to have an orgasm leave me with an empty feeling that i can't accurately describe. In the first few months of being locked when my Wife & i first used the device, i couldn't stand not cumming. If She asked me if i wanted to i ALWAYS said yes. When the chastity got more serious for us by the end of the first year, we talked about it & discussed that my orgasms should be spread out over much longer periods of time. It went from every 2 weeks to about every 5 to 6 weeks. Once my Wife got me to go longer than 2 months She realized the benefits for Her of the long time periods. It was something i noticed & agreed with as well, so it was decided to go even longer which led to a 158 day stretch. This was an incredible time period for me with my desire to please Her having increased dramatically. She saw how much more attentive i was, more eager to see She was taken care of & liked it very much. When i was finally unlocked & permitted to cum, i felt naked without it on & soon after, not as content as remaining locked & cumless. We talked again & i told Her all about my feelings & She had absolutely no problem with keeping me locked all the time. Right now i have surpassed my 158 days & currently at 162 with no date set of being unlocked. i have hinted & joked that once 6 months is reached, 1 year should be easy. my Wife has said nothing in response to it, but Her actions of not attempting to let me penetrate Her since mid 2012 speaks loudly.
I find that after a week since my last orgasm, the teasing is just as good as is the orgasm. Not much of a difference if I go longer without cumming, at least not enough of a difference to make it worthwhile. I guess we are all different. The longest I have gone is a little over 3 weeks as of last month. Now if I do not cum at least once a week, I get depressed and irritated. My wife says I am much easier to live with when she keeps me sexually satisfied. The opposite of what most others experience.