Chastity regulation

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  1. IB-Chaste
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    Ok, so my wife and I need some answers… no… we need options… no I need options to give to my wife.

    Here’s the backstory: [insert backstory here]

    So, after all of that, we find ourselves in a position where we don’t know what comes next. How do we manage our caged lifestyle going forward?

    I have thought of a few examples:

    Dice roll lockups
    Roll a dice - number = number of months lock-up, with a break of same time in weeks after.

    Dice roll/Wheel decision
    Locked permanently but on a weekend we take decision out of our hands whether to unlock or not.☹️

    Or

    Could be rolled impromptu when mood feels right. Eg as massage gets heated or she feels horny.

    Set periods
    Eg 2 months in 1 week out.

    Set events/times
    Always in but predetermined times of release. Eg Birthday weekends. Holiday periods.
    Cancelled if wrong time, moved back a week.

    1 in, 1 out
    Eg. One month of denial, one month of freedom.

    Period caging
    Lock up when period starts, our when it’s done.

    No release
    Just never use the key again unless it’s an emergency.

    Sex Tokens
    We each have so many tokens:
    Hers = period out of cage
    Eg. 1 x 2 weeks. 3x 1week 2x weekends
    Mine = sexual favour.
    Eg 2x sex
    2x handjob (with allowance to ruin. Or Separate cards)
    2x blowjob


    No cage
    We just stop.


    I think I need more ‘options’, I’m thinking I’ll hit her hard with every conceivable possibility…

    Here’s the question: How do you manage your lifestyle?
     
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    I think you forgot the backstory.
     
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    Nah, the backstory is irrelevant. I added it for comedic effect ;)
     
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    I laughed.
     
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    The backstory is important.
     
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    I mean, I have about 300 journal posts…

    The importance is in that we want to find a pressure free method to manage chastity…
     
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    That's helpful.

    Low effort is different than pressure free.
     
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    I’m out at her whim (fortunately for me that tends to average a couple times a week) and then I’m immediately back in. Pretty simple system.
     
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    We use dice to decide a general lock up time. Usually I roll three dice and total is my days without release. Takes pressure off her and I decide my own fate in a way. There's exceptions though. For example every five foot rubs gets me an ask to get out of cage. Nothing is guaranteed but she'll usually let me out and let me take care of myself worst case.
     
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    So every 5 days? My wife loves her foot rubs :rolleyes:
     
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    My backstory really isn’t important to answer the question ‘how do you manage your lifestyle?’

    I understand where you are coming from, but I’m not looking for advice, I’m looking for 101 different options for my wife to decide upon…
     
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    I have 8 foot rubs banked up lol. I can cash them in for other stuff too like a footrub for a paddling while she teases my cage shit like that. To her a foot rub is a solid two hours or three episodes of whatever show we're currently binge watching. If I cashed them in every week to get off she'd probably say no way more often. Yeah foot rubs are basically currency to her though lol
     
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    I asked both Chat GP 3.5 an 4 on your behalf and it says your request is not appropriate. Sorry!
     
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    What does she want?
     
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    Must it be a game? I know, it may get boring if you don't play. It sounds to me like you're using it as a kink. So you're real question, is "how do you keep it kinky?"
     
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    You might forget about her opinion. I presume it’s your fantasy so you want to be locked. Why you don’t let your wife to decide? She holds the key after all.
     
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    I was trying to figure out same question. After all ideas i had I found solution. I just try to stay locked for longest period I can. I beg V3r0nika to keep me locked for this specific time. (she loves when I beg her) However even after this period it’s her decision. I’m doing this for her. That’s why she should decide. If she unlocks me it’s only for edge play or ruined orgasm mostly. (Hygiene ofc.) I’m not unlocked otherwise. I barely remember feeling of not being locked and it feels strange. I couldn’t be unlocked for week or so. I feel naked without my cage. She has same feelings without her key necklace
    So just let her decide and try your best in short answer
     
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    Of course the natural answer is you will strive to be under stricter and stricter control. Starts out easy and bar keep being risen. You both grow from the experience.
    Its like entering a challenge to run last in a mans world but winning in the real world.
     
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    I gave the keys to my Queen and said use them lovingly when you want. She gave me a week of piv last January on holiday. I hope for a repeat this January. It will mark a year. At times I can cum in the belt. My point in all this is she has the keys.
     
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    1. She's in charge, she gets all the sex she wants, how she wants it.
    2. If tantalizing you and a bit of the gambler's rush is appealing, I like the idea of dice games.

    For example, there is the Good Dice/Bad Dice game. Two sets of dice are rolled (can be two rolls or different colors, or an onile simulator). The good dice determine the time until relief is offered, the bad dice determine the duration of the session. Or maybe that's backwards, depends on your viewpoint.

    For example, roll 3d6: Good dice 11, bad dice 5, five (time unit) tease, and locked up. Good dice 9, bad dice 12, relief is offered after nine (time unit). The teasing lasts the longer duration of the two, for post-orgasm torment.

    The difference between the rolls is the lockup duration. In the first example, there will be a lockup for six (time units).

    The more dice, the higher the probability of a tie (which means no relief), and shorter lockups (tie equals next day, or any other arbitrary value), but the two dice sets to not have to be equal in number. If she is less than impressed with your behavior, she can add bad dice...

    She can also keep whether a relief is offered to herself, leaving you in the dark as to whether permission is granted, causing you to struggle to stop an imminent orgasm and delay asking permission to ejaculate.

    Fiddle with the time increments to taste, the first can be minutes or multiples thereof, the lockups can be days, weeks, or whatever fraction/multiple works.

    In general, work out guidelines she finds most appealing.
     
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    Erm. No. My periods of chastity are quite kinky yes… the real question is ‘how do you manage your lifestyle?’
    As in, what methods are there to sustain active lock-ups and periods of freedom that do not become a burden.
     
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    She will decide. Having a wealth of knowledge to help her make a good decision isn’t about this being my fantasy or not. I do love being caged. My wife likes who I am when I am caged. She also loves the periods of freedom….
    Just looking for some examples so that she can come to the right conclusions
     
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    To feel unrestricted on ability to have intercourse when the time is right.
    To eliminate her need to make decisions on sex or initiate.
    Ability to play with penis.
    Maintain the balance that chastity brings.
     
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    Horny male brains love to overcomplicate things.

    Stay caged, she gets what she wants.
     
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    Have her give the key to a friend who decides
     
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