Bitches

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There are no Women approaching men and calling you a worthless bitch though. You are seeking them out. If you are seeking them out and looking to be submissive to them, you have to honor their preferences. Once you get to know them better and they grow fond of you then they will allow personal name requests perhaps.

 

That is patently false. And second, if I approach a dominant woman I expect to be treated with respect as we're negotiating. Someone who starts off a discussion by violating some limits shouldn't be associated with

 

That is your preference though. Is something upsets you then you would tell her what is bothering you. If it is to much to deal with than you go your separate ways. Some people don't like to be called "sweetie" or "Mrs. bodman54" and they would consider it disrespectful the same way you view the term "bitch". It is a matter of what works for the individuals involved.

 

My point is don't start with terms that people might find offensive. That's no way to establish a relationship

 

Have you ever considered that maybe these Women might be getting in to your head? Which is the key to any BDSM or FLR. Maybe they are testing you or making you desire them more by irritating you at your core?

 

That's a terrible way to establish trust with a sub. What happened to open communication and negotiation when establishing a relationship?

 

Re-read the original post on this thread. LUCY is a highly intelligent person but still yet very underestimated by men. Where she says that they may not be looking to be mean or hate men, but they are doing it for another reason. The kind of relationship that you are seeking is a very different one. If we meet, we will have open communication and dialog. A Woman who takes on subs has a folder of endless men to sift through. She wants to know who is true blue and who is looking to play with themselves and move on.

 

But she was neither trying to establish a relationship with this particular sub or to test him. She lashed out in annoyance and was commenting on how he reacted. There is nothing wrong with wanting to determine that someone is a true sub but there has to be better ways than insulting someone who isn't comfortable with it

 

Would you be willing to do things that you are not comfortable with for the Woman that you are submissive to? This is the old debate that goes on in loops. If you are only doing what you are comfortable with then who is the dominant and who is the submissive.

 

The whole point is that until someone is in a dominant relationship every party should be treated with respect. Sitting at a table, talking as equals, hammering out what the boundaries are. Don't start by pushing those boundaries

 

My wife just calls me slave.

 

Personally I don't mind be called names by my wife but it's always in good humour or in a playfull manner.

 

What is said is always with context, while having sex and a woman saying to her sub, "who is the bitch now" is quite different to calling someone a worthless bitch when they have not lived up to expectations even though they tried in a non sexual way.

Many words can be used in many different ways just thinking of the most versatile ones lol..In the right context I dont mind being called anything, however in a demeaning context I would find it offensive.

Even though I am submissive to Mistress I like being useful to my mistress, I like her praise when I do something right and make her happy... I would hate her to call me a useless bitch.

 

Yep. I call my husband, 'slave' too most of the time because that's clear enough.Sometimes I use 'subby' to tease him if he's whining as he's chosen his own predicament.

 

My wife calls me "wanker". Even if it's not flattering, at the end of the day is what I am and what my sexual role in the couple is: she 's the one that fucks, I'm the one that masturbates.

 

I don’t care for those words in particular, but have a list of words and phrases that 'work' for me. My ladies don’t generally care for any of my favorite words, but still use them on occasion. They say that they’re like keys to unlock my deeper submissive tendencies and they use them, not because they like the words, but they like the state it puts me in, or as Ms. D says, "Tell me anything that turns you on and I will use it for my own purposes!"

 

I don't mind being called bitch or slave or sissy by my Mistress, with whom I have the FLR, but would be offended if called those names by anybody else. It's a matter of context and relationship, IMHO.

 

I’ve never been a fan of bitch, it seems over used in normal life that it’s silly in our routine. She did however use it once in front of a friend, which was oddly hot. We had a visitor and we were drinking in our bar. The wife said “get me a beer bitch!” My buddy about spit his drink out and waited for me to say something funny back, but I just smiled and did as I was told.

In general though it doesn’t do anything for me and not something we practice.

 

My wife has instructed her best friend to call me wanker too, they have a lot of fun...

 

Not to fond of the word 'bitch' doesn't mean a lot anyway because you hear it so often in society in general. Goddess just calls me 'slave' or 'slaveboy'... sometimes even 'good boy'.

Every now and then she'll throw in a derogatory name, usually when I'm right on the verge of entering subspace, because she knows it'll push me that little extra bit to get there.

 

My wife actually never used any of those 3 words. She usually goes with "little boy or tiny"

 

Guess what my wife calls me? Slave.

Sometimes, during bedroom fun, she calls me bitch.

 

Equals schmequals. I think relationships start in many, varied ways. Listen to what Winston is attempting to say. It doesn't have to start a certain preconceived way. Ever been to a play party?

 

Safe, sane, consensual. Aren't those the three pillars of BDSM? I don't consent to someone using those words in regards to me. And I would assume that at a play party, people would be hyper aware of what others do or not consent to. If a woman came up to me calling me a bitch or a worm I'd shut her down real quick. If she pushed the issue I'd complain to whoever the host is because she would be ruining my good time. Again, it's fine if you're into that. But assuming that every submissive you encounter is us selfish and wrong