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    So I am approaching the date we purchase my custom cage and step out of playing into a true chastity dynamic. I’ve always been someone to masturbate a lot. I’ve been in an orgasm control dynamic for a while now and I have struggled with it. Sometimes I have been bad. I haven’t had as much self control as I have wanted, and I fear that being caged up I’ll only serve to increase that drive. I find myself wondering how difficult this transition will be.
     
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    stick with it and enjoy
     
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    It will challenge you to loose your access.

    Stick with it.
     
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    Many of us were seasoned masturbator's! If the truth be told, all males masturbate way too much, me included.

    Being locked up in a chastity cage is going to really change your sexual desires. Once you realize you can not masturbate, you'll need to refocus all that sexual energy on something else, like your wife/KH, master, domme, whatever your relationship is. Serving someone other than yourself.

    That for me was the eye opening thing about chastity. When I'm locked up, there's nothing I won't do for my wife. She loves this to no end. My wife hates male masturbation. The cage took care of that.

    Sexual thoughts go crazy being locked up. You might learn something about yourself in this new process. Finally, when you're granted/allowed a sexual release, you're going to find how much better they feel to you. Deeper more satisfying orgasms. Hey, I was a lover of "production" orgasms all my life. 1-2-3 times a day LOL Now, maybe 4-6 times a year. When I'm allowed to release, at 67, I feel like i did when I was 20 YO. I cum so hard. It's so worth it Bo.

    Good luck.
     
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    You'll adjust, assuming you're getting more out of the new arrangement.

    Remember that for many (most?) guys cages aren't really escape/masturbation proof without a piercing or something, and it won't fix everything right away. But even if you can slip out important bits with enough soap or lotion, it's there as a reminder not to undermine the trust our KHs have placed in us.

    If you do stick with it, the hardest part of going full time might be developing the chastity dynamic with your KH that addresses your masturbation issues without turning your "Goddess" (from your introduction thread) into a service top. Being honest, communicating, and trusting her enough to let her take actual control of can be tough and take time for you both.

    Totally worth it though.
     
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    It will be a big adjustment. Surrendering your ability to make decisions on your own sexual pleasure isn't easy. But if you wish to give up control, and let your desires build up, then chastity and no masturbation will help. I hope you enjoy your frustration. Maybe you'll find that pleasuring your partner will become more important than your own self abasement. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    Day 3 will be the hardest.

    I am usually climbing the walls on day 3.

    Things will begin to calm down on Days 4-5.

    By day 7 you will begin to start feeling emotions you never knew you had.

    It is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT that you are checking in with your key holder constantly and consistently throughout the beginning. Tell them everything you are feeling and do not hold back.

    Your emotional state is going to be all over the place.

    I would recommend journaling your thoughts and feelings during the initial phase of adjustment and then share them with your key holder.

    You are in for a wild ride, just keep reminding yourself of why you are doing it.

    Above all remember, all the members of the Mansion are here for encouragement and support if and when you need it.

    Iso.
     
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    It’s a little bit of a different dynamic that I will end up having. I have two female partners, one Dominant and one Submissive. I am allowed the autonomy to use my Goddess’ property and to spill her cum with my submissive without asking permission. So I can essentially choose to cum whenever I wish, but I have limited the occurrence of it because I wish to respect the ownership by my Goddess as much as I can. Al of this has been thoroughly discussed with both of my partners and possibly effected metamours. I presently wear a ring for my Goddess around her property and have been wearing that 24/7 aside from removing it for showers and to be intimate with my other partner.
     
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    Like, a 7/10. I mean, it's easier if your keyholder is strict and your cage is secure because there's really nothing you can do.

    Nice cage, btw
     
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    Very well put.
    my experience sound almost identical.
    I am at day 169. This is the longest i have ever been without an "O" since i discovered masturbation. The intense frustration is put to use pleasing my Domina. My personal thoughts are an agonizing desire to cum. But i know that the only way that will happen is if i make my Domina happy and fulfill her needs. I am pierced and secured in her cage with a PA hook. I cant pull out and the shortness of the cage does not allow any moving or shaking the cage for stimulation. So she sleeps well knowing i cant cheat.
     
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    Increased daily energy. That's the biggest thing I got put of this. Don't want to go back despite my KH being passive.
     
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    If you stick with it. You focus will change to her and her happiness. At least that's become my driving focus.

    Pleasure will be from her control and enjoyments. Communication is important. Let her set the pace and course.

    Good luck.
     
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    I agree! Good luck!
     
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