A wonderful life

well said, I must say

 

I can see why you love him so much. My wife and I are at the start of this process and I honestly hope we can reach a similar place with our own relationship.

 

We are even more novices. In fact we are still working out what overall direction we want to take. We were talking last evening, and thinking back to when we met and wanted to shout our relationship out to the world.

We have a similar sort of feeling now and wonder whether we dare take that line. How will friends react? Will our adult relationships with others suffer? Will new adult friendships start? Should we show overt signals, and how?

The fourth paragraph in the original post really struck a chord. We too made a mutual decision, based on what we both want to do with no pressure either way. At the moment we aren't aiming for a permanent orgasm free life for Del, who knows whether that will change. We aren't trying to hit the record books for the longest time caged, or a reward/punishment regime. We are trying to rekindle that something "special" between us.

 

Mistress L,
The times DC and I have had coffee, and when he spoke of you, his eyes told the story. He didn't have to say words of love, his deep feeling towards you, his emotional ties to you. Words were not needed whenever he said your name. As soon as he would say your name, I saw all of those things in his eyes and more. It is truly amazing.

 

My wife and I have been in a chastity contract for only 18 days... She seems to be enjoying it as am I. We have kids that impact on our lives, but in the time I've been in chastity, Mistress has had 13 orgasms while I have had 1 ruined and 1 almost ruined. My last orgasm was 10 days ago... What am I thinking of??? I am horny, but I really am thinking of pleasing my wife. I want her to enjoy this experience as much as I do. When next I orgasm and whether it is full or ruined is totally at her discretion, but till then I hope to make her life better and I also hope to give her many more orgasms. I recognize that after only 18 days, my comments are likely a little weak, but that's where I'm at now...

 

@collaredmichael i feel the same way and I have only been doing this two months! We all have to start somewhere. We haven't gone as far as drawing up a contract yet, written or verbal.

 

I do wholeheartedly agree with Mistress L, her husband's response to the question is lovely. It is the type of response all married couples try to achieve whether they are involved in chastity or not.
As couples remain together, for any length of time, there can be a regular pattern that can lead to the same old thing all the time. As we consider ourselves "Newbies" on the chastity scene, the best thing about that has occurred in our relationship is the increased communication about not only sex, but our desire to help each other in the normal every day activities.

 

Reading the above is very encouraging for me, the first night here. I truly love my husband and although he is open, I have no desire for anyone else. We are rekindling a relationship of 20 years or so &I think of this as hot monogamy, followed by a new dynamic we are yet to fully enjoy. Looking forward to learning alongside you all.

 

Welcome my lady, we aren't the new kids on the block any more, as we have been here for all of three days!

We are also trying for a new dynamic though slightly different as we have always had an open marriage, and we don't think that needs to stop, though in future it will probably take a different direction.

Enjoy your journey, we are

Bren

 

I'm going through the exact same thing right now and wrote about it in one my posts. Wow, 11 to 1 or 2 ruined, that's amazing!

 

I often get bored with chastity and alot of times think, whats the point? She rarely has time for teasing so to me it feels alot like celibacy. I dont blame her for this, its the reality of our life with children and busy work schedules. Chastity for me is certainly not like the captions or hot stories I read. So why do we continue? Well I like to think to myself about how selfish that sounds when I want to quit. What would I do if we quit? I would probably just masturbate which in turn would make me feel sad and selfish again. My desire for her would disappear. Yes I desire her. I desire her more then she probably knows. I'll admit I probably dont tell her this. I should communicate better with her about my feelings, but hey, I'm a guy . So for me its selfish = bad, desire for her = good. Its really that simple. I may not be getting everything the way I want or how I want but when I do get the chance to show her its amazing and so worth it. She gets to be treated like she deserves to be. She gets to see how much I truley love her, by waiting for her, waiting for when she is ready for me.

 

It's the same with us, life keeps us busy, but when I'm chaste, everything literally becomes a tease for me. From watching her change clothes in the morning as I view her in her thong underwear with her backside turned towards me as she struggles to fit into her skin tight skinny jeans to the way her hips and glutes sway when she walks in front of me when we're out together. It all serves to just pour gasoline on my already ragging fire. She's picked up on those things and how much of an effect they have on me when I'm locked up, so she does them purposely now. You don't always have to be tied down to the bed and teased mercilessly to have your fire stoked.

 

Me too! Life is messy and usually getting in the way. Right now I don't expect any teasing just lots of denial as we get ready for Christmas, visit family (who are all in another country!) and basically do stuff that will leave us both far too tired for fun. The good thing is by the time it is all over, after Boxing Day, I will have been chaste for a good ten days making me raring to go and ready to blow!

 

Just imagine, as busy as you all are with holiday preparations, you are going to have to be around a lot of beautiful women wearing pretty holiday dresses with not even so much of an erection allowed.

 

For me Christmas isn't really a problem, it will be New Year's Eve. D

 

That's ok, mostly I am going to be around my 80 year old mother in law!

Don't tell my Wife I said that.

 

LOL ... We live 2k Kim's from our rellies

 

Lol, well, I get enough mental teasing to stave me off from just going shopping and seeing and admiring all the beautiful women. I never realized how many beautiful women were on this planet of ours prior to chastity. I just returned from lunch and saw a gorgeous blonde woman wearing a professional looking business suit and short skirt with high heels. She looked to be maybe in her late 40's or early 50's. Before male chastity, I never ever thought there would come a day where I would see a woman her age and admire her beauty to this large of an extent and feel such an enormous surge of sexual desire flow through me as a young 31 year old man. It's amazing how chastity has opened my eyes to reality in ways I never imagined possible.

 

even though you are "a guy" those are beautiful yet simple and honest thoughts...thanks for sharing & hang in there until you get to hang out

 

A while back my Wife was wearing some pajamas and one of the buttons on her top came undone. I could see a few millimeters of her right breast, I became incredibly turned on and couldn't take my eyes off of it!

 

Amazing what you see and appreciate when you know it's something you can't have nor can do anything about.
Being chaste can be a bit mind numbing. But a whole new awakening.

 

Currently she has had 35 orgasms to my 2 ruined and 1 full orgasm. My last and only full one since signing the contract was on Christmas morning... So that's why I'm horny... But if we didn't have kids her number would be much higher.

 

I am going through one of my low points right now where I feel like tossing in the towel with chastity. TRYING to keep my focus...but my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder has NO clue how much effort I continually put forth. I got her 3 of Georgia Ivey Greens books and Ian Kerner's book for Christmas and she stuck them in her nightstand....they will never see the light of day now. She wanted her toes painted tonight so I fox up, come out with my kit and she not once looks up from her smartphone..WTF is she.reading?!?! Try reading the books I got you instead dammit! I have bit my tongue, stifled my frustration AND accepted only 2 orgasms in a few weeks short of 4 years....yeah, I know, kids, careers, blah-blah-blah! I find the time and energy! ......siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh

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