Hello everyone, just introducing myself. I have been slowly, very slowly warming up to the idea of chastity over the years from reading posts, every once in a while looking at online stores and the cage selections. Eventually found myself looking at pics, captioned pics, videos and decided to take it further finally.... My wife and I have always been into fun tease/denial roleplay. It makes her incredibly wet to "pretend" to not let me cum, but she always does, even if I don't want to... hah. She doesn't know I decided to try out chastity yet, I just ordered my custom built device from Mature Metal (love the look of them for sure, as a Machinist, even more so) and am VERY anxiously awaiting it's arrival. I am going to present her an anklet with a key connected to it as a random gift, I love her feet by the way. I have teasingly told her before after she has learned I played with myself that she "better do something about it and lock me up" and it always makes her so aroused but she has never asked or inquired for us to actually dive into that type of play. I'm excited for her to discover what the key is for later on because I KNOW I can bring out her inner femdom side and I think our relationship will go to a super fun next level. Maybe it's a be careful what you wish for kind of scenario, but just thinking about how much frustration I may soon have to endure for her pleasure, quite frankly makes me incredibly excited, in fact I think i crave it. I plan to write about her reaction in this thread later on when it arrives, which probably won't be for some weeks, but you never know...
That is a large purchase for someone who has not locked up for a few months to see if the reality lives up to the fantasy. 90% of guys stop using their devices after the initial excitement wears off. Thinking and get aroused by it is not the same as feeling the need to orgams but you cannot. Also, the Jailbird is expensive unless you know exactly what sizing you need by wearing cheaper devices. You may end up sending it back and forth, paying for shipping and alterations. My measured ring size is not what works best for me. The gap that it comes with is too small for me. I had to make 2 round trips and pay more to get it altered after I bought it but we were committed to 24/7 wear as a lifestyle having tried it out on a CB6000. Just a head's up on the ankle bracelet. My wife has worn an ankle bracelet for 45 years. It has no meaning despite the porn you read online. No one ever thought she was a hotwife of cuckoldress. Wearing a key is very popular now and no one views it as having to do with chastity but rather a key to your heart. There are even charitable groups selling keys to wear around you neck. Last of all, my wife hated having a key on her ankle bracelet because it banged against her ankle as she walked. You seem to be believing all the stuff that you read online which is not reality. I am still working on getting my wife to be more dominant after 4 years and know that she will not change who she is but can play the role better. Surprising your wife with this may not be the way to go. Many wives think it is perverted, you do not love them anymore and refuse to do it. My wife called it fake sex for almost the whole first year. Wive tend to view our orgasm as proof of our desirability of them, and chastity as cock teasing. Hope you are not buying what the porn industry is selling because you may be in for a rude awakening. The best way to approach her is to start off with a game of teasing and denial, then introduce the Jailbird later on. I made the mistake of thinking Chastity was like I read about online. It is not, and it did not work until I disregarded all the BS I read online. Do it by taking baby steps and you might beat the odds of it working out for you, Don't join some who end up selling selling their Jailbird for a lose if you can even find someone with your exact measurements. You are learning to swim by jumping in the deep end of the pool rather than start in water not over your head first. Hope it works out but keep in mind that the fantasies in your head, are not in your wife's. Most wives do not want to dominate their husbands. Keep us posted and hope it works out as you picture it. In our heads everything goes as we want it. In real life not so much.
This all isn't coming out of nowhere. We have been together for 11 years nearing 12 and we both know each other very well. I have also been doing research for several years and have been in contact with Mature Metal. I realize the sizing may not be 100% perfect even using the testing rings. I have heard of others having to do send it back and fourth sometimes. That isn't a concern to me nor is the money an issue. Thank you very much for the post, it is great to hear from someone with a deal of experience already I definitely have some things I can think about. My wife loves ankle bracelets btw and the key is just for fun and only the both of us would know about it. Cuckolding is not something at all in our future my interest lies purely b the tease and denial aspect which is what we have been playing with already for the past 5-6 years. We will most likely be starting slow with the new device. I'm not entirely sure what you mean about my expectations and the porn industry, I may have gotten initial interest in this from discovering it that way a decade ago but it by no means is directing my expectations. I have been lurking this website for quite a long time, am an active member on fetlife and speak to people who are currently into the same play. Weather or not I continue doing it after a while, I will find out but I definitely don't want to find out using a cheaper device liable to break and be a totally incorrect size so nights are painful and sleepless.
Glad to hear you are interested and informed. One thing I did, which really helped in the transition is to wear it for awhile before handing the keys over. Not so much because you will change your mind, but to make sure it fits great and you can wear it for as long as she wants you to. I am glad I tested mine out for a few weeks, that way I didn't have to bother her with unlocking for this or that, and I think the more she didn't have to feel concerned for me, the better. Good luck with all of this!
This is my story. I'm an early 40s married male and my wife is just not interested in sex at all, or a pussy licking or anything. She has been that way for a decade. Perhaps 2 or 3 times a year if that. It feels like I'm being denied but without any of the teasing. So I've been wondering if that is why all those chastity captions are so hot to me even though I'm free to wank anytime. It's odd that being denied is very appealing despite that being exactly what I have, and I hate it. I just wish she was kinky and teased me sexually to make it fun even if we still only had sex rarely. It's even odder that she doesn't think rarely is an issue which is the kind of chastity caption that I find to be the hottest of all. Anyway, to explore chastity in secret, last year I tried a cumfree Loctober. I got 21 days in before dry humping the bed and cumming. Then earlier this year I tried again in January and did 30 days, but both times I was still watching porn and edging. I've dreamed of being locked up and teased and cuckolded by a hotwife (mine is not in the slightest bit hot) but most of all being made to lick her out daily. She says she doesn't like that, although after 3 or more months since her last orgasm she actually does. Either way by tongue or cock she always cums within a minute but only wants it once so I only get an orgasm from her if I choose the fuck but not at all if I choose to give oral. Once or twice though I've managed to cum inside her in less than a minute and then go down on her to finish the job but she finds that quite repulsive. She never gives blowjobs herself, hates cum and mess, and hardly ever gives handjobs saying she doesn't like giving them. I tried getting advice from r/deadbedrooms but the advice from there was only put up or get out. I don't want to get out, but today I took the next step in my chastity fantasy with a homemade device. I cut the bottom off a 60ml travel shampoo bottle, made a little hole near the new big open end and put it on my cock with a ribbon tied round my balls and through the hole. I've been wearing it all day (12 hours now) and it's amazing how many times my cock tries to get hard in a day that I've not really noticed how active it was before. The first time it swelled up and couldn't get very far was actually a very pleasurable feeling and then the attempted erection going down after also felt good. I went for a piss near midday and tried escaping but found that too difficult so left it on and felt quite proud of my self for not giving up. I've been out round town with it on, driving the car, sitting, standing etc and generally having a normal day since, just with a mostly constant feeling of the tie round my balls and a bit of air round the tip of my cock where it gets slimmer and the bottle doesn't. So just now I've ordered a cb6000. Delivered to work of course so the wife won't find out and I'm really hoping the packaging will be ok which it says it will be. I'm looking forward to a more comfortable fit with the wide base that I can press into me closer. I'm not planning on using a lock, just a string tie or something, and not wearing it when sleeping just in case the wife surprises me even though I want to try a night sleep with it on. My plan is to manage 3 months cumfree like my wife but without the edging that made me fail before.
I can totally understand where you are coming from and the direction you are desiring to take your marriage - as our situation is rather similar My husband and I did the weekend play dates with chastity, light bondage, and even sissy / adult diaper dress-up... and its rather amusing how it all got started but instead of putting all those details here, I think I may start a thread about it which honestly isn't something I considered till now Anywho... One thing led to another and he began checking out various forums and reading articles which ultimately led him to FLR (Female Led Relationships). He introduced me to the Mansion and now here we are. I bought him a locking collar from Wyred Slave which is something that even in his job, he can wear 24/7 and now we're 2 weeks into a 'contract' where he's locked 24/7 in a diaper (because of previous surgery we're having trouble finding a belt or cage he can wear) - however - the diaper is working because where you gents can see and even touch your package in a cage - in a diaper there's no seeing, no touching, can't even feel anything through it - and - bonus!! no bathroom privileges. I even made him start logging his trials and tribulations in a forum on here. We did however sit down and discuss all [ALL] of this out before mutually agreeing to graduate from weekend play to lifestyle. I read an article recently that said women are dominant by nature, you just have to draw it out and encourage her.. and after the past couple of weeks, I'd have to say that's absolutely true. I'm new here and to all this - but - if your wife would like another woman to talk to who is on a similar journey, feel free to point her in my direction. Best of luck in your journey - just remember go slow and enjoy the ride
Welcome @Codester to the mansion! You already have what many of us could only hope for... A wife that is actively involved in your fantasy. Do yourself a favor and open a dialogue with your wife about a device prior to springing one on her. I think that @Vinny has some sound advice (years of experience counts for a lot), but the truth is that neither of us know you or your relationship with your wife. If she is down with toys, then "Good on ya mate!" and good luck. Also Vinny has another good point: You are about to drop some good money and time (more valuable) on a product that you have to wait for, might not fit like you think it will, and definitely doesn't account for nocturnal erections. I get it. You know what you want to get. Here are a few things to keep in mind. Most of us are a pretty standard size. 45mm Base ring, 33mm internal diameter, but the length is up to you. Guess what? What if you get it wrong? Packaging, shipping, 1-3 week wait time, plus return shipping time. These are standard sizes on eBay. Also consider this... I love my device, but all of the spaces between bars, where skin pokes through... I become super sensitive to that. It feels like underwear has turned into sand paper. Sometimes I wish I had a fully enclosed cage... Guess What? Mature Metal doesn't show one on their site, but eBay has it. I'm just saying, you could be up and running by the end of next week. and if you have the sizing or the style wrong, order a new device and it's at your door in three more days. Save the big purchase for a room full of flowers when you give her the key.
Welcome to the Mansion from one Canadian to another. Your getting great advice. I also noticed that your a Machinist. That could become very useful for yourself and maybe other people here. Interesting