Variations in the “level” of desperation between sessions?

You need to be clear between locked up time and denied orgasm time, they aren't necessarily the same.

But.. the point is, if you have a KH, is your opinion that important? If she's happy and thinks you need more, then she's telling you you need more.

I think the more sessions and longer you go in them, the more it becomes a steady blissful mindset (lifestyle) and not a short term frustrating/pest thing from uncontrolled horniness. But "your milage may vary".

Sounds like your girlfriend understands it, you should follow her opinion, not yours or mine

 

For me it ebbs and flows. I’ll go days or weeks no more horny than usual and it just feels “normal” to me. Then I’ll have a tough day or two where it’s almost unbearable. I usually tell my wife when it happens, we’ll talk it through and things will settle down. There’s no rhyme or reason to when or why it happens. It just does.

 

I think there are a lot of variables. How long was your last lock without an O? How long were you unlocked and how many and what type of O's did you have? How much teasing is there between sessions?

We have been very consistent. Long lockups without an O. No erections. Short unlocks and right back in. I'm finding my neediness is growing with each session. She gave me two O's this weekend because of our anniversary. I'm hoping it takes the edge off for a little while.

 

Same here.

 

Submissive <> needy

I’ve been locked/denied for 45 days. The denial of orgasm makes me almost constantly horny but understanding that sexual intimacy now comes at the behest of my wife allows me to control my horniness. However, the moment she looks at me in a certain way, or runs her fingers over my thigh or calf if we’re cuddling on the couch I get ridiculously aroused and will pretty much allow her to do anything she wants with me. Sometimes that’s just teasing me for half an hour and then stopping.

it all serves to reinforce my feelings of submission which brings a sense of contentment and acceptance of my situation.

Once you understand that excessive neediness is not really that attractive and accept the inner peace that chastity/denial can bring, you’ll probably do a lot better.

 

Yup. The crazed horniness passes and is replaced with normalcy.

The first parachute jump is over quickly and you barely remember a thing. The second is better. After 20 it's somewhat like stepping out of a bus.

 

Agree with others, big difference between “locked up since…” vs “denied orgasm since…”

My wife lets me out regularly for PIV and general play, but I haven’t cum in around 85 days now… THAT is what drives the constant desire to her as she is the only one that has a key and can let me out. That being said, unless she wants to play I’m locked up consistently and she’s stated that I’m going to be denied “indefinitely” or until she thinks I need to have an O.

 

As far as the level of desperation that I feel during sessions of being locked, I find there is no rhyme or reason to it.
I’ve been off the charts with lustfull desire after 3 days and other times after an orgasm it takes 3 weeks to get there.
Then it’ll calm down for a while and then it’ll come back randomly.
Currently I’m at 40 days locked 24/7 only out 3 times for about a half hour each (for PIV with no orgasm for me).

I’m close to my longest, which is about 50 days. I don’t think my Wife wants me to cum and hoping she doesn’t make me come for at least another six weeks because I want to see what changes happen in me.
As much as I love being full of sexual energy, I hope that on some level it stops consuming me. At this stage when the horniness starts it’s bad.
I want to be able to work through that better than I do now.
Be able to block it out and focus on better serving my Wife OUTSIDE of the bedroom.
Not give a thought to the sexual pleasure that I desire.
I hope with longer lockups that I can evolve and become a better submissive for my Wife.
I do accept my situation and I really love it, so I can’t say that I need to learn to accept my situation of having a strict Keyholder.
I need to learn to properly deal with the emotions that my situation produces, and deal with them in such a way that doesn’t add even the smallest hint of stress or anxiety for my Mistress.

 

My first few lockups were (subjectively) much more intense, even though they were shorter, and I didn't get to play quite as much. I think that the main reason was self-imposed. I would be constantly fiddling with the cage, reading all the forums, and watching some chastity porn. My keyholder found it a bit draining to come home from work and find that I am a big pile of hormones.

Now we've gotten into a far more sustainable rhythm. I try to avoid self stimulation, and really focus on my keyholder's pleasure. As a result, we play most evenings. The intensity of horniness isn't the same, but am finding much more of an erotic connection now. Which is a good trade!

 

It's a challenge to remain focused on your mate's pleasure, but when I do, our intimacy is sooo much more frequent. Who would want to ever give that up???

 

I am on day 540 of forever. I get those desperate feelings all the time but I focus that on her, she knows I am getting there if I beg her to sit on my face.

 

That’s been our finding as well… the intimacy is so much more intense, especially during PIV sex when my orgasm isn’t the goal.

 

"incessant neediness was a bit of a turnoff for her," You might find that she starts to love that neediness.
My wife lives for it. It makes her so hot to ask me how I am doing and tell me how she loves me not being able to cum again, ever.