Ive always fantasized being blackmailed by a dominant woman who holds photos and videos of me. While surfing the net for such Ladies I have found many who are pro "play for pay" and read their sales pitch. I must say they know what a blackmail victim desires. I find it such a turn on to know (fantasize) I have no choice but to obey my blackmailer when told to do things I very much dislike. It turns me on to think of spending my life in total obedience to my owner. Reading the websites of Dommes offering blackmail ,and looking at their iron clad contracts that require the victim to submit the names addresses of family , friends , bosses co-workers etc, and reading there warning that this is for real and some even post websites of their men victims who tried backing out and there they are in full photo naked and there addresses and phone numbers posted ,with the suggestion we call the home and talk to the family member who answers and give them the web address. I feel like a moth flying nearer and nearer to the flame. As I mentioned on here I met a Dominant Lady I drive around and run errands for, she whips me with her belt from time to time ,but I loose interest after a week or so and usually don't reply to her texts for several months . This time Iv'e been catering to her for over two weeks and after talking about our likes and dislikes I'm growing more used to being her sissy bitch full time. I bought a jailbird cock cage and we agreed that I will wear it and keep the key until the chaffing stops. At that time we will go to the locksmith and she will take possession of the keys to the new pick proof padlock I will buy. This is very much a turn on , but I know I can always cut the lock off and be out of her life. Recently I have asked her to photograph me as I scrub her toilet while naked and kneeling by her vacuum, She has taken the photos and emailed them to . Once a year or so when I was ignoring her texts she thinly hinted at using the photos from back then against me if I didn't respond, so I'm confident she wouldn't hesitate if I gave her written permission like maybe a blackmail contract. My dilemma is that I can see myself in a sexual frenzie signing such a thing and being sure there is no way out , but deep inside I know I will at some point loose interest. While I'm in my sexual high the thought of loosing interest but still being forced to obey every command is very stimulating. That's all I can think of writing ,I know its like two completely different moods, but I'm a pisces and we chase our own tails.
It's certainly a dangerous game, but you seem to know what you're in for. Remember, it's not bondage until you want out and realize you can't get loose. As the site says, be careful what you wish for.
Promise yourself that you will only make a decision like that within 2 minutes of having an orgasm. If you still want it then, go for it.
If I made decision like that within two minutes of having an orgasm - it would probably be the wrong one.
Thanks Jessica , Yes , after writing the above post I j/o and the thought of being enslaved no longer was appealing, That was last night, this morning I'm still not interested in enslavement . Especially by a non pro. At least with a pro there is a buy out option, with my Lady I know there would never be one. Well now she's out of my mind for today at least , I'm going skiing .
My personal experience has some elements of "blackmail"! When my wife caught me wearing panties about 5 years ago, she reacted quite wildly with thoughts of my being gay, or not finding her attractive any longer, or whatever. After getting over that in a few weeks, she openly asked me if I really did like to wear lingerie and I told her yes, that I had toyed with those thoughts for years. She told me that, if I really wanted to dress like a girl, I should go all out and go to a lingerie store and to ask for a bra fitting. I took the dare and came home wearing a new bra and panties and showed them off to her. Taking her phone, she snapped some pictures of me and added some jewelry, nylons and heels and snapped some more photos. That began her unspoken dominance over me. I always knew that she has those pics and trusted her not to share them with anybody, so I kept my mouth shut and began my journey of doing as she requested. That evolved over the past 5 years into Her complete domination of me and my totally willing submission to Her. I suppose you could call it blackmail, but Her requests were never put in such terms. We both knew that She had those incriminating photos and, after She told me that She had made copies and placed them in a secure location, the unspoken threat of exposure was obvious! She now insists that I wear lingerie, heels, and cage whenever She is away from home and to do most of the household chores and I am very pleased to do so. I have been feminized and I find it remarkably fun to consider myself a sissy! I suppose that this just exemplifies to "Be careful what you ask for"!!!
We all have our limits. There are non-sexual things (cleaning toilets) that we can eroticize. For each of these things we can eroticize them most of the time, some of the time, or never. Sometimes you'll enjoy cleaning her toilet. Sometimes you'll resent cleaning her toilet but look back with excitement that you were made to clean it when you didn't want to. And sometimes you'll resent cleaning her toilet and look back with anger that she made you do that. It is not hard to imagine some life circumstances where you would have to say "no" to some request. Seems to me that a successful long term relationship would allow negotiation around shifting feelings over time. A good domme would allow this. You might later have to pay for saying "no", but that would be done at a time when it would be exciting and in a way appropriate for the reasons you said "no". I think we should try to live out the experiences we desire. It will work best if we are realistic about what the experiences are and how the fit into our lives. Keep looking until you find someone who understands this flow and you trust to push you at times and give space at other times. I think it is a rare person who wants to be a slave all of the time.
I agree @pokekey , and I think that a lasting relationship, FLR or otherwise, has to be based on truthful and open communication. Both parties need to know what the other is thinking and feeling at all times so that such can be taken into consideration. Wherever it evolves (and it will), it will have a solid basis in understanding.
The problem with this of course is that blackmail is against the law. If someone was dumb enough to actually send the pictures out they could find themselves in hot water. even if the victim agreed that it might happen at some time. For a (ex)partner to do it is abusive, no idea why a "professional" would take the risk.
Which is why some blackmail websites go out of their way to make sure they post things like "this a game" or an "experience of". However if you go down this route the whole concept of chastity could evaporate. For instance it's very hard to make a 'legally binding' chastity contract... On the other hand its still a risk that the information could leak and with the rise of 'revenge porn' type sites there's always a danger the information could go public - even if you wanted to sue after. (Which of course would draw even more attention to the matter.) Personally I might enjoy a little blackmail by a partner demanding say that I do the dishes and housework for a week. But handing that amount of control over to a stranger even if it was more of a threat than real. It's not for me. However if its what floats @Leiothrix's boat and he clearly seems to know what he's doing then more power to him.
Yes Pokekey , I remember being at a s&m club and speaking to a Master and his long term female slave , they said that they have to realize that sometimes " life gets in the way" . I remember thinking how wise that was . At the time I was living with a Dominatrix who was kinda on and off again. But the on times were fun.
Hey Kepoke, do you find your relationship more of a power exchange ,or more of a sexual thing that keeps you happy in your life style ? I only find it chastity sexual, and when not aroused I want no part of . I asked on this forum a year or more ago what men felt, and nearly all of them said it was the power exchange that they enjoyed. That really screwed me up and kinda still is hard to understand.
As for the legality of the slave contract : the loop hole I have seen is that the slave agrees that he needs to be brought out of the closet and is leaving up to his Mistress to guide him through life by whichever means she thinks best for him, and she will expose him to the world as she thinks it to be best for him ,to which the slave agrees . There's more fancy and legal wording sometimes , but you get the drift.
Which is still not legal. A contract can not circumvent the law. Extortion is illegal, contract or not. Plus, involving third parties in your sex life against their will is scumbag behavior, whether it's legal or not.
I do not think it is possible to have a legally binding contract for this - certainly in most jurisdictions. The best, usually IMO, is something to confirm consent to anything to which consent can lawfully be given. This covers a lot. This is a starting point only. Consent can of course be withdrawn. But if the wearer will appreciate that there will be consequences if he does.... :spank::spank::spank:
also breaking the rules comes at a price...you know the price in advance...so if you do break the rules you take the consequences if you dont want the consequences then dont break the rules thats why blackmail is an interest of mine as well unbreakable mental bondage
I've been giving this some thought. Perhaps the best way to start is with a contract for a limited time. A weekend or a week. She has control over you for that time and will expose you if you don't comply. After that time you get the documents back. If that works, do a longer time. This will let you have the experience you want with escape if living it full time does not work.
My mistress/ wife and I decided to do this after our first few failed attempts at flr relationship I let her take photos of me in panties lingerie and playing with dildos she keeps them hidden on an SD card we wanted a real flr which gives all the control and power to the Dom and it isn't blackmail if the sub signs over all rights of the photos ahead of time.. I have to trust that she will only use them if I try to quiet or disobey her with out this the sub has absolutely all of the control as they can quite at any time I know longer have that option.. Well I do but I will suffer life long humiliation in trying to explain the pictures to friends and family and I would never want that.. I do suggest being married and in a really solid relationship with someone you love and trust .. Giving these pics to a stranger is crazy as they do not care about ruining your life